This is long, but juicy. Man, I love this ****.
In short, my question is how harsh/cold should I be when I'm NEXTING a chick, and should I call her out on it?
I don't want to be a whiny spineless dweeb. I don't want to be an unreasonable hothead. But I ALSO want her to know I'm not a fool, I'm wise to her ways, and she can't pull the woll over my eyes.
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The Backstory:
We're in class together until next week. We sit together. We flirt. Alot. I ask her out. It went OK. I'm not supplicating, I occasionally call her on her BS. I ask her out again. She waffles. I stand my ground, and we agree to grab some beers & play pool last night.
I have a GREAT day, I'm in a good mood. Confident, self satisfied, looking good. I show up, and she's dressed up a little....boots, good jeans, black top, hair & makeup done.
On the LAST break of the night, she flakes. Gives me puppy dog eyes, etc. and says, please don't be mad, etc. Explains that her friend is moving back to Philly and is having a dinner party that night. Wants to spend time w/ her before she goes. Tosses out a token "let's get a rain check date" for next week, but doesn't beg for a specific time.
So, my BS detector is going off like crazy.
Her: "So are you mad?"
Me: I kind of roll my eyes. Tell her to go w/ her friends. I say "Would I rather go out with you tonight? Sure. But the world won't end if we don't do this." I tell her, "Look, I want this to be fun, not a chore.... If we go out and you're feeling guilty b/c you're not hanging out with your friend who's moving, then it's not going to be fun for any of us."
Two minutes later, when we're on a different subject, talking about somebody else, I look at her directly and say, "I judge people by their ACTIONS, not their WORDS....as far as I'm concerned, that person is full of BS." I think she gets the hint, without me directly ripping on her.
At this point, I'm 100% NEXTING her, but I'm trying to avoid pouting or being a cry-baby.
HERE'S THE GOOD PART...
After class, pulling out of the parking lot, we go the same direction home. Since the date is off, I decide to go to the coffee shop. Which is in the same direction of the GYM that both she and I belong to. On a whim, I drop by the gym parking lot and guess what....I SEE HER CAR.
Old Toyota w/ Ohio plates. In California.
So now, I KNOW 100% she's played me for a fool. Got dressed up to lie to me, then went to the gym instead.
So my question is: Do I call her out on it?
I feel like I was pretty strong in my response when she flaked. Not whining. Not an unreasonable hothead. Not a fool.
BUT I would LOVE to somehow show her 100% that I know she lied to me. I know I'm NEVER going to ask her out. The only question is how cold should I be? Should I confront her? If this somehow turns her on, and she asks ME out, what do I say?
In short, my question is how harsh/cold should I be when I'm NEXTING a chick, and should I call her out on it?
I don't want to be a whiny spineless dweeb. I don't want to be an unreasonable hothead. But I ALSO want her to know I'm not a fool, I'm wise to her ways, and she can't pull the woll over my eyes.
******
The Backstory:
We're in class together until next week. We sit together. We flirt. Alot. I ask her out. It went OK. I'm not supplicating, I occasionally call her on her BS. I ask her out again. She waffles. I stand my ground, and we agree to grab some beers & play pool last night.
I have a GREAT day, I'm in a good mood. Confident, self satisfied, looking good. I show up, and she's dressed up a little....boots, good jeans, black top, hair & makeup done.
On the LAST break of the night, she flakes. Gives me puppy dog eyes, etc. and says, please don't be mad, etc. Explains that her friend is moving back to Philly and is having a dinner party that night. Wants to spend time w/ her before she goes. Tosses out a token "let's get a rain check date" for next week, but doesn't beg for a specific time.
So, my BS detector is going off like crazy.
Her: "So are you mad?"
Me: I kind of roll my eyes. Tell her to go w/ her friends. I say "Would I rather go out with you tonight? Sure. But the world won't end if we don't do this." I tell her, "Look, I want this to be fun, not a chore.... If we go out and you're feeling guilty b/c you're not hanging out with your friend who's moving, then it's not going to be fun for any of us."
Two minutes later, when we're on a different subject, talking about somebody else, I look at her directly and say, "I judge people by their ACTIONS, not their WORDS....as far as I'm concerned, that person is full of BS." I think she gets the hint, without me directly ripping on her.
At this point, I'm 100% NEXTING her, but I'm trying to avoid pouting or being a cry-baby.
HERE'S THE GOOD PART...
After class, pulling out of the parking lot, we go the same direction home. Since the date is off, I decide to go to the coffee shop. Which is in the same direction of the GYM that both she and I belong to. On a whim, I drop by the gym parking lot and guess what....I SEE HER CAR.
Old Toyota w/ Ohio plates. In California.
So now, I KNOW 100% she's played me for a fool. Got dressed up to lie to me, then went to the gym instead.
So my question is: Do I call her out on it?
I feel like I was pretty strong in my response when she flaked. Not whining. Not an unreasonable hothead. Not a fool.
BUT I would LOVE to somehow show her 100% that I know she lied to me. I know I'm NEVER going to ask her out. The only question is how cold should I be? Should I confront her? If this somehow turns her on, and she asks ME out, what do I say?
