okay about me ..i'm 15 from NJ, & that's all i'm going to say for now. Anyway, I'm in love w/ this girl named Maria. All I do, everyday, nonstop is think about her. I think about how beautiful she is, I think about her perfect smile, I think about talking to her & getting to know her better. About a month ago, I saw her working in a pizza place I've never gone to called Tacconellis. I'm a big pizza fan & I heard it was voted best pizza in philly. When I saw her there, I couldn't believe how beautiful she was. She smiled & said hi to me, & I said hi back. I instantly fell in love w/ her. Anyway, I'm a really shy guy so, instead of finding her in school to try to get to know her better (I'm in none of her classes) I decide to talk to her on aol. So she got on & I talked to her & she was like "wow this is really weird I haven't talked to you since like, 6th grade" anyway, she had to go & she said if she got on later she would IM me. well she never got back on. anyway, that was that. a couple days later in school she waved to me & smiled & i saw her & totally *****ed up ..i was like "oh hey whats up? but like in a really shy way lol, & went to my homeroom." it was really sad. now i've been waiting for like, a couple of weeks for her to get online. she hasn't gotten online *no she hasn't blocked me* & people say it's because she just moved in to a new house. & i don't even think she goes on very often anyway, so ..anyway, my plan was to tell her the next time she got on how much i love her, & tell her everything, about the first time i saw her in the pizza place, & how shy i get when i'm around her b/c she's so beautiful. but she hasn't gotten on, & i'm getting really annoyed. people have told me to tall her, but she moved into a new house so her phone isn't in the directory, & anyway i wouldn't know what to say to her. people tell me to talk to her in school but she's always talking to somebody & I'd be wayyy to shy for that. now, i heard about a week ago or 2 that has a boyfriend from a different area. i don't know what to do, i'll never get over her. i love her sooo much. i can't get over her. what the hell do i do? i wanna be w/ her so much, i wanna be w/ her alone. i wanna ask if she wants to come over, i wanna do so many things. i wanna touch her, i wanna love her, & i want her to love me. please, tell me what i gotta do!
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See those three stickies at the top of the board? Read them, learn them, and then post again. WAY too much for me to criticize in your post, even though I was there to a lesser degree several months ago.
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Hello Salzmano...
To start to deal with your situation, here is a little tip. Start using more terms that are generaly used in this board. We rarely use the term "in love" here as we prefere more "oneitis". I think is better because makes your frustration sound less painful and makes you feel less emotionaly fycked up. Also oneitis is the disease of DJ's while love is a way to keep AFC's frustrated. You are one neophyte DJ now so you have to think like one.
As for the girl you are messing, i would suggest to put her out of your way for a while. Come often here, read the Bible, aplly it, practice, improve your self and socialize with many more women. Once you see results, if you still like her, you may go after her with your new set of skills. If you go with your current plan you will get the big R (Rejection) or the LJBF. Both of them are GOOD things to have from girls that you don't care, but not from this one. So improve your tactics, improve your guns, practice on rabits and dears and then go out to hunt the big lion.
To start to deal with your situation, here is a little tip. Start using more terms that are generaly used in this board. We rarely use the term "in love" here as we prefere more "oneitis". I think is better because makes your frustration sound less painful and makes you feel less emotionaly fycked up. Also oneitis is the disease of DJ's while love is a way to keep AFC's frustrated. You are one neophyte DJ now so you have to think like one.
As for the girl you are messing, i would suggest to put her out of your way for a while. Come often here, read the Bible, aplly it, practice, improve your self and socialize with many more women. Once you see results, if you still like her, you may go after her with your new set of skills. If you go with your current plan you will get the big R (Rejection) or the LJBF. Both of them are GOOD things to have from girls that you don't care, but not from this one. So improve your tactics, improve your guns, practice on rabits and dears and then go out to hunt the big lion.
Cloud-uk
Master Don Juan
Ouch! Boy got it bad! Yeah, read the stuff at the top and post again. You are NOT in love. With the state of mind you are in, this girl is a dead loss to you, try not to talk to her.
In a nut shell mate, girls like confidence, fun and good looks. Of course, after a while you wont give a **** about what girls "like"- but we're jumping the gun a bit there.
Read up, and put this stuff over anything you think is a good idea- trust us on this, the stuff here will improve you life, including your sex life. I know these replies may seem a little dry, but all he basics are there in the bible and the stickies.
Welcome to the site...
In a nut shell mate, girls like confidence, fun and good looks. Of course, after a while you wont give a **** about what girls "like"- but we're jumping the gun a bit there.
Read up, and put this stuff over anything you think is a good idea- trust us on this, the stuff here will improve you life, including your sex life. I know these replies may seem a little dry, but all he basics are there in the bible and the stickies.
