Soldier, thanks for the smack. I really needed it a few years ago when I met the girl though!
Originally posted by Peak:
You went shopping with her!!!!!!!!
It's not as bad as it seems. I told her I needed to update my wardrobe and she wanted to assist. It was all for me.
Okay BBJ ...time to take stock dude.
After tonights performance you are certainly in the friend zone. You should have ****ed this chick while you had the chance. Do not put the hard word on her now cause she no longer wants to **** you.
I think you guys are misunderstanding me. I have
always been in the friend zone with her. Since 4 years ago. We became reacquianted recently and went out a few times, I'm sure I had soem sort of feelings all along but I really didn't care one way or the other about hooking up with her until like two days ago.
Avoid that chick at all costs and make a date with someone else.
If she weren't moving away in like a week and a half I could maybe get away with just avoiding her for awhile and maybe she wouldn't bother calling me either. Problem is, she promised to visit me at work before she leaves. I would feel like a total d1ck if I ignored her now. She really didn't do anything to deserve that.
You have said it yourself...she is a remnant of your past so very well just keep it that way! I had been through this **** too and I know that no matter how much evolution we have undergone, we are still cavemen in their eyes...Once loser, always loser....That is a fact and nothing can change that perception. Walk away with your dignity intact...don't give her any chance to hurt you again...You are a DJ now...you don't have to go through the pain again!
I know, I know, I know! She has perceived me as a loser all along, and that's what makes this matter really
suck! Problem is I can't just walk away. If I manage to evade her till she leaves, here's what will happen. She will call and catch me off guard at work and I will have no good excuse why I avoided her.
Hate to disagree with those more experienced then myself, but I say one more shot. If you don't make the move, this will eat at you for a long time. Why? Because like myself you are not a true Don yet. You have feelings for this girl, and you do NOT view her as a friend. But she's leaving! Now think about this: You do nothing, you lose! Because you failed to act! You will regret it for a long time! You act, and you either score big, or you get a 'friends' speech. At least if you act, regardless of the outcome, you will never have to suffer with the not knowing. That's called RELIEF, my man! You will be alone at least one more time with this beautiful woman. It might be your last chance! When your eyes meet, hold the gaze. Still looking her squarely in the eyes, brush her hair back gently and say "There's something I've been meaning to do". And then kiss her, deeply and confidently, letting her know that this feels completely natural to you. Her response will tell you all you need to know about how to proceed from there. DO IT!
Wise words my friend. It is always better to regret what you
did than to regret what you
didn't do!
But that's really not the issue. There's a 90% chance I could get the goods from her. She has expressed to me in the past that she wishes she could have a casual sex partner with no strings attached. Seemed like an invite to me.
Looks as if I have three choices.
#1. Blow her off and hope the problem just goes away on its own.
#2. Continue as normal, see her a couple more times before she goes, and kick myself in the ass for ever playing the fool in the first place.
#3. Take your advice, most likely have a night of passion, and let her be on her way.
Can anyone add options #4, 5, 6?
