GotED? said:
Therefore, you must LEARN style in what you wear (not fashion, fashion is BS).
I am now 41 years old, but for first 38 years of my life - I lived like a typical American sheltered in our own ego-centric Americanized society never realizing that another world/culture exists beyond our somewhat arrogant view of the world of United States just because we are the most powerful nation. As a U.S. federal government employee, I was privileged to work overseas in Germany and now over 3 years in the United Kingdom. Did this experience OPEN my eyes for the first time, to how sh!tty American men have it in terms of style and dressing compared to the European men.
It is not any of our faults as Americans (if you are one) - our society as American men lack depth in culture when compared to the Europeans. No wonder beta fuccks are bred here more than anywhere else in the world.
Sing the gospel, Bru!:rockon:
They have an old saying in drag racing: "Run what you brung"
That is, race what you have. And, far too much weight is put on dress, in my opinion. Style is one thing, but fashion and name-brand stuff is for women to talk about. My box-toed Dr.Martens (my 'ƒuck me' shoes, if you will) may be "out of fashion", but, after I highly polished them, they go nicely with my "style". Women like "shiny", it makes no difference what the name is under that polish, or even the shape of the toe. Shiny = expensive, so don't underestimate the power of shoe polish. I picked up a pair of steel-toed shoes at a thrift store for $6, took them home, and oh, boy, do they hold a shine! When you get "I like your shoes", it's not because they like your shoes. That goes for anything. It's like a guy saying "I like your shirt" to a woman whose t¡ts they're staring at.
My point is, if you look clean, that's all that matters. Beyond that, well, it depends who you are trying to impress. Are you trying to impress women with how you dress? Then, you get an "F" in the mindset column.
Women should be looking at YOU, not your clothes. If they aren't seeing YOU and nitpick your clothing instead, then your problem is not your clothes. When you go crazy and change your wardrobe under the guise of "getting women", then you spent a gang of cash on a gimmick and not on your financial goals.
How you wear your clothes is what matters. It's your essence, your
style. Your style is an extension of, or compliment to your personality, your style is not who you are. There are guys on here that could pull more tail in a snuggie than some could with a designer suit. Clothes are just clothes. Wear them with your own Style. Hell, folks put stuff on me just to watch me rock it. "Here, Vulpine, try this on." And, I rock whatever it is, because, well, I make sh¡t look good, not vice-versa. A pair of coveralls on me is the sexiest pair of coveralls in my kingdom.
Do yourself a favor: learn to convert neg hits regarding your wardrobe into plates spinning. Test yourself, too. Go out dressed in two different styles and objectively compare the results. I have, and I found that what I wear makes little difference in my overall game. I just do what I do, so wearing what I wear is part of the complete package. I wear what I wear to please myself.
And, seriously, take a moment to consider the quality of the woman who disqualifies you based on your clothing. Do you honestly want to do them the favor of letting them see you naked? Do you honestly want a gold-digger in your life to support? One whose hobbies are of the spend-money sort? I have no use for the worthless standard-issue, disposable, materialistic, consumer Barbie clone who would be hung up on my clothing. In fact, comments on my clothing have landed in my mind as red flags on several occasions. Though, how I use my filters and qualifications are likely different than many others who may simply want a knobber in the parking ramp on a Friday night.
Now, that's in regards to the women context here. There is no doubt that how you dress can affect other aspects of your life. Surely, there are times and places where dressing to impress is warranted. Just be careful that you don't make a stranger's opinion about something have more bearing in your life than your own wishes.
I have better things to spend my money on than fashion. Besides, I buy clothes that last, not because they are glamourous. But, if you need clothes to make you feel confident...
... no, no, I still say work on your confidence, then, not your wardrobe.
But, hey, I'm a pragmatist. What you find necessary in your life is up to you, just check your motivations is all I'm urging.
