new year problem

[spd]

what do i do. i cannot go out and meet girls because i do not have any friends. some new years i drink alcohol by myself to avoid any sadness although usually it makes me more sad about an unhappy year etc. i am nervous about new years i think it will be like every other ive had, is there anything i can do which will not involve any humiliation? keep in mind i would rather stay at home again than risk humiliation or shame. if i go out alone people who know me may see me going out alone like a desperate reject, which will be humiliating and shameful and i would rather be alone than that. if i make friends now and try and go out with them that is needy and desperate. the alternative is to stay at home and have to listen to the fireworks outside and know people are likely having sex. yes maybe you think i am being dramatic and emo, but new year has always been a terrible time for me.

to make matters worse i have exams a few days into January.

 

[V-Don]

Listen... read a lot of the 5 star material on here.

Also, read and look at other seduction material.

Most of all. The problem is not the girls. It's you. Do your research and go out there.

Your biggest problem is fear. So, study the DJ Bible, talk to guys that get a lot of chicks and GO OUT THERE.

Rejection seems to be your biggest weakness. We cannot overcome our fears, until we confront them. So, you need to face that fear... After being rejected many times, you will see that it's no problem. In fact, you will laugh later. Trust me, if you don't have a lot of friends, can't catch girls and think that having friends has anything to do with catching girls, you are typical AFC.

Im sorry, but posting on the forums will not solve your problems. I million men can post a million messages... You need to RESEARCH and PLAY the game. I know I am being redundant. But, it's true.

Your confidence is the one thing that is hurting you...
Start working your game now. You'd be surprised what happens. GO TO IT.

I know you can get laid, tonight... if you believed it and had enough experience.

HOWEVER... BEFORE YOU START GETTING THE LADIES>>>>>>>

Start from scratch...

I recommend you fix your self-respect and inner ambition problems. You need to build yourself and respect yourself in order for someone else to do so. It's
1. self respect and confidence 2. Everything else... Don't get it backwards...

Unfortunately, no one can teach you how to respect yourself. You need to bring that out yourself. Who is the man you feel you should be? That is what you need to think you can become....

 

[spd]

Listen... read a lot of the 5 star material on here.

Also, read and look at other seduction material.

Most of all. The problem is not the girls. It's you. Do your research and go out there.

Your biggest problem is fear. So, study the DJ Bible, talk to guys that get a lot of chicks and GO OUT THERE.

Rejection seems to be your biggest weakness. We cannot overcome our fears, until we confront them. So, you need to face that fear... After being rejected many times, you will see that it's no problem. In fact, you will laugh later. Trust me, if you don't have a lot of friends, can't catch girls and think that having friends has anything to do with catching girls, you are typical AFC.

Im sorry, but posting on the forums will not solve your problems. I million men can post a million messages... You need to RESEARCH and PLAY the game. I know I am being redundant. But, it's true.

Your confidence is the one thing that is hurting you...
Start working your game now. You'd be surprised what happens. GO TO IT.

I know you can get laid, tonight... if you believed it and had enough experience.

HOWEVER... BEFORE YOU START GETTING THE LADIES>>>>>>>

Start from scratch...

I recommend you fix your self-respect and inner ambition problems. You need to build yourself and respect yourself in order for someone else to do so. It's
1. self respect and confidence 2. Everything else... Don't get it backwards...

Unfortunately, no one can teach you how to respect yourself. You need to bring that out yourself. Who is the man you feel you should be? That is what you need to think you can become....

the problem IS the girls what are u talkikgn about. also why do u capitalize like that, it hurts my eyes.

 

[V-Don]

the problem IS the girls

i do not have any friends

i drink alcohol by myself to avoid any sadness

usually it makes me more sad about an unhappy year

is there anything i can do which will not involve any humiliation?

keep in mind i would rather stay at home again than risk humiliation or shame.

people who know me may see me going out alone like a desperate reject,

which will be humiliating and shameful and i would rather be alone

if i make friends now and try and go out with them that is needy and desperate.

the alternative is to stay at home and have to listen to the fireworks outside and know people are likely having sex.

yes maybe you think i am being dramatic and emo

DUDE, that all came from YOU! Read the DJ Bible and some 5 star posts on here. Hopefully, you will look back on this post and realize... well... I shouldn't say it....

 

[V-Don]

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

 

[spd]

people who know me may see me going out alone like a desperate reject,

which will be humiliating and shameful and i would rather be alone

if i make friends now and try and go out with them that is needy and desperate.

the alternative is to stay at home and have to listen to the fireworks outside and know people are likely having sex.

yes maybe you think i am being dramatic and emo

DUDE, that all came from YOU! Read the DJ Bible and some 5 star posts on here. Hopefully, you will look back on this post and realize... well... I shouldn't say it....

i do not deserve humiliation at this point. when i was younger i was bullied and had to watch the girls have sexual relationships with the bully. girls rejected me just on the basis that i could not win fights against the bully and was under constant abuse which i had no choice but to take. the problem IS girls. i remembered when i talked to girls while people were throwing paper balls at my head, they look at you with pity and disdain instead of giving you a chance. and then go on to have fun with the same people throwing paper balls at you. all throughout high school i got no girls. i want all of that time back, every second of it, and i don't want any more humiliation or disrespect from women. i have had enough from them. if i have to go through disrespect from *****es any more i will show them what it feels like to put down less powerful than someone, and rape them.

