jackofasses
Don Juan
Alright, let me start by saying that i'm new to your forums but I have been getting the DJ daily e-mails for tips and tricks with women. However, being new, there are many things that come in those daily e-mails that are missing the important fundamentals. But before we get to the fundamentals, I think i should share a bit about me.
I'm 24 years old, 6'2" blond hair (well actually i'm bald now because I shaved my head), blue eyes and right now am 30 lbs overweight at 260lbs. It drives me nuts that i'm slightly overweight, even though girls and even the guys at work say I don't look 260. ( I am though, I used the industrial scale at my work and that's pretty precise.)
Anyway... Some days I don't feel like i'm a bad looking guy, alot of girls I talk to or friends and stuff say that i'm a decent looking guy. Those days are few and far between however. Most times i'm pretty depressed and unsatisfied with how I look (being fat and ugly mostly) and it all comes down to when I was younger. (I know it shouldn't affect me at all because it's just kids being stupid but hey man, find me someone who can shrug off 14 years of insults and then we'll talk) But anyway, confidence is an issue. Another thing that makes it worse is that I currently live with my dad. After 6 years of being mostly independent I had a rough few months where everything went to hell (lost my appartment because the roommates split up, mom got diagnosed with advanced ovarian cancer, lost my job so couldn't afford a new place, etc.) so I moved back with him for a kind of temporary pause and reset on life.. but that made me move away from my comfort zone and about 8 hours away from all my friends.
Wow, this post is starting to sound like a real downer.
Anyway, i've also been somewhat involved with a girl from texas (i'm in canada) whom i've never met. Yeah, the whole internet relationship no no thing. And it was going well up until recently. But I really like this girl and really don't want her to get away. So I want to find a way to peek her interest again and make her think that a relationship is worth the effort (and all relationships DO take effort, I don't care what anybody says.)
At the same time, I need to get out, I need to meet people. I need to network and make friends. I feel like I need that to build up my confidence and in general, I just need alot of help. But I don't want to go out to the parks alone and randomly talk to strangers, and i'd more than likely look like a complete moron walking into a bar alone trying to make friends. i've managed to meet a nice younger couple through a nerdy hobby of mine, but again, having nerds swarming around probably won't help my case in meeting people who can help my confidence.
Now, in terms of meeting girls (not to replace my texan lady but just to meet new people because randomly walking up to guys and being like "hey,nice shirt, be my friend." would probably get me punched in the face.) I know that initial eye contact is important. Do me a favor, help me figure out how to make eye contact WITHOUT staring at the girl and creeping her RIGHT out, and how to know if it's the 'good' eye contact or her just glancing around at the other people in the area, the bus, whatever.
Man this post is random... can you tell i need help?
I'm 24 years old, 6'2" blond hair (well actually i'm bald now because I shaved my head), blue eyes and right now am 30 lbs overweight at 260lbs. It drives me nuts that i'm slightly overweight, even though girls and even the guys at work say I don't look 260. ( I am though, I used the industrial scale at my work and that's pretty precise.)
Anyway... Some days I don't feel like i'm a bad looking guy, alot of girls I talk to or friends and stuff say that i'm a decent looking guy. Those days are few and far between however. Most times i'm pretty depressed and unsatisfied with how I look (being fat and ugly mostly) and it all comes down to when I was younger. (I know it shouldn't affect me at all because it's just kids being stupid but hey man, find me someone who can shrug off 14 years of insults and then we'll talk) But anyway, confidence is an issue. Another thing that makes it worse is that I currently live with my dad. After 6 years of being mostly independent I had a rough few months where everything went to hell (lost my appartment because the roommates split up, mom got diagnosed with advanced ovarian cancer, lost my job so couldn't afford a new place, etc.) so I moved back with him for a kind of temporary pause and reset on life.. but that made me move away from my comfort zone and about 8 hours away from all my friends.
Wow, this post is starting to sound like a real downer.
Anyway, i've also been somewhat involved with a girl from texas (i'm in canada) whom i've never met. Yeah, the whole internet relationship no no thing. And it was going well up until recently. But I really like this girl and really don't want her to get away. So I want to find a way to peek her interest again and make her think that a relationship is worth the effort (and all relationships DO take effort, I don't care what anybody says.)
At the same time, I need to get out, I need to meet people. I need to network and make friends. I feel like I need that to build up my confidence and in general, I just need alot of help. But I don't want to go out to the parks alone and randomly talk to strangers, and i'd more than likely look like a complete moron walking into a bar alone trying to make friends. i've managed to meet a nice younger couple through a nerdy hobby of mine, but again, having nerds swarming around probably won't help my case in meeting people who can help my confidence.
Now, in terms of meeting girls (not to replace my texan lady but just to meet new people because randomly walking up to guys and being like "hey,nice shirt, be my friend." would probably get me punched in the face.) I know that initial eye contact is important. Do me a favor, help me figure out how to make eye contact WITHOUT staring at the girl and creeping her RIGHT out, and how to know if it's the 'good' eye contact or her just glancing around at the other people in the area, the bus, whatever.
Man this post is random... can you tell i need help?