Newly divorced ... what would you do?

[Desdinova]

The ending of a marriage can really fvck things up. When mine ended, I thought I'd be perfectly fine. She was never home, so I figured I'd have no issues letting her go. That was true, but something else showed up that completely caught me off guard. I discovered how desperate and starved I was for female attraction. I developed one-itis for the first two women I dated after my marriage ended. I didn't really kill it until after I got into a 9-month relationship with a woman I wasn't particularly physically attracted to.

It'll take some time to get your head on straight. Give it a year or so. You also need to figure out what you really want at this point in your life. For me, I don't want to live with a woman nor find a life-long companion. All I really want is a hot woman by my side, be it long term, short term, or in multiples. All I want is to enjoy a sexy babe.

The second woman I dated after my ended marriage is currently a fvck buddy. The reason why she could never be more is because she's a full time single mother with two kids. Her only free night is Saturday night, which rarely works for me. She's absolutely amazing in bed, but lousy relationship material.

I'm not saying that you should get into a FB relationship with this woman. You need to ditch her for at least a year and move on with your dating life before you can re-kindle ANY kind of relationship with a past lover. You should seriously eliminate this woman from you life (for now) and focus on getting some more dating experience under your belt. The more you date, the less desperate you become.

 

[MikeBrown30]

Do I keep her as an FB or trash her?

What can I say, you're an idiot, and that is being polite. After all the advice that was given, you still became engaged to her? Don't keep her, fu<king run. This sh1t should go into the archive, everyone knew what would happen and it did. As long as you learnt your lesson (a year long lesson). And seriously, sending her ex a message through Facebook, saying to leave her alone? Facebook is for attention seeking teens.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Holy crap dude! I would just walk away from that one man, no FB no nothing. Look man crazy chicks screw awesome, they do all the cool stuff you want them to do but the problem is THEY ARE CRAZY! Crazy people are capable of doing anything... or anyone. Do you want that life of chaos for yourself... and your children!?

 

[Iceberg]

Do I keep her as an FB or trash her?

Keep her as a FB.

You can't let a great catch like her walk out of your life.

 

[The_411]

The achillies heel of a newly divorced, newly widowed, or low self-esteem man is the BPD woman.

She makes everything seem awesome and makes you forget your misery until the trap has been sprung and you start seeing the real her which is a twisted and manipulative sociopath. But you're in to deep you are trying to find that fake facade she fronted and you're constantly wondering what happened to that amazing girl I fell in love with ...

Guess what she doesn't exist and never did. It was all a grand lie and manipulation.

She's not x (nice, polite, witty, charming) but y (mean, rude, boring, repulsive)

The girl of your dreams has become your worst nightmare.

Shake yourself .... no tail is worth the hell/wrath/scorn of a BPD woman.

 

[Szyzzlin]

Divorced or not divorced...

You're still a guy with a million options in the future. Take every opportunity to meet single women. Stop them on the street, grocery store or gas station and ask them out.

Do this enough and you will eventually get what you want. What do you have to lose??

 

[divorcedlol]

The ending of a marriage can really fvck things up. When mine ended, I thought I'd be perfectly fine. She was never home, so I figured I'd have no issues letting her go. That was true, but something else showed up that completely caught me off guard. I discovered how desperate and starved I was for female attraction. I developed one-itis for the first two women I dated after my marriage ended. I didn't really kill it until after I got into a 9-month relationship with a woman I wasn't particularly physically attracted to.

It'll take some time to get your head on straight. Give it a year or so. You also need to figure out what you really want at this point in your life. For me, I don't want to live with a woman nor find a life-long companion. All I really want is a hot woman by my side, be it long term, short term, or in multiples. All I want is to enjoy a sexy babe.

The second woman I dated after my ended marriage is currently a fvck buddy. The reason why she could never be more is because she's a full time single mother with two kids. Her only free night is Saturday night, which rarely works for me. She's absolutely amazing in bed, but lousy relationship material.

I'm not saying that you should get into a FB relationship with this woman. You need to ditch her for at least a year and move on with your dating life before you can re-kindle ANY kind of relationship with a past lover. You should seriously eliminate this woman from you life (for now) and focus on getting some more dating experience under your belt. The more you date, the less desperate you become.

Thanks a lot for that advice. I completely agree with everything you've said. My divorce really did put me in a position to make some serious bad judgement calls, even after all the great advice I've gotten from you guys here. I will never make these mistakes again...guess I had to learn in the hard way!

What can I say, you're an idiot, and that is being polite. After all the advice that was given, you still became engaged to her? Don't keep her, fu<king run. This sh1t should go into the archive, everyone knew what would happen and it did. As long as you learnt your lesson (a year long lesson). And seriously, sending her ex a message through Facebook, saying to leave her alone? Facebook is for attention seeking teens.

Agree 100% ... definately learned my lesson ... like you said though everyone knew it would happen and it did. Wish I didn't waste a year on this one!

The_411 - So right on bro!
Iceberg - LMFAO!
SgtSplacker - You're right that is the problem! lol ... No more crazy for please!

Thanks for all the great advice everyone!
Time to move on, a little over a year too late lol

 

[divorcedlol]

OK....
So she smashed my television during our relationship on one crazy night. She's coming on Tuesday or Thursday to pack.
She verbally agreed to pay for it back...Now that we're over I'm seriously doubting she'll ever pay $2500 after we're over. So before I release her **** that she still has in the place I"m living at can I get her to sign a contract to on paper agree to what she's already verbally agreed to replace after she smashed it, or can I take her to small claims court for retribution? Or am I in a spot where I have no options and have to eat it?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Keep her as a FB and get STDs with all the dudes she is smashing. I don't understand why guys wife up jump offs. You should have entered the "relationship" knowing that she is a jump off aka just a NUT.

Just eject from that b!tch and don't contact her. She is a nutcase.

 

[divorcedlol]

Keep her as a FB and get STDs with all the dudes she is smashing. I don't understand why guys wife up jump offs. You should have entered the "relationship" knowing that she is a jump off aka just a NUT.

Just eject from that b!tch and don't contact her. She is a nutcase.

LOL

 

[Vantagepoint34]

What can I say, you're an idiot, and that is being polite. After all the advice that was given, you still became engaged to her? Don't keep her, fu<king run. This sh1t should go into the archive, everyone knew what would happen and it did. As long as you learnt your lesson (a year long lesson). And seriously, sending her ex a message through Facebook, saying to leave her alone? Facebook is for attention seeking teens.

Facebook brings back memories lol Mike your totally right about facebook

 

[VinnyFromGermany]

Even Napoleon had his Watergate.