Never dating an older woman again...

[Johnny Alias]

I will never date an older woman again... at 38 and still wanting a kid I need these boundaries. I'll bang the occasional one for sure... but an LTR? No way.

I was seeing a woman 5 years older than me... I won't mention the other issues she had... but the age stuff began to get worse and worse as time went on...

As a woman who was an HB9 gets older... she begins to freak out:

1) FAT - It's much harder for her to lose weight. The ass and stomach become flabby as Hell. You try to get her to come to the gym in a nice way... she gets angry. You find yourself constantly lying about the dress she's wearing... "Does this make me look fat?" when you're thinking "Woman you are FAT." If she's a drinker this will get WORSE with all that white wine.

2) Wrinkles and Sun Damage - Most HB9's are sun worshippers. For the ones that smoke that's double trouble. You can see it and all the botox and makeup in the world only makes it go away temporarily. Moles and other items crop up. You can literally see the old woman in her coming out.

3) Hair - It might sound stupid, but if she's constantly going to get her hair done that's because it's GRAY. Gray like grandma. Gray like your aunt. Old chicks that WERE HB9's are also obsessed about extensions because it aint growing like it used to...

4) Entitlement - She was hot... but now she's almost not. The world was served to her on a platter. Many HB9's never bothered getting real jobs because they never needed to. She's got lots of expensive things... that some other sucker paid for when she was younger. This sense of I DESERVE EVERYTHING does NOT go away... even if they mask it for a while... it will come back in a tirade usually.

5) Health Problems - A lot of HB9's partied... for DECADES. They didn't work out properly or take care of themselves. You'll see many manifestations of this in health problems. They're sick all the time, have back problems constantly, and all of this gets worse with age.

6) Pre Menopause - Yup. Does she behave like a B!TCH when she's pms'ing? Guess what? when she starts pre-menopause (median 44-46) her hormones become INSANELY out of control. I mean nuts. Til this catches up with the real menopause expect completely abhorrent behavior to come out of NOWHERE.

7) Jealousy - If she so much as even sees you looking at a younger model expect HELL ON EARTH. Expect her to break into your phone and facebook account... even if you aren't even cheating on her! Expect her to question every move you make and every platonic relationship you have with the opposite sex. She knows her time is almost up... and even if you love her for who she is, her core identity is HER LOOKS. She often cannot fathom the idea that anyone would love her for who she is. That will make for serious crazy making behavior.

You can pull younger women. You can. These older cougars have usually abused the HELL out of their power over men and stomped all over them. They deserve to be thrown away. It's called karma. They will not get you a calm and sane life if that's what you're looking for...

 

[Johnny Alias]

Baha. Boom. That's about right. God she was smoking hot for a while... 4 years makes a BIG damned difference... like a bigger dumper...

 

[HoneyHitter]

Amen bro! Definitely worth a sticky.

 

[BMX]

They definitely like to get mad at you for stuff that you "said in passing." What a load of bull.

 

[sharonblay]

Definitely worth. I don't. The few guys that I know that have dated older women have been depressed, needy and in need of a mother figure. I don't think there is any difference between this and older guys preying on young impressionable girls to boost there ego.

 

[The Duke]

Johnny- thats a pretty solid list....the voice of experience talking right there.

 

[Johnny Alias]

Johnny- thats a pretty solid list....the voice of experience talking right there.

Hey thanks. One thing I forgot to mention... if she's available... THERE IS A REASON... do a little detective work...

One gal I knew was interested in me... has been divorced... TWICE. She took these guys to the effing cleaners too.

Bang them sure.... but LTR or Marriage with a depreciating asset? They're like old jaguars... sure they still look pretty good... but the upkeep/maintenance is BRUTAL, they're always in the shop, have major engine problems, and... THEY TAKE ALL YOUR MONEY.

Get a newer model...

 

[zekko]

4) Entitlement - She was hot... but now she's almost not. The world was served to her on a platter. Many HB9's never bothered getting real jobs because they never needed to. She's got lots of expensive things... that some other sucker paid for when she was younger. This sense of I DESERVE EVERYTHING does NOT go away

This entitlement is a very ugly trait (to my mind, at least). But it is also present when she is younger and at the height of her HB9-ness. This is why I don't consider HB9s suitable for LTRs, younger or not. They have too many options and too many guys willing to kiss their @ss just because they're so hot. I also find it hard to relate to these women since I've never been handed everything on a silver platter just because I look good.

 

[Willard]

I was dating a 51 yo woman for a few months. She told me she was 40. I believed her, she didn't tell me how old she was a few weeks. She is still pretty hot, she still got her period, wildest sex I ever had. But most of the other drawbacks were there, she is starting to gain weight, entitlement etc...

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Johny,
It is very natural to generalise,but reflect that an Older Woman who doesn't have the Downsides you mention,is worth a try because she will have other attributes the youngsters don't have....Above all as Benjamin Franklin said so long ago,she will be grateful!

 

[Johnny Alias]

Dear Johny,
It is very natural to generalise,but reflect that an Older Woman who doesn't have the Downsides you mention,is worth a try because she will have other attributes the youngsters don't have....Above all as Benjamin Franklin said so long ago,she will be grateful!

Appreciated and you're correct. I did over generalize. I'm speaking in reference to my experiences ranging from the ages of 33-38. These are not guarantees. However, women who are on the downward trend of HOT to mediocre often display much of the above in my world. Please note I said HOT but soon to be NOT.

I'm sure there are a few good apples out there that take the aging process with beauty fading with aplomb, grace, and a sense of humor... But I sure as hell haven't met any.

 

[Desdinova]

If you're going to latch onto a woman, you'll find the best ones in their mid-20s. They're past the party stage, and the biological clock isn't ticking too loudly yet. Women in their early 20s are still partying while single women in their 30s or older are bitter about men. If you can find a woman in her early 20s who's NOT into partying (which is extremely rare) then grab that one.

Women are like cars, the more mileage they have on them, the more trouble you'll have with them.

 

[Bwana]

Great synopsis of what I have seen with women in the 40-50 range. Jealous and wont believe you can love the for who they are because they never loved anyone for who they were only for what they could get so they have no concept. The rare one that is somewhat attractive compares herself with her age related peers and thinks she still has high sexual market value without looking at the reality of her situation and the dating options of the men she wants to be with.
In this age group there are those who have some money and cant figure out that men are different than them. They assume attractive men will want them for what they can provide not realizing that we really don't care.
40-50 year old women are very out of touch and every one I have dated (which are very few in number as I learn quickly) seem to have the same issues.
They will be the first to start to criticize a 40-50 year old man for dating younger women to try to shame us so we will be willing to put up with their crap. Sorry ladies but we are dating younger women because of your crap and will continue until you
#1 realize you need to get to the gym and workout because we don't want to be with you solely because you think you are great
#2 realize that older men are so much less likely to put up with any grief.
So many of the 40-50 year old women tortured a man with their BS for 20 or so years in a marriage and have no concept that those of us men that had put up with it the past that are now single will never put up with it again. When one of the is a little bit attractive still finally figures this out they will start to look for a younger guy that will put up with it thinking they will get an investment from him failing to realize he will hook up with them for sex but has no interest in them for a LTR as he has options unless he is a mega beta.