Nervous Validation

[jhonny9546]

The validation and attention that a woman seeks can be likened to a drug for her, much like sex is for men.


But have you ever distinguished between different types of validation?


I have noticed that there are patterns where women, who are well aware that they dislike a particular man because he will always criticize them and is clingy and nosy, still seek his validation. It's as if they know they dislike this person, yet they don't hesitate to show him photos of their trip as soon as they meet him again (could be at the shop, in the workplace, in your social circle, etc).


On the other hand, there are those men to whom they are attracted on a sexual or primal level. With these individuals, women say very little or show them very little. I would call this "nervous" validation.


For instance, when a man approaches the friend of the woman he is interested in, he validates her friend (so as not to appear overly interested in his "prey").

 

[Clockwerk50]

 

[BPH]

@jhonny9546 serious question, and I'm trying very hard to ask this nicely:

You spend a lot of time reading and reviving very old threads to have conversations that don't really go in any direction. What are you doing in real life?

Like are you approaching women? Have you had success with women? Are you developing as a man? I just wonder what you're doing in person if you have the time to dig this deep into aging forum threads.

 

[jhonny9546]

I only revive discussions that are recent, not older than a year.

I am having my success with women, this does not mean I should stop learning.
We are all in the same sea, each in his own boat.

 

[Bible_Belt]

@jhonny9546 serious question, and I'm trying very hard to ask this nicely:

You spend a lot of time reading and reviving very old threads to have conversations that don't really go in any direction. What are you doing in real life?

Like are you approaching women? Have you had success with women? Are you developing as a man? I just wonder what you're doing in person if you have the time to dig this deep into aging forum threads.

Digging up old threads has always been a telltale sign of a bot. This one is really good, I have to admit. They have come a long way.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Digging up old threads has always been a telltale sign of a bot. This one is really good, I have to admit. They have come a long way.

His story about a boss unlocking an employee’s personal phone and laughing at his chats in front of the whole office is an even bigger red flag that he’s a bot. When I asked how the boss knew the passcode, he claimed it was the employee’s date of birth. How would the entire office, OP, and now SoSuave, just happen to know this guy’s birthdate it’s his passcode?

Making stories that make no sense, or threads this one we are posting on, is also another sign. He needs a software update.

Office Incident

A friend of mine works in an office and sent me this message: "Today in the office, a colleague forgot his phone on his desk. The boss saw it and discovered the unlock code. He then checked the colleague's chats and laughed with the other employees. He also told his girlfriend, who was also in...

www.sosuave.net

 

[Barrister]

@jhonny9546 serious question, and I'm trying very hard to ask this nicely:

You spend a lot of time reading and reviving very old threads to have conversations that don't really go in any direction. What are you doing in real life?

Like are you approaching women? Have you had success with women? Are you developing as a man? I just wonder what you're doing in person if you have the time to dig this deep into aging forum threads.

I wouldn’t say there’s anything inherently wrong with reviving old threads. In fact, sometimes it’s interesting to see how the board’s view has changed since I’ve been here or even before.

When it comes to OP specifically, he reminds me a lot of some older posters that never changed anything about their game and constantly came up short. To the point I wonder if he is actually one of those older posters under a new handle.