New girl in town..good vibes..but I'm my own worst enemy..

[beenthereall]

I'm in a big city in China for work..23 yo

I met this girl online (not a dating site, instead a City events /news/classifieds site) in a forum for a particular hobby we both share. I contacted her privately thru the site, and after about a dozen messages online, we made plans to meet up. She had only been in the city about 2 weeks and she was curious to meet new people. I smartly was aware of that and capitalized. She actually was the one to first ask, hey what are you doing such and such after 4pm this friday. I then led it from there and told her where we would go.

I showed her some cool places, had a nice dinner with her..after all was done it had been about 5 hours...good vibes all around. At dinner we had some liquor she wanted to try and the the waitress said would not make us drunk...well...it certainly did. I can't really remember how we worked it out...but I owe her 30 rmb (we were both a little bit drunk). She said she felt dizzy..and she sure looked quite spacey. On the whole subway ride back and the ensuing walk to her exit gate, she either held my hand or leaned on me because there were no seats available. I of course just went along with it because she was dizzy and needed the support. Yet, before we exited the subway car and went all the way to the exit above ground, she mentioned she felt a lot better. She still held hands with me the whole way to the gate.

I sent her a text the next day saying it was great hanging out, let me know when your free soon. I put the ball in her court. She was quite short with her responses, which was interesting because she's quite chatty via txt (i'm not).

So I dont hear from her for two days..but I still planned (plan) on asking her out, even tho I put the ball in her court. But I'm not feeling so good about it anymore.

**update--But just earlier this morning about 2 hours ago I get a txt from her with the amount I owe in the txt copied about 6 times, then a hahaha.

She's probably waiting for me to ask her out.. as it's now thursday. After her short replies I figured she wasn't interested (and 30rmb is equivalent to about 5 bucks)--she could just easily blow me off.

* I'm spinning several plates..but this girl is like a five tool player. Since I have some other options..I'm not worried..yet since she is the cream of the crop, for some reason I read into every little thing.

I guess what I'm asking if the 2 days of not texting her was a good thing?

Now that she has expressed some interest (and a weird google+ request, wtf is google+) I should go in and ask her about meeting this weekend asap?

I can usually gauge a girl's interest level well..with her it seems good enough.

Thanks.

 

[beenthereall]

I got a meeting in order...not on the day I wanted though.

I asked her if Saturday late afternoon/evening worked, she said no but said friday after work was good. I have dinner plans on friday so said later at about 8-830 would be great..she agreed and is excited, yada yada. She then asked if any of my friends would be along.. I didn't really plan on that, but I said possibly.

I asked a few, but chances are they might not be able to come.

Should I also ask another girl (who I havent seen for a long time because she studied in Europe) to join?..because we've been chatting recently and planned to arrange one.

 

[blindnowisee]

Dude.. hate to tell you this as you might not see it as the best advice:

It's your life.. you make the rules.. just go with the flow and do what you think is right. Life has no rigid rules and regulations that we HAVE to follow to have any success. This forum is about creating the right mind set not a step-by-step guide on how to act on each and every situation.

Girl seems into you.. go out on another date.. get to know her <= make that your mind set.. 'I want to know what makes this girl tick - what wakes her up on a Monday morning'.. that's the kind of thing you should be thinking of. Not 'how long should I wait to reply' etc.. that's all bollocks anyway.

You're young, you'll make mistakes, you'll learn, adapt and grow.. best way to do this is to do what you think works best - at least then you'll know if your approach to life is working on not - if not: back to the whole mind set story..

Now go out there and chase some tails.

 

[beenthereall]

This new girl...4th time with her in less than 2 weeks...

she asks me tonight...first question: have you brought any girls back to your current apartment so far?

Within 15 minutes shes asks/tells 2nd question: we should seriously look for an apartment together near the foreigner/party district.

SMH SMH SMG MSFGMDMC%T^

 

[Sofomore]

You're trippin. Stop analyzing the sh!t out of the situation and just go with the flow.

 

[razorbum]

This new girl...4th time with her in less than 2 weeks...

she asks me tonight...first question: have you brought any girls back to your current apartment so far?

Within 15 minutes shes asks/tells 2nd question: we should seriously look for an apartment together near the foreigner/party district.

SMH SMH SMG MSFGMDMC%T^

There's no other way to say this: You're fvcked.

Jokes aside, there's smth weird going on if she asks you to get an apartment just on your 2nd meeting...? She sounds like the 'Im-looking-for-my-prince-charming' type. You have a lot to live up to..

 

[beenthereall]

Well, it's the 4th time I've seen her. We both want to be closer to our respective jobs, and the foreigner district happens to be that place. And obviously I give off a comfort and clean vibe to her..

I'll need to make a move fast..because the apartment scenario wreaks of friend-zoned odor. But she hinted at making me dinner at her apartment soon...haha that def Does Not wreak of friend-zoned odor..more like an open invitation for extracurricular activity ...



I casually asked her how often will she be bringing guys back to the apartment, she answered: sometimes, depends on if she meets a guy at the club.

Her questioning me on bringing girls back to my current place I've only been at for less than 2 months is kinda funny. I think she believes I'm more of a player than I really am.

 

[beenthereall]

One second she's asking me about how many girls I take back and then the next she's asking about sharing an apartment...that's confusing a$$ ****. Right??

When I'm over at her apartment, that'll be the telling point. No one invites a guy over just to eat and chat...