TheCWord said:
But Mr. Igetit, how are we to reconcile this slowing things down with what we are taught on here about girls losing interest if you're not manning up and escalating when she wants you to?
Well like I said before,it kinda depends on what you want.
If all you want is sex,then full speed ahead....go for it. If it's just sex and/or one night stands,then by all mean,bang her as soon as possible. But from what the OP said,it seems like he gets the sex,but when he tries to see or hang out with her afterwards,she ups and disappears.
Same question to you, Mr. Trump. We talk so much about girls losing attraction if you don't try to bed them...
That's true,but the OP said he sleep with the girls on the
SAME NIGHT he meets them. Then afterwards,they start talking about things happening "so fast". A girl WILL lose attraction if you take too long to try to bed her,that's true.....but
DAMN......the same night you meet her???
I think it's safe to at least go out on
ONE date before trying to bed her.
And again...if it's just sex you want,fine.....then sleep with her. But if it's some type of relationship.....
ANY TYPE......be it long term,short term,FWB...whatever.....she's gonna need some comfort......
BEFORE sex. Otherwise,after sex is over and the arousal dies down,she's gonna look over at this "stranger" lying next to her and start to feel like a H0.
Haven't you ever heard of "Coyote Ugly"? (Not the movie). Google it.
you spend too much time trust-building and trying to be the good guy that she'll hook up with a guy who is more action oriented.
What do you mean by spending "too much time" building trust? Didn't you read the OP's post? He said he sleeps with the chick the SAME NIGHT he meets them. All I was suggesting he do was go on at least ONE date,then he can go for the sex. You act like you have a scarcity mentality,like if you don't get the sex right then,RIGHT NOW,then the world is gonna come to an end.
If the OP meets a girl on Monday night,it's ok to get a little physical,exchange numbers,then maybe set up a date for Wednesday or Thursday. It's not oxygen to where to gotta have it RIGHT NOW,it's just a chick.
Edit: Also, a common thing said on here, and this comes straight from the book of Play Her Man, is just keep f*cling her until she asks for a relationship.
That sounds right to me,I agree. But from what I understood,the OP
CAN'T f*ck the chick a 2nd time cause she get's buyer's remorse and disappears after the first. I agree you should keep having sex with a chick til she asks for a relationship,but how can you repeatedly keep having sex with her if she bolts and starts avoiding you?
The OP said that this is something he's been running into a lot lately. He's trying to have sex with the girls multiple times,but they keep leaving.
So he's trying to "keep having sex with them til they ask for a relationship".....but they leave. It's like
THE GIRLS keep saying,it's moving too fast. You think it's a coincidence that all these
DIFFERENT girls all keep saying the
SAME thing?
His attraction game is golden,he just needs to add some comfort in. You can get sex,sex,sex with attraction,but you won't get a relationship without comfort.