New kid here, need some advice:p

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Hey guys, im new to the site, but I'm not gonna get into the whole intro thing right here, haha, I'll just get to the point.

So I met this girl at a huge community get together maybe a month ago, beautiful girl, and just fun too. So we hit it off, basically talked with her and her friend until they left sometime in the early A.M.

So the next day, she finds me on Facebook, and we chat for a few hours or so, and she leaves me her number. So we go on just sorta talkin, then she says she thinks im really cute around a week ago.

So now were talkin, then this weekend comes around, and stuff just doesnt work out for plans we had to go see a movie. So we end up video chatting for about 5 hours, until 2 A.M. She tells me she loves me, and she sounds serious this time.

So the next day she doesnt really text me much, so i text her, and just after like, half hour of regular conversation, and she starts to sound really annoyed with me, so I ask her about it, and she says no, and I asked if she was forreal.

So then later she asks me if I thought she was mad at me even after I told her i wasnt, and i said "Well sorta, you just sounded different than normal." and then all of a sudden she "Has to go" and thats been her response whenever i try to have a conversation with her (SinceSunday). We go to different schools btw.

So I'm wondering what you guys think is what up, and what I can do to fix it, because I really like this girl, and I dont want to end it over something that i dont understand
 

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Why are you giving her so much attention?
Stop giving her so much attention, back off and see what happens.

The ' I love you' is a WOAH RUSHING THINGS ARE WE?

did you sound like a needy little boy over the text?

I think you should just stop giving her so much attention or leave.
 

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I texted her a few times since Sunday, not anything I wouldnt do with any regular friends, so I dont think its that. My phone started sending the same message twice though, so she might've taken that like I was sending it twice to get her attention? Idk.

And the love thing is pretty much played around with here, she didnt mean it as "Im in love with you" or I hope not...

But I think I'm just gonna let it go for the rest of the week or so before I talk to her again. Let her calm things down in her head, and if she still wont even talk to me, than I guess it'll be on to the next one:/ lol
 

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Let it go, if she isn't on your **** again seeking your attention then i'll be surprised. Make sure you're not her 'friend'
 

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DillonAnderson said:
Hey guys, im new to the site, but I'm not gonna get into the whole intro thing right here, haha, I'll just get to the point.

So I met this girl at a huge community get together maybe a month ago, beautiful girl, and just fun too. So we hit it off, basically talked with her and her friend until they left sometime in the early A.M.

So the next day, she finds me on Facebook, and we chat for a few hours or so, and she leaves me her number. So we go on just sorta talkin, then she says she thinks im really cute around a week ago.

So now were talkin, then this weekend comes around, and stuff just doesnt work out for plans we had to go see a movie. So we end up video chatting for about 5 hours, until 2 A.M. She tells me she loves me, and she sounds serious this time.

So the next day she doesnt really text me much, so i text her, and just after like, half hour of regular conversation, and she starts to sound really annoyed with me, so I ask her about it, and she says no, and I asked if she was forreal.

So then later she asks me if I thought she was mad at me even after I told her i wasnt, and i said "Well sorta, you just sounded different than normal." and then all of a sudden she "Has to go" and thats been her response whenever i try to have a conversation with her (SinceSunday). We go to different schools btw.

So I'm wondering what you guys think is what up, and what I can do to fix it, because I really like this girl, and I dont want to end it over something that i dont understand
Well first off, the whole 5 hour video chatting thing has to stop. I cant even believe you actually talked to her for five damn hours. Theres definitely a possibilty that you came off as needy, simply because you carried a conversation with her for five hours lmao. Not only that, when you spend that much time talking to the same girl, they tend to sort of "want a break" from talking to you. I mean put yourself in her shoes. If you talked to the same exact person for five hours straight on a video chat, wouldnt you want a break after a few hours? Wouldnt you want a break the next day and wouldnt want to talk to that person much? Five hours is a long fvcking time. And obviously she doesnt love you; shes just loving all the damn attention youve been giving her.

Simply focusing that much of your time on one girl and giving them that much attention is almost putting them on a pedestal, because the girl feels all special that a guy out there found her important enough to give her five hours of attention out of his day.

Also, if a girl is ever annoyed or in a bad mood, it is ALWAYS better to give her space and just tell her you gotta go and do something or just end the convo. DO NOT try to fix things. DO NOT try to give them advice on what to do.

Lastly, look at what I bolded. Can you explain this part a little more? Like what exactly was the conversation between you two?
 

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And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Perfectly said Eagles.
If you are trying to get this girl or any other girl...
please no 5 hour chats, no unnecessary talk about feelings...
just talk, get the number, run and get some dates going
you're suppose to show how shes just another option, being needy and clingy just shows that shes you're only choice and she will take advantage of that, the attention and the situation... unless of course shes totally inito you, which you will need to make a move
 

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She wouldnt let me go to bed, even after I said I have to get off, she texted me, but I can understand that. I mean, I wasnt the chaser here at any point, guys.

And the part that got her annoyed was part of an inside joke we had, its a long story, but I just said that I was related to George Washington, and she wouldnt believe, I jokingly pushed it, and I guess she took it wrong, like I was trying to act cool or something. Really small thing, thats why I'm still unsure about the whole deal.
 

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has anyone noticed how many threads there are that sound exactly the same as this one

lurk more. people need to realize that their situation isn't unique. i f*cking hate the guys that just breeze through here, ask like one question, and then are never heard of again afterwards.


as for you, Anderson, if you're serious about learning this stuff, read the DJ Bible. Read BongDuy's field reports; that guy knows what he's doing, and Eaglez gives fantastic advice. Read "the Game" by strauss, and learn about the different pickup methodologies and find one that fits YOU. You need to realize that this isn't just a one-off deal; its a way of life, its an entire mentality that you need to get into.

