New girl, racism arrives with her parents

[DonGorgon]

Interracial Relationships do not work ...I saw a statistic that about 65% of them fail.

You probably are better off without her ,because the pressure of her parents, and friends will drive her towards another man anyways. You might be safe if she has a history dating Black men you may be safe otherwise...get out of that situation. I do not see a happy ending there

lol.. silly.. MOST RELATION SHIPS FAIL PERIOD.. racial differences add challenges and social pressure as do most other differences but if a relationship does not fail for one reason it will fail for another...

Random woman - "My boyfriend is perfect and he treats me great and i love him, i dont know why but i just want to sleep with these 3 cute guys i hangout with at work.."

relationships dont work cause humans are animals ruled by carnal desires that over ride social constructs and moral requirements..

 

[Tazman]

honestly most white families with any kind of integrity dont want their white daughter dating a a black guy. go find a black girl homes.

Wow, lol. Tell your "white girls" to leave us alone then.

I am not saying black men are bad they just pick some of the crappiest white woman to be with.

When I read statements like these it always comes off as a chip on the shoulder and/or jealousy. Stop pretending like you give a damn about what type of woman any guy chooses.

The undercurrent of your responses are so obvious.

 

[bukowski_merit]

As a guy well versed in other dating outside my race (i am white) - i can say this is something that occurs more frequently than most people will admit.

I have people in my family that are complete racists who cannot stand that i may date a black woman, or even have black friends (althought strangely - no one seemed to care when i was with rican women)- but they hated it so much that i won't get invited to events if im curerntly involved with one. THAT'S THEIR PROBLEM THOUGH!

And im not just saying it's white people - i've had black girls brothers (and one step-father) try to "test my manhood" by fighting me on more than one occasion.

but i've had people perfectly cool with it too (at least they seemed that way).

There's a problem with this story though. It's bugging me...

If im with a white girl and interracial dating comes up - they may just have no interest in dating other races (which i don't have a problem with them not finding other races attractive.) but often if it's because of her family they'll say "yeah, i just could never be with a black man because my parents and/or friends would never accept it. and i'd be disowned."....

so... it's normally pretty clear to a woman that her parents/friends wouldn't accept it in advance.... this girl seems to be presenting it like she wasn't expecting their response to be that way.... which i just cannot fathom how she wouldn't know that in advance...

if your parents are racist - you know it! if your friends are racist - you know it!

so... im having a hard time believing this girl... and actually side with the people who say she's using this as an excuse.

 

[jafyk]

Ok, guys what if it's both a case of her trying to swing to another guy or in a genuine predicament as Da Realist explained above. Since there's no way to know these things 100% but make assumptions based on other people's mixed experiences how should the OP respond now? The one thing I really dislike is dating girls whose decisions are greatly influenced by other people.

 

[backbreaker]

some random thoughts

1. she told you this. she could have just told you this becuase she doesn't like you anymore and it's an easy out. just a thought.


2. i'm black as well... I date all women but the majority of the women I am attracted to are in fact white. I like petite leggy women, and most petite leggy women are white for some reason. I'm engaged now and my fiancee is as white as snow lol. no tan or anything.

I've had that happen in the past. Really.. nothing you can do about it. actually be thankful, beucase anyone that ignorant is not anyone you want to be around anyway. they are doing you a favor.

there are good families out there. My Fiancee's family treats me like their long lost son. I call her dad and shoot the **** with him all the time. When we visit they will only cook what I want to eat, when we do get in petty arguemetns they even take my side lol. all i'm saying is that, dont' let it get you down. Everyone isn't living in the 40
s

3. thedude4242, the more you talk the more you let people know how stupid you are. please. for your own sake. your mouth is going to get you in trouble. Regarldess even if you were right, which you aren't, there are certain things you don't say in public. you dont' call out an entire race on a multi national mutli cultural forum.

Why would a "white" (=good is what you are emplying) women want to date your ignorant ass? Why would a white girl chose to date someone who calls out races for ****s and giggles over someone who is probably more educated, has more goals and has enough sense well.. not to do what you did?

4. my mom doesn't partically like my fiancee becuase "i won't date black women"... fvck her. I'm sorry. i live for me not for anyone else. if the way I live pisses someone off and I'm not hurting anyone that's not my problem and I won't let it be.

 

[Big Poppa]

There is a tendency in the south, that not only do races not date/marry, but once a white girl has been with a black man, no white man will date her ever again. Ugly but true.

Once you go black, you never go back. Seriously.

A friend of mine dated a black guy from our school for a quite a while. They broke up but no one(guys) will touch her. I asked my friend why and he just looked at me and said

"Dude. She's been with a mayate. That's just fvcking nasty."

Racism is still alive and well