Never get your hopes up with chicks!

[mahon83050]

That is the mentality I take. I met a solid 7.5, 8 at a wedding the other night. All the signals were there, eye contact; dilated pupils, asking me questions, etc.

I told myself and my friend, that I am not going to get my hopes up since I noticed chicks do not make any logical sense. I would not be surprised if this chick blows me off.

I called her cell tonight (waited 3 days) and she answered saying she could not talk...she in class. I kind of find it wierd a chick would answer her phone in the middle of a lecture (maybe she is a headcase) So far, no call back from her yet.

 

[christz]

i'm with you there.. although i have been known to answer my phone in class also

so yeah and i've said the same thing, i only answered though because i actually did want to talk to that person but i wanted to tell them i couldn't talk because i'm in class

 

[BGMan]

For calling up girls, I like Sunday evenings personally. That way, if she tells you she's in a class, you KNOW she's BSing you.

BGMan

 

[So Many Ways]

I've learned that one the hard way. Everytime I've done that I've been sorely disappointed.

 

[PEACEDJ]

haha man guys I can relate to this so much. Out of my past experiences with dating women, I always see a pattern where when I get into deep just because of a perfect date or a kiss close and actually start assuming too much to a point where if she does one thing that isn't logical, I immediately became pissed (but of course don't show it cause that shows jealousy and tells her she's in control of my emotions)... haha now a these days man I just accept the fact that girls are always girls and luckly for me, when one girl was nexted.. a new one always came around shortly after. So take Mahon's advice, props to you Mahon.

 

[Paintballguy]

It seems everytime a chick starts to look promising, everything takes a dive for the worse. So I am just gonna take your mentality and not give a fvck.

 

[golf299]

i am in exactly the same situation right now, and my mentality is just the same... who cares, just let things roll as they may.

 

[Bilogomja]

yea i know exactly how you fellas feel. I knew this chick fairly well during high school (freshman year), then I never saw her up until freshman year in college. We got together, enjoyed ourselves, got it on, etc. The next morning she was all into me showing me all the signs that she wanted a relationship and everything, wanting to be in my arms, etc. She texted me that same evening, and then we cut off communication for 2 weeks, and then I texted her one day (before I figured texting was for pussi's) and she responded to my message half an hour later, I asked her a question (like a regular one, ex. what are you doing, not some deep do you have feelings for me question) and she never bothered talking to me again. So cheer up, I guess we have to realize some women don't make any sense, but whatever that leaves us to find newer and better ones.

 

[RiceHapa888]

true

yep most girls....I was dating this girl- not sure if I currently am...everything was kosher going great, getting better and better and now out of nowhere the dating relationship we have takes a nosedive- I'm ganjiing but still wondering what the f*ck happened to change her behavior- girls are all basketcases the only way to stay on top of things is to not give a f**k even though its hard

 

[nishbuk]

AMEN to this. Being attached to results seems to always lead to expectations, which lead to disappointment. Screw this, I'm going be focused to not give a fvck about results, and focus on having a good time, win or lose...

 

[AFK Protector]

I've noticed something else my homie g dawgs (too asian for that...I know).

I have way more success with girls having interest in me if I don't expect anything. Nothing new here. BUT, things start happening and before you know it, I HAVE to have interest and expect something.

Then it all goes to hell. yep.

Anyways, in the beginning I have to focus on not expecting anything but after a few days it just becomes natural you know. I believe this is also where the true "nice guy" comes out and you do things because you want to and not because you like punani juice.

GOOD MENTALITY TO HAVE MAN. I'LL START INCORPORATING IT TOMORROW...ERR TODAY!

 

[BGMan]

Repeat to yourself. There's always other chicks... there's always other chicks... there's always other chicks...

BGMan

 

[Golden Arms]

Haha

Why would you get your hopes up ? She's just a girl, not a winning million dollar lottery ticket

I agree with mahon

 

[mistyc]

why get your hopes up? Cuz girls are fun!

So I disagree... Get into it! Get into the moment, the emotion.. Don't beat yourself up if it goes bad, but gawds, you don't need to become Mr Spock just to protect your little heart.

 

[mahon83050]

I mean seriously though....all the buying signals were there and now I think I am getting blown off. I just do not understand how things go from hot to cold in that quickly.

 

[mahon83050]

Well, its official..two phone calls and no reply. Chicks never cease to amaze me.

 

[Fatality]

It sounds like she definitley liked you at first. You probably said or did something wrong. That's how it is with some chicks. If their interest in you isn't sky high they almost look for reasons not to like you. I think she liked you but you screwed up somewhere.

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by Fatality
It sounds like she definitley liked you at first. You probably said or did something wrong. That's how it is with some chicks. If their interest in you isn't sky high they almost look for reasons not to like you. I think she liked you but you screwed up somewhere.

Yea, I cannot think of anything really....unless maybe I grabbed her ass in my drunken stupor...haha.

I remember she asked me to dance numerous times (not slow dance, but techno) and I never really did (not my style)

However, out last contact was:

Her: It was really nice meeting you, hopefully we can hang out again soon.

Chicks are wierd though man, she could of been a head case who pretended to like me...just to see if I would like her back...to boost her ego type thing.

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by mahon83050
Yea, I cannot think of anything really....unless maybe I grabbed her ass in my drunken stupor...haha.

I remember she asked me to dance numerous times (not slow dance, but techno) and I never really did (not my style)

However, out last contact was:

Her: It was really nice meeting you, hopefully we can hang out again soon.

Chicks are wierd though man, she could of been a head case who pretended to like me...just to see if I would like her back...to boost her ego type thing.

Chicks love to dance. They absolutely love it. LEARN TO DANCE!!!!!!!!! If you can dance they will think you are a good lover. You not dancing probably made her think you are boring or something. I still think she liked you but you not dancing is one of the ways you screwed up. Girls always say stuff like that when you are leaving just to be nice.

 

[Fatality]

Another thing is you say that you MIGHT have grabbed her ass while drunk. Meaning you don't remember everything that happened that night. That is a great example as to why people should not get drunk when they are trying to meet ladies. When you are drunk you end up embarrassing yourself and you don't even remember how. You probably screwed up in so many ways with this girl who had the initial interest in you. Control your drinking.