New Plate to Spin (True DJ's Only.. You know who you are)

kdnash82

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This is for the serious DJ's. Not the kids who think they know what they're talking about. Especially not the ones that give out some horrible advice. There are a few on here that I actually have respect for and know give solid advice. Unfortunately, I'm not on this site enough to remember their names at the moment, and I'm too lazy to go searching for them, so I'm hoping they will just know who they are and speak to me from the highest mountains of DJ-ness. (does that even make sense?)

It's be a long time since there has been a girl that has made me feel all tingly inside. I feel like I've reverted back to my middle school days where I had crushes on girls, but was too much of a wimp to do anything, or when I did, I was lame with game. It's crazy, cause it's only with this girl. Any other girl, I'm still pimp. Game is on and I'm just simply being me. No effort at all.

Here is the background. A friend invited me to come hang out with him, his girlfriend, and her roommates. Nothing serious, just some board games and drinking amongst good people.

So, I get there and everything is chill. My friends girl is happy to see me, immediately introduces me to this HB8.5. Could easily be a 9.5 if she was dressed, but she was in her jammies. Anyway, we all hit it off. Total of 6 people, 3 girls, 3 guys. 2 couples which left me and HB8.5. The game were were playing required teams, so obviously we ended up together.

Throughout the game, there was plenty of kino, mostly on her part. The game required quick thinking and knowledge, so I was a natural at it. Unfortunately, we almost lost the game due to the liquor involved. Things just weren't firing as quick as they were at the beginning. Anyway, the kino came into play when I would have to draw something with my eyes closed. They didn't trust me since she was guessing the right answers so quickly everytime I drew, so she would have to place her hands over my eyes when that part came. After we'd get the answer right, I'd hug her around her waist, which put her boobs into the top of my head. If we were sitting and got something right, we'd high five eachother. Long story short, we won and had a good time doing it.

The weird part came in when it was time for me to leave. Her friend had already told me that it was ok for me to sleep over and once everyone went to bed, me and HB sat in the living room chatting. That's when we started to hear my friend going at it in the next room. There was no way I would be able to sleep through it and it was awkward for us to be sitting in the living room trying to have a conversation while hearing it, so I said I would just take off.

She walked me to the door. I walked down the hallway, got to the elevator, got on the elevator, and as the door was closing, I stepped out. Walked back down the hallway, to the door and knocked.

She answered and I asked her for her phone number. She laughed a little, and gave it to me. Now, I thought this was the dorkiest thing ever since I didn't ask for the number before I left. Her friend told my friend that from a girls point of view, it was sweet. I left and still had her on my mind to the point that I had to come back and ask for her phone number. A co-worker said that it seemed like something out of a movie.

Not really looking for advice since everything seemed to work itself out. I'll know for sure this week. What do you guys think though?
 

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Sounds perfect bro. The coming back for the number is classic. I like the move, she knows you two hit it off, you just confirmed it. Showed enough interest, but not too much.

Now is where you have to be careful though. If I were you, next time you hang out with her, I'd do it in a really public place, like a crowded bar (obviously you drink lol). Peacock like crazy, AMOG, and kino-escalate. No less than a kiss close. You can do it dude, great start.
 

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Thanks TheSplat. I don't remember you from before, but you're solid in my book.

When she gave me the number, she told me to give her a shout this week. Said that she would be leaving this weekend to head back home for the weekend.

We have this thing here called "Resturant Week". It's basically a week where a bunch of resturants offer 3 course meals for anywhere from $20-$40. I've been having this craving for sushi and I heard she eats it, so I figured I'd take her there.

Kiss close will definately be in the works. My friend has already been making plans for Valentines Day. He has an idea to get everyone (about 5 couples) together at a nice resturant. His girl is all about it, so I don't think it'd be that much work for me to get HB to come also. Only thing is that it's so far out, I'd hate to ask her now.

Anyway, that's where I'm at now. Been a while since I've had a real crush. I like it and hate it both at the same time.
 

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Sounds like you've got it all worked out then. Honestly though, you should go out w/ your boys or w/e before your date with her, just to "keep your plates spinning." Good luck and let us know how it goes bro.
 

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You done good.

The angle now is to not be needy. Never be needy.

Be greedy. Be greedy with your time and with the amount of time you can set aside for her.

Be vigilante and you'll see your way to the end.
 

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You're telling me the two of you were having a great time, touching each other, etc, you finally manage to get her alone and you DIDN'T make a move? What the fuck were you waiting for, a sealed invitation?

Steer the conversation towards sex (should have been an easy transition with your buddy going at it in the other room), escalate the touching, and make your fucking move.

It sounds to me like she was hoping for some action, but instead of taking advantage of the perfect opportunity she gave you, you ended up bailing out with a number. Even if you had just made out with her a little bit, it would have been much easier to escalate it further the next time you met up. But now you'll have to start from the beginning all over again, assuming she agrees to meet up with you.
 

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KarmaSutra... I absolutely agree. Glad to see you're still here also.

dbot... you definately have a point. Like I said, it's been a while since a girl had made me feel the dating butterflies. She got me good. Not sure if it was the drinks or what, but I was definately not my usual self.

