Nervous Validation

[jhonny9546]

The validation and attention that a woman seeks can be likened to a drug for her, much like sex is for men.


But have you ever distinguished between different types of validation?


I have noticed that there are patterns where women, who are well aware that they dislike a particular man because he will always criticize them and is clingy and nosy, still seek his validation. It's as if they know they dislike this person, yet they don't hesitate to show him photos of their trip as soon as they meet him again (could be at the shop, in the workplace, in your social circle, etc).


On the other hand, there are those men to whom they are attracted on a sexual or primal level. With these individuals, women say very little or show them very little. I would call this "nervous" validation.


For instance, when a man approaches the friend of the woman he is interested in, he validates her friend (so as not to appear overly interested in his "prey").

 

[Clockwerk50]

 

[BPH]

@jhonny9546 serious question, and I'm trying very hard to ask this nicely:

You spend a lot of time reading and reviving very old threads to have conversations that don't really go in any direction. What are you doing in real life?

Like are you approaching women? Have you had success with women? Are you developing as a man? I just wonder what you're doing in person if you have the time to dig this deep into aging forum threads.

 

[jhonny9546]

I only revive discussions that are recent, not older than a year.

I am having my success with women, this does not mean I should stop learning.
We are all in the same sea, each in his own boat.