Nice girl, Big boyfriend...

[Heckfoss]

Hey guys, this is my first post, but i have been reading posts on the forum for over a year. I've done pretty well with my situations by learning from you guys, but his new situation i need some advice.

I work with this girl that has been in a LTR for about 2 years. about a month ago she started flirting with me at work, and wanted to hang out after work and go drinking with me. I thought it was kinda weird so did my buddys, but i was into another girl at the time, so i just thought she was being friendly. we finally ended up drinking together at a party her boyfriend did not go, I ended up driving her home in the morning. One of my friends talked to her the next day and asked her what was going on, and she told them that she liked me a lot, but she couldn't like me because of her boyfriend. she also said that she would be jealous if i got with some other girl. She wanted to talk to me later that night and she told me that if she wasn't seeing her boyfriend that she would definatly want to be with me, but she basically saying that they would never break up.

now a couple days after that she kept asking me if i wanted to hang out again and drink and we finaly did last friday, she was sitting next to me and leaning on me the whole time and flirting. on the ride back to her house we were both drunk and in the back seat and she was resting her head on my shoulder and had her hand on my wrist.

my question is what should i do? she is still with her boyfriend and I know she likes me, and i like her. But i don't want to waste my time on nothing, and i don't want to get beat up (her boyfriend is a big guy and he is a boxer.)

 

[Evil-Rom]

Shw wants to "be with you" but doesnt want to break up with her boyfriend?

Can you say... ATTENTION WH*ORE?

Try for a kiss/f*ck close. If it fails, next.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

If you've been reading this forum for over a year, then you must be familiar with the 85/15 rule!!

Well she's using you for that 15% of attention that she doesn't get from her boyfriend. She's playing you bro, but I'd still use the kiss test on her and if its good go in and work your magic.



PIMP

 

[Ice Cold]

WTF r u guys talking about?

Originally posted by Evil-Rom
Shw wants to "be with you" but doesnt want to break up with her boyfriend?

Can you say... ATTENTION WH*ORE?

Well she's using you for that 15% of attention that she doesn't get from her boyfriend.

???

I think the monkey/branch theory applies better. **** her first and she will let go of her boyfriend.

Question is:
Do you have enough ballz to fukk her?

 

[Jasmine]

I think that you shouldn't waste your time on her. Back off for a while, act cool and busy and the truth will come out. She'll either chase you, doing everything she can to get you back (inc. dumping her boyfriend) or find some other poor soul to get what she doesn't get from her boyfriend (as pimp-sicle said)

Other than that, I don't think that you should waste any more time on her.

Be cautious.

Jas

 

[mongoose]

man what the fvck!

you should do one or the other.

1. fvck her (try to get intimate beyond kissing). ask her straight up what does she want from you. everybody wants something.

2. don't waste your time. she might just be playing you to get her bf jealous or something. do you want angry bf after you! also remind her she has no place being jealous of you being with another woman. i think she's playing you. to find out do #1.

 

[Kuen1]

Keep talking to her, and flirting etc. Take her out again and again and try for some kiss closes or whatever you can get. Then get your teeth knocked in by her big, boxer boyfriend because that is what you'll deserve if you keep messing with her. Stop trying to get the next mans girl, and get your own.

 

[Dale North]

Nothing much to add at this point. Just think clearly with your head, not your sexual interest. Trust me, things will become alot easier to handle.

Also, try thinking about things from an outsider's view.

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[studmuffin15]

WOW! there is some really fvcked up advice in these threads.

Look:

1.) she defnitely seems to be an attention wh*re and is using u for the attention she doesn't get from her bf. i agree with the first guy. if she was that into u and didnt care enough for her bf, she would think nothing of breakign up with him and going out with u. this justfiies this first point and should make it very apparent where u rate in her life (well below her bf).

2.) why would u even think of fvcking this girl? this situation could really get ugly pretty fast. if she still has feelings for her bf, and u start making advances and the bf finds out, do u want to deal with that shyt? how do u know she won't change her tune to protect her bf and tell her bf that u were coming onto her from nowhere? yea, all the djs are gonna step up and say fvck the bf u can take him, but why mess with a potentially ugly situation when there are plenty of single girls out there. u may be tough, but remember, there's always someone tougher!

