Never chat on the phone...

[LADawg49]

Hi all, one thing I learned from the girl I was with is to never chat long time on the phone with a woman u are seeing romantically. If u do she will lose interest. I started chatting for long time on the phone after the three month period since I could only see her once a week for an hour(id have to drive 45 miles to her place and back) and thats when she started getting bored. I had many multi hour conversations with her and that mustve bored her. Even after u have the girl locked in, only chat with her on the phone to set the date and thats it. All talking can be done on the date.

 

[jakeyboy]

yep. very true.

 

[DJ_Dork]

We all learn the hard way. I know that I used to have a good converation with a girl for 45 min and then I would , hey let's go walk the beach tomorrow or the next night. She would ummm nah I'll be busy. Man, I remember spending 2-3 hours talking about really stupid stuff with one of my exes.. and guess what guys.. IT doesn't make you CONNECT with her. IT DOESN'T. Only use phone for 5+ min to say HI how you doing, Thank you for date, and Date calls. If she wants to "talk" - insist on doing it in person. Don't get suckered in one of those 1 hour "about to go to bed" calls too!

 

[Dukester]

the phone call thing varies w/ age range too
ex.
in hi school:
freshman - sophomore
-these girls like "b4 bed" convos, and like to talk aver 1 hour
(b/c they wanna tell ya about their day, hear a/b yours, etc...)

junior- senior
- still have fresh/soph mentality, but they like to keep convo to a minimum
-dont like to talk everynite (gets boring to them now)- b/c they are maturing

in college:
some college girls want that hs phone talk, most do not.
most college chicks want the convos short and simple -> 5-10 minutes

this is just an observation i have made since since i was a fresh in hs to now being a college fresh

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I agree to a point. Long telephone conversations are pathways to the world of LJBF. Basically they spend a ton of time with you on the phone when they have nothing better to do and if they are very talkative.

What I do is talk to them for a few minutes (usually no more than 5) about BS, nothing heavy or serious. Just yesterday a woman called me at work to chat. I basically just talked about that new game Fable on XBox that I'm playing.

I told her about my character and a few of the adventures I had completed. Yeah, I know it sounds geeky but I tell very colorful and exciting stories. Anyway she asked if she could come over after work and watch me play.

I was game, so I told her to pick up some things from the grocery store and that she could help me cook something for dinner, she was pleasantly surprised at the suggestion and was all for it. If you guys haven't tried this before it's like money in the bank!

Anyway, she came over, she watched me play the game for a while, we cooked dinner and then we really played and cooked. All I'm trying to say is that telephone conversations are good if you keep the woman a little off balance and try your best to surprise her by being unpredictable.

 

[Dukester]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
new game Fable on XBox that I'm playing.

great game, been playing that a lot. been taking up the time i usally reserve for studying and hw. not taking up time for chicks!

such an awesome game- and it's got british people talk, haha awesome

 

[Paintballguy]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
All I'm trying to say is that telephone conversations are good if you keep the woman a little off balance and try your best to surprise her by being unpredictable.

Definately true.

My phone convos with women I like usually last no more than five minutes or so. It also helps to have a motive to be calling her so you can have a nice structured convo and be done quick.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

Hey i didnt know this!

 

[Dukester]

Originally posted by SageOFAllenAge
Hey i didnt know this!

well now ya do

 

[hardwork]

Tips.

 

[chicksrock]

EXCELLENT TIP!
I will remember that for my own benefit!
THANKYOU!

 

[thebsharp]

A tip thats been told like a million times but still a good tip.

 

[Sexual]

Maybe off subject but how do break a conversation with a girl that loves to talk for more than 5 minutes without sounding uninterested or like an @ss? It's one of a few things that make one of my hook ups think all I want her for is pu$$y.

 

[Don Pablo]

Yep, Fable truly is awesome. I got it at 1:00 pm friday and had it beat by 4:00 am saturday.

 

[comic_relief]

good tip but...

this is common DJ knowledge for me at least.

I have lost a few girls before in early DJ days by talking on the phone for to long. Oh well you learn as you go. I would rather have made those mistakes on my own than just have read them saying it is a mistake to talk on the phone to a girl to long.

 

[disciple]

Keep that phone sh*t to a minimum and don't talk for longer than 15 minutes. Keep it short, sweet, and make a plan to get up with her then you can talk more face to face. Even then, do more listening than talking and look for pieces of information that will help you to better know and therefore pimp this ho.

 

[stonefromnyc]

this is def true cause my last girl I was with I would talk to her for like 5 minutes in the beginning and she was feeling me. Then I got comfortable with her so we started talking for like 45 minutes a day and guess what...one day she was just like we should be friends cause she needs to get focused on her school work. lol. don't laugh fellas it happens to alot of us occasionally.

 

[iMat]

There's this girl I see almost everyday because she's in my class, and I still haven't utilized the phone number and email she gave me.

--iMat

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Paintballguy
...It also helps to have a motive to be calling her so you can have a nice structured convo and be done quick.

Very true... A DJ does things purposely...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Trippsta
Maybe off subject but how do break a conversation with a girl that loves to talk for more than 5 minutes without sounding uninterested or like an @ss? It's one of a few things that make one of my hook ups think all I want her for is pu$$y.

Cut her off and say "Hey, I feel like a schoolgirl sitting on the phone with you, why don't I pick you up to go to Starbucks and you can buy me a mocha and we can share a biscotti while you tell me your story in person?"

It's less painful when you're being fed...