Welcome to the site...
misunderstood??
Master Don Juan
Oh man.. there's ALOT you can learn and alot you can improve on. You're lucky you found this site, just stick with it and give the stuff on here a shot and you'll be so much better with girls and life in general, trust me, it's happened for probably all of us who gave this a place a shot.
First things first, read the stickies at the top of this board, that's a great start. Read some of the articles on the main page and check out the tips forum also. This will give you a great idea of what to do and give you some insight on your situation because there is alot that you could have done better. You will now have a good foundation for the knowledge you need and then all you have to do is put the things you read about it in practice and start to develop skills. Don't be shy to post here for help along the way and don't mind some of the harsh responses, they mean well.
To help you with current situation, I say forget about this girl, her interest in you is very low and the best thing to get her more interested in you would surprinsingly be nothing (sort of). Don't bother trying to talk to her, it won't help you any. Instead talk to other girls, find new girls to try and get with that aren't so intimitading to you so that you can improve with girls. Everyone has to start somewhere and it's usually not the top so don't feel bad if the girls aren't as attractive or great as this girl because at least you're not wasting your time and your time is more important than this girl you're talking about. As you start to improve yourself and your skills with women don't be surprised if this girl comes to you wondering what happened and why you guys stopped talking. Basically my advice is forget this girl and just work on improving yourself because there's lots of work to be done
First things first, read the stickies at the top of this board, that's a great start. Read some of the articles on the main page and check out the tips forum also. This will give you a great idea of what to do and give you some insight on your situation because there is alot that you could have done better. You will now have a good foundation for the knowledge you need and then all you have to do is put the things you read about it in practice and start to develop skills. Don't be shy to post here for help along the way and don't mind some of the harsh responses, they mean well.
To help you with current situation, I say forget about this girl, her interest in you is very low and the best thing to get her more interested in you would surprinsingly be nothing (sort of). Don't bother trying to talk to her, it won't help you any. Instead talk to other girls, find new girls to try and get with that aren't so intimitading to you so that you can improve with girls. Everyone has to start somewhere and it's usually not the top so don't feel bad if the girls aren't as attractive or great as this girl because at least you're not wasting your time and your time is more important than this girl you're talking about. As you start to improve yourself and your skills with women don't be surprised if this girl comes to you wondering what happened and why you guys stopped talking. Basically my advice is forget this girl and just work on improving yourself because there's lots of work to be done
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
When I came to these message boards in October I was in a similar situation (except I wasn't as desperate). I've learned a lot from these boards, and the guys are right, read the bible. It's the first thing you should do when you get on these boards. It has just about anything in it, it explains why there is no such thing as love, it explains how girls think, and even has guidelines which to follow so that you know exactly what to do. Often, at first you will feel like some stuff in the bible is BS, and that it might apply to the average guy but not to you. But trust me, I felt the same way, and now my views changed completely. Also, shyness, nervousness and insecurity is not something you should show a girl, so no matter what DON'T just come up to a girl and say "Hi, I really love you and I had a crush on you since kindegarden and my room is full of your pictures and I have a statue of you in my room to which I pray every day, but I'm a complete loser so all this time I've been thinking about oyu and how to tell you this and now I finally decided too." Girls hate insecure guys, no matter what type of girl it is, shy, slutty, sweet, *****y. It's in their subconciousness, they want guys with confidence. And here is another thing, telling a girl that you love her scares her away from you unless you're already in a long-term relationship and she can't live without you. So if you tell a girl that you love her, don't be surprised if you see her cross the street next time you see her walking towards you. This is because when you tell someone you love them it creates this feeling of possessiveness, and they don't want to be possessed by someone they barely know. Imagine if someone came up to you on a bus stop and asked you to marry them even though you never saw them, what would your reaction be? And like others said, for now try to stay away from her, you'll definatelly scare her off with the insecure mood that you're in now. Maybe even ask a girl or 2 out before you start doing anything with that girl, because believe me, it feels very different between the first time you ask someone out, and the second. Also, try to get rejected when you ask one of the girls out, because only after you get rejected you will see that it's not as bad as you thought it to be. perhaps it would even be better for you if things didn't work out with that girl, because then you wouldn't develop your oneitis and would get over it.
PiHiPlaya
Master Don Juan
wow, is that post a joke? ahhahaha that cheered up my night!
wow dude, read the stickies, read the bible, do the bootcamp
you're be a new man in a few weeks
wow dude, read the stickies, read the bible, do the bootcamp
you're be a new man in a few weeks
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Salz, think about the ballsiest, most comfort-zone-breaking things that you could do, things that you would normally never even consider doing.
Do them.
Do them.