New here; anybody else feel like this?

[gunner]

Hey guys. I've been lurking around here for quite some time and have read a lot of good posts and articles since I found this site. I have read most of the DJ Bible and I feel like I have gotten a lot from the articles that I have read here. Good, good sh!t. Now here's the deal: Earlier tonight (It's 4:40 A.M. here now) was the first time that I got out around some chicks and actually had the whole DJ frame of mind going on. I was at a party with a lot of chicks and although I was bashful (like always, dammit) at first, by the end of the night I had loosened up quite a bit and managed to talk to a few girls. Now I didn't make any # closes (WHY?! WHY?! WHY?!) but I did make some good conversation with a couple girls. My whole deal is that I'm a self-admitted AFC trying to get out of that frame of mind; In fact, I'm your model AFC. My whole problem is this: I simply CANNOT make a move on a girl unless I have been drinking. I can talk to the girls than I'm not interested in no problem; It's just those chicks I'd like to hook up with that I have so much trouble with. Now I know you guys might tell me to do the whole DJ boot camp thing (which I really should do) but I'm just wondering if anyone else has or maybe used to have this problem. Sh!t, maybe I should just carry a bottle of Jose around with me in case there will be girls around. I don't have too much trouble if I'm loosened up with some booze, but sober I'm just a total puss around chicks. I honestly think I'm I good looking guy and I *know* I could get more chicks than I do now. I sit around pondering the way of the DJ and think it through about how I'm going to talk to chicks, but when it comes down to business I just don't deliver. So I guess my question is this: Is alcohol a good tool for the budding DJ who is too shy when he's sober? Am I just talking steps backward by only talking to chicks when I'm buzzed? I thought that maybe if I get used to the idea of hitting on HB's when I'm buzzed, it will get easier when I'm sober. What do you guys think? I appreciate any replies.

 

[Andromax]

If you face your fears, you will overcome them. All you gotta do is take a leap of faith, and talk to them, sure you may bomb because of nervousness but who hasnt? You will be more confident the next time. And more confident the next time. Until it is second nature and you couldnt be any more relaxed.


Thats what the bootcamp teaches. So yeah, if you need help than use it.


Just remember you got a set of balls, that usually helps.

 

[Straydog]

Don't drink. A little is okay (4 beers during the night). If it's difficult for you to not drink try this: When you've had your fourth beer and you're starting to loosen up a bit don't go for the fifth beer. I know that at that point it just feels good to be holding a mug or a bottle in your hand but instead of drinking beer just switch to water or juice instead. When you do that you avoid getting totally wasted which is btw suicide if you want to impress girls.

Another thing: Don't wait around for a specific occassion to DJ. Just be DJ 24 / 7! It's really easy you know. Just be interested (or fake interest) in everyone you meet. Strike up conversation with strangers be they uglies or hb10's - it doesn't matter.

And the next time you're "trying to make a move" then don't make it!
WTF!?! you ask?
Just go with the flow. Treat her like the uglies you have no problem talking to. Put her off the pedestal in your mindset.
And relax, have some fun - thats the most important thing sometimes

 

[squirrels]

Fear can be enabling or disabling.

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/nervous.htm