Most females that I've run this across have said that they thought my moves were sweet. Sweet usually gets you LJBF'd though.

Anyway, a quick update. I called... Of course she didn't answer. So I left a message for her to call me back. Honestly, if I don't hear back from her, I won't be surprised. I'm going out tomorrow, so pretty sure I'll be able to pick up the pieces with someone else.

I'll keep everyone posted on how this goes and maybe someone can use this as a lessons learned for a similiar situation.
 

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dbot said:
It sounds to me like she was hoping for some action, but instead of taking advantage of the perfect opportunity she gave you, you ended up bailing out with a number. Even if you had just made out with her a little bit, it would have been much easier to escalate it further the next time you met up. But now you'll have to start from the beginning all over again, assuming she agrees to meet up with you.
While doing the "sweet/romantic" crap can sometimes get you LFBFed... more likely than not if you acted like an attractive alpha male it will completely and totally remove her LMR and slut defense later when and if you get another chance.

Because you took your time she will believe that the feelings and emotions involved are serious and valid. Remember, to seduce a female correctly you have to give her a set of emotions that are a part of the total package of sex in a girl's mind.

You probably did a good thing and passed right through her "scumbag just out for sex" filter with this move.
 

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Dbot's advise is close to what I would say. In that situation, if someone said "you guys can stay the night" and the girl doesn't say anything in response... I would skip all the PUA stuff and ask her if she would rather sleep on the couch or spare room. From what you described, it seems as if she was expecting to at least cuddle with someone that night.

After you left, what did she do? She sat on the couch by herself listening to two other people fvck each other all night. I think it would be better if you were there too. At least you know that she is interested now.
 

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kdnash82 said:
Anyway, a quick update. I called... Of course she didn't answer. So I left a message for her to call me back. Honestly, if I don't hear back from her, I won't be surprised. I'm going out tomorrow, so pretty sure I'll be able to pick up the pieces with someone else
Be careful about leaving the ball in her court. I think it's a better practice to either not leave a message, or if you do just leave a light and cheerful one saying how she must be a busy girl and you'll give her a call later or whatever. Some girls don't answer as a sh!t test, and sometimes girls are actually busy when you call but don't feel comfortable calling you back, as that's not what they typically do. Just be confident and assume the best....nothing creepy about calling her back a second time even though you told her to call you back as long as you wait a few days.
 

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Duffdog said:
Dbot's advise is close to what I would say. In that situation, if someone said "you guys can stay the night" and the girl doesn't say anything in response... I would skip all the PUA stuff and ask her if she would rather sleep on the couch or spare room. From what you described, it seems as if she was expecting to at least cuddle with someone that night.

After you left, what did she do? She sat on the couch by herself listening to two other people fvck each other all night. I think it would be better if you were there too. At least you know that she is interested now.
She lives at the place. She has her own room. It was awkward because she was sitting there keeping me company while my friend is in the next room making his girl moan.

I guess, she could have said good night at anytime knowing that I would be crashing on the couch, so maybe she did want someone to snuggle with. Who knows? There are probably a thousand things I could have done differently to bed this girl, but that honestly wasn't the idea this night. I've done the whole bed jumping thing for an entire year. I want this year to mean something.

As far as putting the ball in her court, I'm really past the whole game playing. I'm pretty upfront about what I want now. Either the girl likes me or she doesn't. The message was straight forth and simple. "It's resturant week, and I figured we could go grab a nice dinner together this week. Give me a call back if you're interested." She hasn't called back, so she isn't interested and honestly, that's all fine and dandy. It's a girls choice to either be interested or not.

The night we had together was cool. Laid back and absolutely no pressure. I'm almost positive that our paths will cross again, but when that time comes, I will have another chick on my arm. This girl piqued my interests enough to want to know more about her, but I will probably never be to the point where I'm losing my mind over a woman ever again.

So, for all the guys on the site, take this lesson as you will. Either do what I did in hopes that the girl is really interested and will actually return your phone call, or do what some have said and escalate until you're in her bed. Choice is yours.
 

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kdnash82 said:
As far as putting the ball in her court, I'm really past the whole game playing. I'm pretty upfront about what I want now. Either the girl likes me or she doesn't. The message was straight forth and simple. "It's resturant week, and I figured we could go grab a nice dinner together this week. Give me a call back if you're interested." She hasn't called back, so she isn't interested and honestly, that's all fine and dandy. It's a girls choice to either be interested or not.
I think you missed what I was saying...I didn't mean it in a game playing way, just that some girls might be busy when you call and not feel comfortable calling back. They expect the guy to call again for whatever reason. Three of my closest friends are girls, and talking to them about guys is like being a referee at the special olympics. We think we're clueless, well they have absolutely no idea what they want. You say that they'll call you if interested, well I've heard them say he'll call me back if he's really interested. They worry we lose interest in the day or so from when we called them. Just food for thought.
 

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Dude, if she lives with your friends, you have nothing to worry about. Just take your time, get yourself in a similar situation as before, and this time kino escalate. You've got this kdnash.
 
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