New G/F just messed me over BAD !

[TxCowboy]

Okay yall, need some input on this one.

I started dating a chick (4-5 hb). We've been in touch with each other every day since day one when we started going out with each other. We've talked for about 20 -30 each day and left it at that.

We've seen each other 2 times in the week and a half. She is very traditional and conservative in dating she says. She never has put out - only get kisses and no real making out !

We talked up until yesterday when I didnt hear from her and I didnt call her either. She then calls my phone tonight and we begin talking ....

She says she was with her old guy friend who just blew in from out of town (hurricane evacuee). She didnt tell me about anything involving her going out with this dude and then proceeds to tell me that if I'm gonna go out with her that I need to just accept the fact that she has 2 good guy friends and a g/f who she will ALWAYS put ahead of me.

I said thats fine if I get to hang out with my friends that are girls and she said that, its okay and that as long as it doesn interfere with time we could be spending together. She then tells me that Im the one who needs to schedule all the dates and things we should do together and that she feels like she's interrupting my busy schedule when she calls - I answer most all calls and dont rush anything at all.

I told her that yesterday she could have at least sent me a text or called and let me know whats up with her going out with this other dude and I didnt even get that. She goes "Well, you dont need to know every single thing I do each day !, blah blah blah"

She then hangs up the phone one me and I didnt call back ....

I know its over , but do yall think this behavior is acceptable on her part ?

 

[MindOverMatter]

in other words:

-you have to scheduale everything
-you have to be the one who calls, not her.
-you have to accept the fact she places you beneath 2 guy friends on the ladder, while expecting you to place her above your female friends (i.e. it's cool to be with your girls, as long as it doesn't interfere with her time).

and she is a hb4-5? is this on a 10 scale? you should never let a woman impose these rules on you, let alone one that looks like Uncle Fester.

to answer your question, no this behaviour is not acceptable. and you are being half a man for putting up with that sh!t. a real guy would have thrown her ass on the curb a long time ago. smarten up man.

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by TxCowboy

I know its over

It never begun, unless youve nailed her there was nothing ever there anyway (which you should have done by the 3rd hookup btw or nexted her)

Mindovermatter nailed everything else that needs to be said here.

 

[frivolousz21]

hey titties wats up!

 

[Badmannaz]

she sounds like a horrible person to date note* not horrible "person" but horrible date. she never put out??? damn!!!










































:nervous: <----i'm so alone *cries*

 

[flexion_]

I would just put her 3 women down the list in terms of priority. Call her up when you are bored ... no biggie.

 

[salsipuedes]

Originally posted by TxCowboy
who she will ALWAYS put ahead of me.

if she actually said that, next her.

 

[diablo]

Congrats on starting somewhere, I suppose...

Here's a few questions I had. For starters, how on earth were you dating her if you'd only met her twice? Why would you meet a girl that's an UG (short for UGLY) 4-5? No offense, but that's lowering your standards way too much. The only reason that it would be even considered possibly understandable (note: not acceptable) to meet up with a girl that looked like that is because she was giving you something that you were completely unable to get elsewhere.

Basically, she had absolutely nothing to offer you. By your own admission she was ugly and she didn't put out. What possible use could she be?

My advice: Raise your standards and forget you ever met her. In time the nightmares may subside.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Originally posted by TxCowboy
...I know its over , but do yall think this behavior is acceptable on her part ?

Is that the real question?

Her behavior is what it is. Acceptable, though? An AFC will rationalize it, make excuses for it or blame himself (or both, usually) and try harder.

Someone else will find the underlying attitude behind this indicative of low IL or unacceptable and not waste further effort (low IL is the clear-eyed view, unacceptable is the intuitive summation or emotional response to it - either works..)

Unless they have something to prove. That's useful enough - test yourself and try new things if you have to. Most would take the game elsewhere, though.

My guess is you know it, you're just working towards accepting more fully that you know what you know.

 

[Luveno]

No matter the looks, a girl should NOT order the guy around.

NO MAN should be a SLAVE to a woman.
We don't need sex to live. We're just hard-wired to like it. It really is useless.

I swear that if we didn't care about sex, the world would be much better.


And stop dating HB 4-5s. That's the problem with the US: too many fugly girls are getting dates!

 

[Enigmatron]

ive gone through a similiar thing

and ive worked out that the bottom line is

unless you can get something going with her and get her attention, then if you dont and mess up and stuff, then she uses that and thinks and even says there is no connection or spark

and some chicks wont just get rid of you which would be the best thing, they just want to keep you around and use you

like myself if there's nothing happening and its to painful youve just got to next her and move on

its all very painfull but what can you do, we all have to see sense and realise who we was before meeting the chick that messes your head up

maybe a confusing response as my own stuff is mixed up in it

 

[cA^]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
...and she is a hb4-5? is this on a 10 scale? you should never let a woman impose these rules on you, let alone one that looks like Uncle Fester.

ROFL

 

[MetalFortress]

I stopped reading at HB4-5.

 

[Qmanchoo]

Hey TXCowboy, I have a more important question for you that you really need to answer before you can ever find a woman that makes you happy.

Think for yourself.

Was her behavior acceptable to you?

Because that's what really matters, not what any of us think about her actions.

Some guys may say yes, some may say no, ultimately it's your own personality matching with another girls in some way that will make a relationship work out in a POSITIVE way that will make you happy.

If you want my opinion? You got too heavy with her too quick with the txt’ing thing (LT GF's do that not "going on the 3rd date" girls), she's obviously not that into you since she placing many things in her life above you, she sounds *****y and boxed in "life works this way only!"

Once you know what you like it makes the process so much simpler because you deal with so much less BS.

 

[MacAvoy]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
I stopped reading at HB4-5.

Got to give the boi points for honesty :cheer:

 

[SAYNO]

Wow even HB 4-5's nowdays think that they are the ****! Sad, sad, sad. I'd bet you that about 30-40 yrs ago a broad with those kind of looks would be happy just to have a guy look at her.


Kick her to the curb and fast!



Sayno'

 

[green69]

I tought "HB" and "4-5" was an oxymoron?

 

[DJ4Real]

You have a "boss" for a girl! This is not acceptable. You need to speak your mind to her and kick her to the curb. If she thinks that she can just tell you what to do, then what's the use in having her around? I could never let a girl tell me what to do like that. Not happening.

Most women like men that are "dominant". This display of behaviour is weak.