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Don Juan
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I had an "aha!" moment this morning: I think I finally figured out this mystery about girls being attracted to "jerks" and not "nice guys". Maybe some of you already understand this, but it was a revelation to me.
It's not that girls like guys who mistreat them, or dislike guys who are nice to them - rather, they're attracted to attractive guys, who generally know they're attractive and in demand, and have therefore come to treat girls in a less than chivalrous way, i.e., they behave like jerks. "Nice guys", on the other hand, are generally nice because they're not attractive, don't have easy success with girls (and probably NO success with hot babes), and they therefore know that they have to be "nice" if they stand a chance.
If they don't enjoy success with girls in spite of being nice, it's not because they're being nice, but because they're unattractive to begin with, and even being nice won't help.
In other words, girls are attracted to "hot" guys - guys who are handsome, confident, happy, energetic, leaders, popular, athletic, well-dressed, wealthy, etc., etc., etc., period. If such a guy were nice, it would NOT be a turn-off to women. But such guys don't have to be nice - they can get pretty much any chick they want without too much trouble, because they are the "naturals", blessed with the good genes that give them the traits women are attracted to. Since they know they're in demand, and can easily get another chick any time (and probably have a few in play at any given time anyway), they don't have to kiss-up to girls. On the contrary - girls will put up with a lot of **** from these guys that they would never put up with from more ordinary guys.
Non-hot guys, those who are introverted, not as handsome, loners, quiet, non-athletic, non-leaders, etc., can't get away with NOT being nice to girls - they HAVE to be nice to them, or they don't stand a chance. And here we're talking about ordinary girls - not hot babes. Maybe if you aren't a natural you can NEVER get a hot babe, regardless of all the techniques you read about and practice, just like if you don't have the right genes, you can practice football all you want, but you're NEVER gonna get into to NFL.
Make sense?
It's not that girls like guys who mistreat them, or dislike guys who are nice to them - rather, they're attracted to attractive guys, who generally know they're attractive and in demand, and have therefore come to treat girls in a less than chivalrous way, i.e., they behave like jerks. "Nice guys", on the other hand, are generally nice because they're not attractive, don't have easy success with girls (and probably NO success with hot babes), and they therefore know that they have to be "nice" if they stand a chance.
If they don't enjoy success with girls in spite of being nice, it's not because they're being nice, but because they're unattractive to begin with, and even being nice won't help.
In other words, girls are attracted to "hot" guys - guys who are handsome, confident, happy, energetic, leaders, popular, athletic, well-dressed, wealthy, etc., etc., etc., period. If such a guy were nice, it would NOT be a turn-off to women. But such guys don't have to be nice - they can get pretty much any chick they want without too much trouble, because they are the "naturals", blessed with the good genes that give them the traits women are attracted to. Since they know they're in demand, and can easily get another chick any time (and probably have a few in play at any given time anyway), they don't have to kiss-up to girls. On the contrary - girls will put up with a lot of **** from these guys that they would never put up with from more ordinary guys.
Non-hot guys, those who are introverted, not as handsome, loners, quiet, non-athletic, non-leaders, etc., can't get away with NOT being nice to girls - they HAVE to be nice to them, or they don't stand a chance. And here we're talking about ordinary girls - not hot babes. Maybe if you aren't a natural you can NEVER get a hot babe, regardless of all the techniques you read about and practice, just like if you don't have the right genes, you can practice football all you want, but you're NEVER gonna get into to NFL.
Make sense?