Newbie...help!

[ladym]

Ok, firstly, I'm not a guy.
Secondly, I know I'm probably not welcome here.
Thirdly, I need some advice.
I'm 24, single and recently met a guy. He seems grand but not enough for me really. He thinks he's God in bed & to be honest isn't. Anyway that's not all that I've issue with, he doesn't want a relationship & even though I agreed to that at the start cos he's a celeb in our parts, dead hot & assumed he'd be killer between the sheets I want out.
But how?! I can't seem to shake him! Everywhere I turn him, or one of his team mates is there ruining any chances I have...any advice? I've tried it all...being mean, not returning calls/texts, refusing sex...How do I get rid of me enough so I can find a man better suited to me?! It started with me liking him & him laying out his plan to not fall for me but he honestly can't take the message now. Help!

 

[KontrollerX]

You'll just have to tell him directly your intentions.

No other way around it since you've tried that and its failed to register with him.

Also anyone is welcome on this site so long as they post intelligently and don't troll which is pretty much standard for any forum out there.

So welcome.

 

[ladym]

Thanks for the welcome! See I think I may have been initially pursuing him...and I really don't think he's worth wasting any more time on. I've been really cool to him in front of his friends & blanked him at games & he's still smitten. Do I really have to do the whole kissing someone else in front of him thing? Cos I'm not that cruel but will if I have to.
Any any tips on finding a 'nice' man? I've enough of footie players & rugby players on my tail to fill a stadium but want to find someone I actually love...

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

KontrollerX is right. You just have to let him know how you feel.

If that doesn't work just forget about him and move on with dating other guys. If that still doesn't work then, you need to go to drastic measures.

 

[MacAvoy]

She's already told him her intentions and that didn't work. I would tell him that he's lousy in bed and that if he doesn't start leaving you alone, your going to start telling his team mates how lousy in bed he is.

Either that or sleep with one of his teammates. Or lie and say you did. Either 2 will work if he's not a sociopath.

 

[j0n024]

Agree with mac...I mean you made another post about wanting to leave an "Impression," on some other guy but your having trouble with this guy wtf! I think the only way to end this is have the guy you dont want meet at your place AFTER you invite the guy you wanna sex up and have your sex and whatnot and when the other guy comes it will be awkward he will be hurt and you will have made an enemy . The only bad thing I see is that you will be labeled a slut and since he is a celebrity his opinion will have weight and you might get shunned but do what you want it's your life.

 

[ladym]

I've not slept with this guy in 2 weeks...seriously don't want him, I honestly think he only wants me around for functions & pictures & I don't really like him so I'm not that bothered! I think kissing Mr.New Guy is the way forward...in front of him!

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Start billing him for your escort services. That's what he seems to be using you for. (sorry I don't have anything better)

 

[ladym]

I think the way to go here is to ring him with a whiney voice & say I want to talk...then start ranting...I've never done this might I add but I've heard it works a treat...

 

[ladym]

Footie player, I don't name names though. All I'll say is, he's got issues!

 

[ego]

ladym: You never watched Sex and the city? that show give great advice.

Just kidding. You should just ignore him. If you start calling him and all he's just going to believe that you want to "sort things out" so you can "get back together": That's sort of like giving him a second chance.

Remember that hope is the last thing we let go of. Don't talk to him anymore and you'll be fine.

 

[Obsidian]

Listen chick, let's start out by explaining how your post makes almost no sense whatsoever:

1. You say that you were never in a relationship with this guy, yet you also say that he's obsessed with you and won't let you dump him.
2. You say that an entire football stadium would rush to have sex with the wonderful girl that is you, yet you also say that this guy and his friends are ruining all your chances.
3. You say you're looking for true love, but you also seem to be a promiscuous hor.

Now my advice:
Quit being so emotional and just deal with the situation rationally. As best I can tell from your incoherent post, you slept with a guy and got him hooked on you, and now you're not even mature enough to tolerate the fact that he's obsessed? What do you want -- for him to wholeheartedly accept the fact that you're dumping him? Just do the mature thing and tell him you don't want to deal with him any more -- and then IGNORE him if he persists. I find it seriously doubtful that his friends would go out of their way to ruin your chances with other guys just because you dumped their friend. The majority of guys don't act that way.

Your reputation as a promiscuous slvt may be following you around and harming you, but that's something you can't avoid except my moving somewhere else. And kissing someone else in front of this guy will only worsen that element of the situation.

Most of all, quit trying to manufacture drama out of thin air. Your post reeks of it.

 

[zack77766]

She's already told him her intentions and that didn't work. I would tell him that he's lousy in bed and that if he doesn't start leaving you alone, your going to start telling his team mates how lousy in bed he is.

Either that or sleep with one of his teammates. Or lie and say you did. Either 2 will work if he's not a sociopath.

Ouch harsh.... But I think it will work. This guy has good advice. Or you could stop seeing him and replace him with another guy.

 

[Answers]

Any any tips on finding a 'nice' man? I've enough of footie players & rugby players on my tail to fill a stadium but want to find someone I actually love...

Lucky you! So a stadium full of men still isn't enough to find the right person?? Like Obsidian I can't see what the big problem is. All I see is you're in a situation most women would dream of and you're still not happy. Try figuring out that problem.

 

[ladym]

Ouch! That kinda hurt. As for being a slut, far from it. I didn't say I'd slept with the other lads, they're decent enough to want to go out with me. I'm going to go off lads altogether for January & lay low. We're from a fairly small place where stories spread fast so I think no stories for a while should help. I appreciate the honesty though. As for drama, well I wouldn't be a woman if I didn't love a bit of it but not this much thanks.