the305 said:
if you want to get laid more, you do not next a girl over such petty things, you be persistent, to a degree obviously,
if you think sending 1 text messages a month later is a "waste of your time" you are delusional.
i advise people to take the most optimal route to get the girl they want, not some silly technique to cut off all chances of sleeping with the girl you want to sleep.
case closed.
So what say you to the hundreds of posters who routinely sit here and wonder:
"I texted her but she hasn't texted me back."
"She flaked on me last month, so I decided to give her a month and she accepted, but she flaked on me again."
"She didn't know who I was when I texted her."
The fact of the matter is that a lot of new posters or inexperienced daters will try to "persist" as you put it, but if they failed once, it's likely they will fail again. What makes us think that much of anything changed in a month? If their IL was a month ago, do you honestly think that a month will change that perception of you? In all honesty, I've found that most women have an idea of how they size you up from the very beginning. I don't see how sending a text message a month later helps.
Sure, it's technically not a waste of time.
But to the many that are beginning to embark on this journey of "trying to bang", it's a perilous road down a slippery slope. They try again a month later and get no response, or they do and it isn't favorable. Maybe it was someone they pedestalized and after a month, they text and there she is back on the pedestal.
Not only that, but she got an ego boost and some validation from it.
Sure, persist, but persist when you know there IS a chance. Other than that, what would the point be? I only recontact women that I have "slightly" nexted on MY own accord, not on theirs. If the frame is firmly in their hand, why waste time... and yes, it can become a waste of time. A lot of guys who post here will send a text and then sit by the phone expecting a response or wondering why it takes her 4 hours to send one back.
When I NEXT, I do it because the woman does not add any value to my life. The moment she begins to have a negative impact even before she has a positive one, she's done for.
i advise people to take the most optimal route to get the girl they want, not some silly technique to cut off all chances of sleeping with the girl you want to sleep.
And what then when SHE is the one to cut off all the chances FOR YOU.
NEXTING comes from the basic thought of: Something went wrong, so I'm moving on from this one.
Posters' problems here usually stem from women nexting them and you're telling them to persist?
Are you sure you want to take such a broad view on this?