New girl can't shut up about her EX!

[Viking25]

Background: I met this chick online and we were hanging out the same nite. She told me she wasnt looking for anything serious...I agreed..and we never had "the talk" about being exclusive.
My initial goal was to game/seduce her and F close her,which I did. Now she calls me everyday..initiating dates with me...we fukk everytime we see eachother...I know we are exclusive...cause there's just no time left for anyone else!..I dropped my other FB so I can spend time with her. I want her to be my main FB...since I am not ready to settle with steady GF.
The problem:...She was dumped by her BF 4 months ago..and she constantly mentions things about him!..Like even when we had sex...I like to fukk for couple of hours...and she goes" I am so not used to that,my ex-B would only go for 5 min!"
Or we are on the date...and she would say things like :"I am not used to be treated like this...my ex-Boyfriend never took me on a date!"
She is genuinly happy with me and on some level I can understand why she says these things...perhaps to compliment me... But what I feel like saying back is : "shut the fukk up! I don't want to hear about your ex when we are on the date or when we fukk!"
Another nugget of info: her ex was controlling type and would tell her that she can't wear this or go there....so I don't want to be like him or reminf her of him.
How would you let her know gently that I don't want to hear about her hex all the time? I don't want to sound insecure..you know?

 

[Caveman]

Don't mention your ex to me. I don't care about him and it turns me off.

 

[cave dweller]

no big deal

my 2 cents

She still has strong feelings for him.
He dumped her and she is having trouble getting over it.
I would not say anything.
She is just venting.
Don't worry about.

cave dweller

 

[Viking25]

Yeah..she is venting..as in using me as an emotional tampon.
I might just say this to her : " Look HBfukkbuddy...I understand that you don't mean to annoy me and just venting,but I am not the right person for you to talk about your ex. I am not your girl friend and it turns me off!
This would work if we had different staus,as in GF and BF or FB...BUT...she still says things like " I am not ready to be in a relatinship again...I want to date around and have fun."
This girl doesn do what she says! She is always asking me to stay over nite with her and go on road trips or romantic dates. She doesn't date around.

 

[cave dweller]

water

Don't drown in a glass of water.....

Blow it off.
They all vent about their past partners.

Hey, try this:

The next time you make love give her the 'G-Spot Giggy'.
and
Give your best shot of 'After play'. ( most men work on foreplay but forget all about what really counts---after play)

Try that. She will forget about him.

cave dweller

 

[biker_gixxer]

I know what your saying bro, it can be annoying as hell. I went through the same situation a while back and this is what I said.

'Why are you always bringing up his name, do you still have feelings for him? If you do, let me know and I'll step out of the way'.

I didn't come across pissed or jealous. I was laid back and indifferent. She never mentioned his name again.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

If you dont want to hear about the ex just tell her about it, simple as that.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Water off a ducks back. They all have an ex or two that they'll complain about. Who cares? She's shagging you now. If it gets too out of hand, then just mention it. If you guys have been seeing each other for awhile, a simple, 'Can we steer clear regarding the ex, because quite frankly it's boring and I'd rather concentrate on the time we share together and not on the past'.

However, from the sounds of it, if this is bugging you this much, then you are definitely seeing this girl as an exclusive partner and have more than just FB feelings about her. From the sounds of it, she is probably feeling the same and is trying is thinking about exclusivity, seeing as she keeps bringing up other guys. You are staring an LTR right in the face man. Just as long as you realise that.

 

[NewMan]

She's your FB who gives a sh#t?

You can't have it both ways.

You don't want a relationship with her - you just want to fvck her - and now your getting all twisted up like a little b#tch over her mentioning her ex.

No offense - but just keep fvcking her until your done with her - or are you getting all jealous over it?

 

[jbbrain]

the fact that you wrote a thread about this already shows she means way more than just a fvck buddy to you.

I would assess the situation and really think about what you want.

Just dont think too hard.

 

[backbreaker]

Not really.

No matter who you are with, just because you don't like them doesn't mean you want to hear about her EX's. It's just not fun to listen to that constantly.

 

[NewMan]

No matter who you are with, just because you don't like them doesn't mean you want to hear about her EX's. It's just not fun to listen to that constantly.

Come on, if you don't give a sh#t - you wouldn't care..... He's more involved with this chick than he's letting on..

 

[Viking25]

Yes your right..I am involved with her way more then just FB...I even stopped seeing other 2 FB!...I like to hang out with her and her talking about her EX didn't bother me..untill I started to get more attached to her.
The thing is,I was waiting for her to initiate "the talk" where she would ask me to be exclusive with her..then I would hit her back with everything she shouldnt say/do if she wants to be exclusive. But "the talk" never came.So I wrote her an e-mail this morning telling her that I will be busy and not gonna see her often anymore...and since we are both not looking for anything serious,that would be ok and I basically don't care.
I got a very angry IM from her...she was basicaly saying how much she liked me and that she wanted to get serious!...but since I don't care about her...I should just fukk off!
I am, in true AFC manner, told her that I liked her a lot and was waiting for her to let me know that she wants to date exclusively. She said she likes me a lot too....( God..this like High Skool!)

We are having dinner tonight at her house....to talk about things.

I can't think straight...I like her a lot,but not ready to be truly exclusive with her. She is more then FB for me now...but not a GF yet.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Why don't you turn it around fool?

When she says "Me and my ex used to fondle each other in the movie theater" - Reply back " Really? one time my ex-gf was riding me in the back of the theater.

When she says "My ex used to last longer than that" Reply "My ex gf swallowed and gave the best *******s ever"

If she keeps mentioning it and plays along with this game sadistically - tell her to stfu about her ex.