There's something I noticed a lot this weekend. The main difference between AFCs and DJs in a club environment is between asking and supposing.
I'd never ask a girl to join me or to do whatever I want to do. I always act like I know she wants to do it and give her a choice what kind of poison she prefers only. That's the way most DJs go in for the kill, apply some general sales rules and there you go ...
Example (It's a saturday, I've seen her one time before, social proof already established):
Jason: What would you prefer, bowling or watching movies?
Chick: I'd rather like watching movies.
Jason: Ok, I'll pick you up at thursday, fine? What's sounds better 6 or 7 p.m ?
Chick(surprised, short pause): Yes sure, I'd like to. (Thinks) 7 p.m is fine.
Jason: Ok, write me your address and phone number down. (Act like you have to do something) ... I'll be right back ... (walk away).
Walk around and let the impressions you left settle in her mind. She'll still be asking herself what happened in case you did it right. The important thing during this approach is to give her a choice that isn't really a choice. Always place the stuff/time you like at last, because it's most likely she'll choose that answer. She'll think she has some control but she'll know subconciously who was in command, leaving a bold and confident impression.
Don't jump her like a desperate chump once you returned. Just be happy, enjoy yourself and dance a little in her sight. She might walk up to you to give you the note, she may not, that's different from time to time. Wait a few minutes and go in for the final approach in case she won't. Don't talk at this point unless she asks you something, just walk up to her while smiling and looking at her eyes (she'll hand out the note in most cases on her own). I like to use my "special smile" at this point, it's basically tilting your head slightly to one side and lowering the face a little while doin' kinda provoking smile and closing your eyes a tiny bit (in case you like to use it, train it infront of a mirror, because it might easily look kinda submissive.) while slowly stretching my arm out, palm sideways up (like an oldschool dance request). Don't say a single word till you have that damn piece of paper in your hand. I like to give some final kino while pulling! her close to me with the other arm, hugging her and whispering something in her ear with a sweet but demanding voice. I don't think it does matter what you say now, just the way you say it is of importance. A half lips or even full lips kiss never failed at this point either.
Don't ignore her from now on! I tried it and the flake risk increased a lot whenever I ignored "her". Just don't cling to her like an AFC.
I'd never ask a girl to join me or to do whatever I want to do. I always act like I know she wants to do it and give her a choice what kind of poison she prefers only. That's the way most DJs go in for the kill, apply some general sales rules and there you go ...
Example (It's a saturday, I've seen her one time before, social proof already established):
Jason: What would you prefer, bowling or watching movies?
Chick: I'd rather like watching movies.
Jason: Ok, I'll pick you up at thursday, fine? What's sounds better 6 or 7 p.m ?
Chick(surprised, short pause): Yes sure, I'd like to. (Thinks) 7 p.m is fine.
Jason: Ok, write me your address and phone number down. (Act like you have to do something) ... I'll be right back ... (walk away).
Walk around and let the impressions you left settle in her mind. She'll still be asking herself what happened in case you did it right. The important thing during this approach is to give her a choice that isn't really a choice. Always place the stuff/time you like at last, because it's most likely she'll choose that answer. She'll think she has some control but she'll know subconciously who was in command, leaving a bold and confident impression.
Don't jump her like a desperate chump once you returned. Just be happy, enjoy yourself and dance a little in her sight. She might walk up to you to give you the note, she may not, that's different from time to time. Wait a few minutes and go in for the final approach in case she won't. Don't talk at this point unless she asks you something, just walk up to her while smiling and looking at her eyes (she'll hand out the note in most cases on her own). I like to use my "special smile" at this point, it's basically tilting your head slightly to one side and lowering the face a little while doin' kinda provoking smile and closing your eyes a tiny bit (in case you like to use it, train it infront of a mirror, because it might easily look kinda submissive.) while slowly stretching my arm out, palm sideways up (like an oldschool dance request). Don't say a single word till you have that damn piece of paper in your hand. I like to give some final kino while pulling! her close to me with the other arm, hugging her and whispering something in her ear with a sweet but demanding voice. I don't think it does matter what you say now, just the way you say it is of importance. A half lips or even full lips kiss never failed at this point either.
Don't ignore her from now on! I tried it and the flake risk increased a lot whenever I ignored "her". Just don't cling to her like an AFC.
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How did you find these boards sweetie... JK. Really, that was very good. Especially, the giving her options. I hate when men ask me for a date and then say, "I don't know, what do you want to do"... Very nice.. So, how did the date go? Just curious.