 

[V-Don]

i will show them what it feels like to put down less powerful than someone, and rape them.

See, that's what im talking about...

Ok, you went through a rough period in high school. I went through hell just to get to where I am. Much worse than bullying and humiliation. Try having your skin ripped off by "family." But, this is not "who suffered the most" contest. Dude, everyone has had hard times. Just because, there are some girls willing to bone, Mr. Bully. Doesn't mean all girls are like that.

You are making two fatal conclusions.

1.You will never how good a woman can be, because your self-image is so low. You don't believe it, but it's true.

2. You think women have something to do with your humiliation. I admit, that it was terrible that some GIRLS rejected you, but listen... they were simply stupid. Dude, high school chicks are not a representation of all the women in the world. Also, most of the girls I knew that were boning the popular guys were not my type or they went no where.... You can't blame all women for some *****es in your high school. Yes, *****es exist, but not all women are *****es.

Also, high school girls and women are hardly the same thing.... I mean, if you define the girls that humiliated you as real women... Well, dude you have a lot of work to do.

I say the problem is you. Because, you seem to have some personality issues and somethings you have yet to solve inside yourself. Anyways, I hope you can face this.

IT'S YOU, DUDE.

 

[spd]

i will show them what it feels like to put down less powerful than someone, and rape them.

See, that's what im talking about...

Ok, you went through a rough period in high school. I went through hell just to get to where I am. Much worse than bullying and humiliation. Try having your skin ripped off by "family." But, this is not "who suffered the most" contest. Dude, everyone has had hard times. Just because, there are some girls willing to bone, Mr. Bully. Doesn't mean all girls are like that.

You are making two fatal conclusions.

1.You will never how good a woman can be, because your self-image is so low. You don't believe it, but it's true.

2. You think women have something to do with your humiliation. I admit, that it was terrible that some GIRLS rejected you, but listen... they were simply stupid. Dude, high school chicks are not a representation of all the women in the world. Also, most of the girls I knew that were boning the popular guys were not my type or they went no where.... You can't blame all women for some *****es in your high school. Yes, *****es exist, but not all women are *****es.

Also, high school girls and women are hardly the same thing.... I mean, if you define the girls that humiliated you as real women... Well, dude you have a lot of work to do.

I say the problem is you. Because, you seem to have some personality issues and somethings you have yet to solve inside yourself. Anyways, I hope you can face this.

IT'S YOU, DUDE.

omg what are you talking about, no girl wanted me, yet many girls wanted the guys who bulleid me. EVERY girl there looked down on me for being bullied and were not attracted to me. and don't bs me about skin being ripped off, i ripped off my own skin for fun one time. physical pain is nothing.

and wtf is this **** about high school girls and women? the same women in my college now, WERE high school girls. and they do not like talking to me. there woudl be terible humiliation if i asked them out. and in hs, i got NOTHIGN while they had FUN and SATISFIED bastard men(see capslock sucks). dont bs about just because they boned xxx, that affects me because i had to know about it and know i was getting none of it.

 

[j0n024]

I gotta say your sad and you have my pity cowboy(Toy story lol). I say move, move somehwere else where you know noone and noone knows you and make a new identity for yourself. I know some people might get mad at me for saying this but you should go over to that DJdan thread and see what happen to him he was a nerd and had noone just like you BUT he changed now some people are angry about who did what to him but the point is he CHANGED any now women love the douche!

IF your at all serious about changing this and "Raping" women then I suggest you make a New Years resoluting about changing your life otherwise you will be the same the next new year....if you dont want to change and just mope about then I have nothing more to say to you good bye and good luck.

 

[CrunchyNut]

Forget this New Year. It is a dead duck. Instead of partying, you are going to prepare to change next year. Study for your exams and do well in them. Start the year feeling good about something!

I know a guy who was at high school with Adam Brody. Apparently he was the biggest geek there. Look at him now. Just because you got bullied and shot down then, it does not mean squat now.

There are a lot of guys on here who were virgins until their late teens and beyond. Again, that means nothing. Time is on your side, but YOU have to CHANGE. No girl is going to be interested in you when you are being bullied, because you are being bullied.

Help yourself. Find something you are good at-anything-it will give you confidence. Go to the gym and get buff-no body would bully you then. Find some new friends and girls. I once read a statistic that stated that 92% of a person's opinion on you is made within 4 minutes of meeting you. Im not sure if it is accurate, but it makes sense. After being at high school with these girls for years you are going to struggle to change their opinion of you. Everyone struggles to change peoples opinions of them.

Instead, start to find enjoyment in things. Join the gym, eat better. Read the DJ bible. All of these make you feel better about yourself. Go out and meet new people, ones with no preconceptions of you. These people will respect you for who you are now, not who you were in high school.

Like V-Don says, the problem is you. Change it.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Forget about women and focus on your exam! That's more important. Aren't the bars open on new years? Go to a bar and hang out. Maybe, your neighbors will be having a party you can get in on.