New Years Eve Dilemma

[NeverSplitTheDiffference]

Context: I am 29 years old, I have been with little over 15 women and I just came out of a LTR, where there was unlimited sex till to point of an almost complacency. I have recurring income that pays most of my needs but I am working on a new business that's in an start-up stage.

It's again the time of the year for NYE, I've been tackling the dilemma of whether I should go out and meet women at whatever event there is in my area or stay home, read and work on my business.

I just finished reading "The Rational Male" and I am still in early stage of my new business but I have been "relaxing" due to injuries for the past 3 years and half and not working full throttle on my business since then. I am reminded that "I don't waste time chasing money but I can waste time chasing women".

So I am wondering what people are doing for NYE when they are conflicted between going out there and celebrating or just focusing solemnly on their purpose and do their time (and/or until my business starts up nicely).

I've had successful businesses in the past, I fight, I work out, I hunt, I fish, I read and I don't find or make the time to go out and meet women, I try dating apps but they don't really work because I don't have enough interest to spin them as plates.

I guess I'm looking for advice on whether I should just go out to any NYE tonight and/or someone older or who has more experience to tell me that "all comes with time if you keep working on yourself, nothing is wasted" kind of thing...
I wonder if it's just better to stay home, watch porn and get it over with so I can go back to focusing on reading and working on my business. I am also reading "The Art of Seduction" and training on dating apps and telling myself that once my business is up and running and I've finished that book, I will have a new and fresh perspective on life and women.

Edit: I forgot to mention I am a recovering alcoholic and substance abuser so I am entirely sober, ergo I don't drink or smoke 420

 

[Chow Mein]

Just go to your local bar, you’ll have a good time connecting with people that are likely in the same dilemma as you - male or female.

 

[BPH]

If you don't drink, why is this even a consideration?

If you go out you'll just be uptight, slightly pissed off, because you won't be having as much fun as you thought you would and will regret your decision to "waste" your time not working on your business.

In most cases I would say to just go out and have fun. I've gone to enough NYE events to realize they're too expensive, and overhyped. If you weren't sober I'd have suggested just going to a local bar or celebrating with some friends.

 

[SW15]

I've gone to enough NYE events to realize they're too expensive, and overhyped.

NYE is often a disappointment for a lot of single, unattached men. It is often worth skipping expensive and overhyped events. It's also not a good feeling at midnight if everyone else is kissing someone and you aren't. That's a lousy way feeling to start off a new year.

I am wondering what people are doing for NYE when they are conflicted between going out there and celebrating or just focusing solemnly on their purpose and do their time (and/or until my business starts up nicely).

I've had successful businesses in the past, I fight, I work out, I hunt, I fish, I read and I don't find or make the time to go out and meet women, I try dating apps but they don't really work because I don't have enough interest to spin them as plates.

I guess I'm looking for advice on whether I should just go out to any NYE tonight and/or someone older or who has more experience to tell me that "all comes with time if you keep working on yourself, nothing is wasted" kind of thing...
I wonder if it's just better to stay home, watch porn and get it over with so I can go back to focusing on reading and working on my business.

Staying home is an acceptable use of a New Years Eve. Don't watch porn though. Porn is not good for your game. I am a huge proponent of no porn and no masturbation. It helps me seduce women.

It's more difficult than one would think to find yourself a kiss at midnight with random people at bars.

 

[Clockwerk50]

It’d be better if you were going with a group of friends somewhere or with a date.

If you have neither of those I suggest just staying at home.

 

[BeExcellent]

NYE is way too expensive. Porn is just another dopamine hit substitution too however, so be careful there.

If you can find something chill to do, go do it. Maybe take yourself out for a good walk & think & figure out what direction is best for you in the new year. See where the evening takes you, but respect yourself and your sobriety.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

NYE is often a disappointment for a lot of single, unattached men. It is often worth skipping expensive and overhyped events. It's also not a good feeling at midnight if everyone else is kissing someone and you aren't. That's a lousy way feeling to start off a new year.



Staying home is an acceptable use of a New Years Eve. Don't watch porn though. Porn is not good for your game. I am a huge proponent of no porn and no masturbation. It helps me seduce women.

It's more difficult than one would think to find yourself a kiss at midnight with random people at bars.

When I was single, I used to hit North Beach in SF, solo, for NYE. Had some crazy nights out there. NYE as a solo guy can be a blast.

 

[DJVision]

I'm perfectly happy spending NYE on my own.. no alcohol.. I don't watch porn.

Just a cup of tea and a podcast. Life is good.

 

[Solomon]

Yeah if you don't drink or smoke which I salute you for, not doing it's best to stay up, stack up on XRP and if you're not familiar learn about it
It's about to be everywhere, i promise you #XRP

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Personally I always hated New Year's Eve unless I was out DJing at a club and getting paid like 5-10x my normal rates.

Way overcrowded, way too expensive and way too many drunk drivers ready to end your life.

If it was me, the decision would be easy. Stay in.

 

[Barrister]

I wouldn’t be worried about what to do on NYE, OP. It’s an excuse to go out and drink. Nothing else. If you want to stay in and make money, do it; and don’t worry about what others think of that. Tomorrow when they’re waking up with a hangover you will have been industrious.

As a DJ you know there’ll always be women on the horizon for you to meet. NYE isn’t really any better time than any other to meet women other than crowds being bigger at bars. Not necessarily any easier per se though. So don’t let “meeting women” be a reason you feel pressured to go out.

 

[SW15]

NYE isn’t really any better time than any other to meet women other than crowds being bigger at bars. Not necessarily any easier per se though. So don’t let “meeting women” be a reason you feel pressured to go out.

Crowds are bigger on NYE but not necessarily better. It's amateur hour. The talent pool is weak and many places are sausage fests (even more so than usual). Lots of unattached men going out thinking that women are down to party and will be seeking sex that night. It's not like that. In addition, because it is amateur hour, there are more couples and more drama.

People can get same night sex on NYE (early in the AM hours of January 1 usually) but the degree of difficulty getting that is higher.