3.) after identifying thie bytch as a user and attention wh*re, ignore her! that will drive her fukkin nuts and is the best way to get back at her.

my advice is to get this broad out of her head as fast as possible. she's taken, and she's bad news. go find some single girl with a more stable head if u want somebody to poke.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Everyones advice is right on the mark. She's using you to provide the attention she's not getting. You can use her too - bring her to parties/bars and use her as a pivot (if she's pretty) to hit on other games.

Guys should not be fools - if a girl is sweet and nice to you and you know she has a husband/boyfriend - She will always BE THE FIRST to cross the "cheating" line - never shall you force it. If she crosses that line.. then she wants you..but then again..girls who cheat are not the types you should consider long term value.

Later.

 

[mongoose]

changing my advice.

I skimmed over the part about the boxer boyfriend.

don't fvck with this chick at all. this situation could get ugly real quick. she can tell him that you were coming on to her and bib boxer boyfriend can re-arrange your face.

stop messing around with her and find someone single. do it tactfully however. if she gets mad, she might tell her bf you've been flirting with you.

 

[myfriendblu]

Absolutely DO NOT hook up with this AW. She is obviously having some low IL issues with her BF. His size, or more importantly, fighting ability, has nothing to do with this situation. Regardless if he can kick your azz or not don't mean squat. he could have 3 people beat you up. Or use a baseball bat/weapon. So thats not the issue. The issue is, you should KNOW BETTER if you have been here for awile. This is without a doubt a no-brainer. Its simply NOT WORTH THE HASSLE AND DRAMA. Bottom line. Go find yourself a single girl.

 

[jakethasnake]

Wow.... that settle that, then! Good advice.

 

[studmuffin15]

yup. getting ur azz broken by a hot-headed bf should never be an issue when ur chasing a chick who's taken, and shouldn't be taken into consideration...it means squat!

PUH-LEEZ

of course it's an issue...not THE issue, but an important one nonetheless. if ur gonna chase a chick who's taken, would u chase a chick who's dating mike tyson? or would u chase a chick who's dating johnny pocket protector from the physics lab?

there's a lot of nutty guys in this world. if ur gonna attempt to intrude on one guy's territory, at least make sure u are picking a fight that even if u can't win, u at least won't get killed.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by studmuffin15

there's a lot of nutty guys in this world. if ur gonna attempt to intrude on one guy's territory, at least make sure u are picking a fight that even if u can't win, u at least won't get killed.

Your missing the point. Females are NOT WORTH fighting over in the first place. Win or lose, a fight is a fight. Its just not worth it. Go find a single girl. What if he beats this guy up, but breaks his hand over the guys face? Then what? A broken hand over some chik? Thats the most AFC thing I have ever heard. Its not like he is protecting what is rightfully his. It is NOT his girlfriend. So fighting isn't even an issue. the issue is, this guy has NO CHIKS on the backburner. NONE. If he did, he wouldn't even bother with this drama.

 

[studmuffin15]

ur absolutely right -- no chick is worth fighting over. i agree with u 100%. <BUT> my point is, if ur gonna be AFC enough to fight over a chick, at least pick a battle u know u have a good shot at winning. whats worse than not getting the chick AND getting ur azz kicked?

 

[jakethasnake]

No guys... there IS one "chick" that is definately worth fight "for". That would be your wife. Well in this case, you really would have to fight FOR her (as in for her well-being and safety), and not fighting "for" her (read: over her). You have a duty to protect her. Otherwise, yes, women aren't worth fighting for.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

It's not worth it

It doesn't matter if this guy looks like a dork, he can still do some harm to you, bruh. (Rent Unfaithful if you haven't already seen it)

It seem like too many cats on this site have the "doglike" mentality of always following the b*tch. These cats are just like the canine who gets hit by a car b/c he smell pvssy from across the street.