nervous to do kino?

aguynamedwill

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for those of you who have seen me post before, i'm only just getting the hang of all this. I've got the mindset (thanks Pook) and the body language is down. And conversation skills are continually improving (just talk about them and occasionally tease).

So now I'm ready to enter into the area of kino. I had an opportunity today, but I didn't even realise it until after it had passed!!!! I know thats part of learning, but I also know I get nervous as I try to start a new step. I don't want it to take me forever to get this handled.

What did you guys do to help you get over nervousness when you started this??

Any tips on where I should touch a girl initially??

Thanks
 

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Just like with any situation, if you want it to become more comfortable and less nerve-racking, you've got to practice. Kino every chick you try to DJ. If you come across as awkward the first few times and it drives a couple of girls away, so be it. No sweat off your nuts--you've gained some practice for the future. Pretty soon you'll be applying kino in conversation without even realizing it--and with killer results.

Any tips on where I should touch a girl initially??
Cooter, baby. It's all about the cooter.
 

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start with her arm or her hand, it's a pretty neutral zone. the only way to get comfortable is time...and when a chick touches you back it's usually a go-ahead to touch her more
 

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i found a bunch of info in the bible, as i knew i would.

and i agree, that practice + knowledge = becoming comfortable

it just takes me FOREVER to do it the first few times
 

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Funny anecdote

This reminds me of a night a few weeks ago when I was at a bar. I met a group of three girls (two 6's, and a 7). After I sat down and chatted for half an hour, I challenged the 7 to a thumb-wrestling match. I really got into it...like holding down for a two-count, then releasing, holding down, releasing....then finally broke it with a big kiss.

The looks on her friends' faces were priceless.
 

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I know how you feel about kino...the whole thing about being raised by women in an androgynous society, along with all those "touching other people is harassment" seminars you got in middle school, make it seem like physical contact should be avoided.

It's hard for me, too. Even when I know I should touch a girl, I cringe at the thought of "offending" her or making her uncomfortable.

You know what, though, if she can't handle a friendly, non-sexual touch, then f*** her.

It really DOES separate the men from the boys when you feel like you can touch a woman without having to ask her permission or act all awkward and sneaky about it. It lets her know you're comfortable with being physically intimate with her. Which counts a LOT toward whether she wants to sleep with you. Not to mention that it reeks of self-confidence in a society where many men are afraid to even LOOK at women.

I feel like there are certain opportunities I've lost because of a failure to make physical contact in time to keep the woman's interest.
 

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well I did it

I did it. I touched a girl I barely knew. Ha, and I messed it up. I touched for too long and too much pressure.

Something I noticed, is this chick kept making opportunities available for me to touch her. Like 'hey look at my bracelet' and 'look over here with me' etc. Is this normal?
 

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I'll bet yoour not too nervous to do self-Kino when you are locked in the bathroom for 2 a hrs a day are you??

Go out there and treat the girl as if you are the Star at circle Jerk.
 

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lol...self-Kino..

anyway, I was nervous to initiate Kino not to long ago as I didnt want to offend this hb, some are more receptive to it than others.

One night my 'game was on' more than usual and I approached the hb (young Heather Graham sp? look-a-like) who works in Kmart. I just started asking her questions about some products in a non-serious almost mocking way, all the while keeping eye contact, with a slight smirk and a 'seductive' voice (lol, no not changing my voice to sound like a creep/stalker, I just talked slower and put more 'meaning' behind the words), also leaning in over the counter so we were face to face. She started blushing and stuttering a little because she was getting a little shy/nervous/hot.

I noticed a ring on her finger so I commented on it, saying I was looking to buy a ring for my cousins birthday and that it looked interesting an all that, (she was like, 'oh yeah I bet its for your girlfriend'). I casually and slowly took hold of her hand and was initiating light Kino all the while pretending to be concentrating on the ring.
She also had a neck band thingy (you know the lace type ones) which she was playing with while I was trying to look at the ring. I casually took that off her as I playfully said that it was getting in the way of my ring looking. It smelled of perfume so I mentioned that and asked what perfume it was. All while I slowly leaned in to her neck and was doing the 'smelling/breathing' on her neck, (thanks for that tip sosuave forums!). I slowly 'smelled' my way around to the front where I made eye contact and just SLIGHTLY brushed her lips with mine.

She got all flustered and breathed out heavily and was speachless. Ive never seen a girl so nervous in 'that way' all my life. I broke the magic moment abrubtly and said that I gotta go, and did a number close. She ripped out a receipt and quickly scribbled her name and number down for me, all the while unknown to the both of us, a whole group of customers were looking on in dis-belief/silence.

lol... probably my best moment in DJ'ing yet! Anyway, try this form of Kino out ('breathing smell' technique included) for yourself. Just adapt it to the situation, and of course, check if the whole atmosphere and progression is right and gradual. Gradual doesnt necessarily mean slowly though, just take it step by step.

Thats all for now folks!
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

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I think it was the eye contact that did like 70% of the work. You must have really good eyes to pull this off.
 
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