Can we answer specific questions? Probably, yes. But it would be much better if you learn the theory behind the practice.

as the proverb goes, "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime."
 

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Wow dude, sorry I wanted an answer for this, I'm not a member of a billion forums, I'm kinda new to this stuff. And it looks to me like I already have around half the posts you have, and I've only been a member for a few hours. And I'll probably check it out, alot of it seems like how to get girls though, thats not what im worried about right noww.
 

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DillonAnderson said:
She wouldnt let me go to bed, even after I said I have to get off, she texted me, but I can understand that. I mean, I wasnt the chaser here at any point, guys.

And the part that got her annoyed was part of an inside joke we had, its a long story, but I just said that I was related to George Washington, and she wouldnt believe, I jokingly pushed it, and I guess she took it wrong, like I was trying to act cool or something. Really small thing, thats why I'm still unsure about the whole deal.
See what I put in bold? THATS BAD!! Your saying she "wouldnt let you go to bed". That my friend is a "power move". Shes trying to gain power over you by telling you to do something (not letting you go to bed), even though she knows you want to do the opposite (get off and go to bed). But, unfortunately, you fell for it, and you stayed on even longer, part of the reason why you talked with her for five damn hours. You gave the power to her.

And if it was such a small thing, then why did you make a big deal about it? YOU were the one that asked her if she was annoyed, thus making you look insecure.

Now im gonna go back to what I bolded before. "So then later she asks me if I thought she was mad at me even after I told her i wasnt, and i said "Well sorta, you just sounded different than normal." "

Here you said one thing to her before, and a different thing to her later. Girls dont like this. They dont like it when a guy is unsure, indecisive, or lying. Yea sure it may seem totally insignificant to us guys, but if you say one thing to a girl and then later on say the total opposite, it annoys them because they get confused and think you lied to them. Not to mention they get that whole "indecisiveness" vibe as well, which is a turn off.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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the reason my post count is so low is because i know how to keep my f*cking mouth shut when i don't have anything relevant to say :)


seriously, every single post by new people:

"Hey i'm new here. theres this girl i like. [situation, varies, but core components usually remain the same: girl shows slight interest, guy reciprocates too much, girl backs off, guy is left confused]. i don't want to mess it up, what do i do?"

See Below for Examples:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=174480

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=174391

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=174148

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=173711


/rant

sorry if i came off a bit harsh. i love you bro.


EDIT:

i should probably drop some advice too, since i yelled at you :D

firstly, congrats on the # close. make use of it. text her, call her. Don't just IM/vid chat.

second, don't be so available, i'm sure you have other sh*t to do, idk what the deal is with the ridiculous video chats

third, don't ask if she's annoyed. if she seems like she is, asking her isn't really going to do sh*t. the reason she is annoyed is likely b/c you're showing too much interest and you're bugging her

fourth, stop giving a f*ck about what she thinks. tease the hell out of her, toy with her, keep her on edge. if you've ever seen those overly sexual douchebags talk to girls, you know what i'm talking about. do that, and slowly dial it back over time until you're comfortable with it.

don't cater to her needs; you the male, she needs to adapt to your sh*t, not the other way around.



Good luck. don't forgot to read up on this stuff.
 

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I gotchya, I really didnt feel it had anything to do with the conversation I was having at the time, I just asked if she was angry with me. But damn, theyre more holes in my game than I noticed, lol, I'll take note:p

And bro, check my posts, they've all ben answers to peoples questions. And dont forget, ily2 bro
 

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888 said:
has anyone noticed how many threads there are that sound exactly the same as this one
It's always going to be that way man.

Ten years from now,there'll be some high school kid joining up here asking some question that's already been asked a thousand times before.

And another kid asking the same question 10 years after that.


That's just the cycle of life. There are current 8 and 9 year old boys who know nothing about girls,who aren't even thinking about girls right now,and once they become teenagers and run into the mystery that is "woman",they'll be here asking these newbie questions.


That's just the way it is.

888 said:
lurk more. people need to realize that their situation isn't unique.
Your right about that,but their situation is unique to them. To them it's something they've never encountered before,or have run into a few times but have yet to figure it out.


888 said:
i f*cking hate the guys that just breeze through here, ask like one question, and then are never heard of again afterwards.
Me too dude. I can't STAND this.



888 said:
Can we answer specific questions? Probably, yes. But it would be much better if you learn the theory behind the practice.
It would be good for him to learn the theory/mechanic behind how some of this stuff works,but at the moment he has a situation at hand.



It's like having a house that's on fire RIGHT NOW.


All I want is the fire put out.

We can go over fire prevention,fire safety,and having a fire escape plan later,but RIGHT NOW,just put the fire out and save the house.




That's where this Dillion guy is. He's already in a situation NOW.

He wants to know how to go about dealing with this girl RIGHT NOW.


He can read the DJ Bible and learn the innerworkings and dj principles at any time,but this situation with this girl needs to be adressed at the most within the next couple of days.





As for you Dillion,you've known this girl for a month....


Why...on earth...haven't you asked her out yet?



And that thiing with you video chatting for 5 hours....WAAAAY too much time just as Eaglez said.



Just tell us this.....during that 5 hour convo,did you mention ANYTHING about the two of you seeing/dating each other?

PLEASE say you did.


I mean ultimately,that is what you're after,isn't it?



This may be salvageable,but you're already at a disadvantage.


For one,you've known her for a month without making some sort of move...
That thing where you asked her if she was mad at you was HORRIBLE.
And it appears that you've been texting her too much.



I HATE to say this,but you may have just become the lastest victim of the friendzone.
 
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