I would suggest it's much more instinctive than that. A good to go women is the prime directive for all men, whether we like it or not. Humans wouldn't have conquered the Earth otherwise. It's EASY to second guess on the Internet, while your not FEELING any of those emotions that drive human procreation, which ARE the most powerful emotions a man will feel.
I absolutely agree with you. We are driven by our prime directive. However, in my opinion, our biological impulses can be overcome by experience and learned behaviors. One can even argue that developing reactions based on learned behaviors is, in itself, a biological impulses.
It's not dissimilar to talking smack on the internet about how you should only eat 2K calories a day of certain fats, proteins or whatever, and then forget all that nonsense when you've got a plate of chili cheese fries in front of you.
Our animal instincts control us much more than we'd like to admit. Even to ourselves.
Agreed. But, to some degree, YMMV.
Personally, it's sheer dumbluck that I didn't get married to a similar woman that many of the posters here married. A few years ago, I was in an LTR with a girl that (now looking back) absolutely had borderline personality disorder, but I failed to see it. Everyone else around me saw how crazy she was, but I couldn't see it. As luck would have it, I was activated by the military (I was a reservist) and stationed far away from her. She was unable to come with me due to other commitments and cheated on me not a month after I left. I was devastated at the time, but, looking back, I got extremely lucky....because I would have gone all in on that one.
Since that woman (and a few after her), I've learned a lot about myself and how I respond to women. I tend to get attached very quickly. So before I allow myself to even begin that process, I make sure that I've fully screened her and know, with a high degree of certainty, what I'm getting myself into (of course, there always will be a bit of mystery at first and things may not always be as they seem....but, in general, I've been pretty on recently).
Of course, I will readily admit that I am not the average human and that I think very differently from most people. So I do not expect my experience (and my handling of situations) to be the normal response.
I suppose there was an ancient race of caveman who took a lot of rational thought into whether or not to bang that good to go cave girl. But while they were thinking, some other caveman banged her and those rational thinking cavemen didn't pass on those rational thinking genes, since they were too busy stroking their chins to ever get laid.
The thing is though that society has GREATLY changed since the days of the caveman. Presumably, the caveman preceded prostitution. It certainly preceded feminism, porn, and reproductive technology.
These days, you can have your sexual needs met without leaving the house. And you don't even need a partner to reproduce (though, for men, it will be costly).
These privileges were not available to cavemen, who, basically, had to fight to reproduce and had to fight to get and keep a woman. All we need to do is jump on a plane to a third world country and we're set.
