Nervous about approaching

[B-Real]

Ok heres the deal. I seen a girl outside my class. She goes and sits at same spot everyday. She is waiting to use the classroom that I am in.

I have noticed her a few times. I have no clue what to say to her. She is very pretty, always smiling. A buddy of mind told me who she was and said that she is kinda dating some other guy. He does not to to the same school as we do.

I'm not worried about the other guy. I'm not worried about anything except what to say to break the ice. I mean, I know she is waiting to use my classroom. And she knows that it is obvious. So I do'nt wanna come out and say "so, are you waiting on my class?" or something gay like that.

I think I need something creative to say that I would normally think of myself if not really pressured into thinking. See there.. thats to much thinking.

I wanna come across as ****y and funny, but for some reason, there is nothing that comes to mind that sounds like any good.

She sits there mostly by herself, everyonce in a while there will be another girl (less attractive) I'm pretty sure that sits beside her thats in the same class as her. hmmm maybe I should not come out and directly talk to my target, but talk to other, less attractive girl.

I need some help. I have the potential, I just need help from the experts

 

[Obsidian]

You're never going to get anywhere asking for specific lines from an online forum. Study this site and others like it until you get an overall idea of how to open. Practice on lots of girls until you become less nervous and become experienced at making up random stuff at the spur of the moment.

If you don't know anything about someone, tho, I don't see how you expect to *plan* a conversation, which is what it sounds like you're trying. You have to find out whatever you have in common asap and latch onto that for conversation material.

As for openings, maybe do some or all of the following:
1) say hi (then smile back if she smiles first)
2) neg hit something she's carrying or wearing (Mediocre neg hits can be as simple as saying something practically neutral - Eg: "That's an interesting/unusual/weird <whatever> you have"
3) ask what her name is (but don't tell her yours until she asks)
4) if you shake hands, hold it for a bit longer than usual
5) if you say something that makes her laugh or vice versa, touch her briefly (sets foundation for kino) to establish a connection
6) leave whenever you run out of things to say/do, but maybe try to sit near her later if that's an option

 

[The Juan and only]

To put it in the american vernacular, ya mindset is whack dude - that's to say, it's not like totally awesome, u wiv me dog?

The problem with these posts is that there's just too much to say, so nobody bothers.

Bottom line: You're worrying far too much. It doesn't matter what you say.

 

[BBX]

To put it in the american vernacular, ya mindset is whack dude - that's to say, it's not like totally awesome, u wiv me dog?

The problem with these posts is that there's just too much to say, so nobody bothers.

Bottom line: You're worrying far too much. It doesn't matter what you say.

Your american vernacular is so 1990, but hey, your from the uk. The most important thing you can do is not putting off approaching her, the sooner you do it the better, it dosen't even have to be anything major, you'll see her again. The best advice is to comment about something she has with light c+f like someone already mentioned.

 

[The Juan and only]

yeah i'm not up with the latest stuff, least i tried. was a fair effort i thought
:crazy:

and yes B-Real, get off your ass and approach asap. At the very least, you'll get some valuable experience.

 

[B-Real]

Yea appreciate the advice, I will approach asap. I think I am putting her up on a pedestal and thats not what i usually do, its just that this girl is so..perky and smart.

I kinda smell a little challenge, so this should be fun

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

talking to ppl is easy....

I'm a go for broke ***** , very direct and to the point. I believe if a woman likes u it doesn't take a whole lot of DJ/PUA magic to get her. I have my own life and time is short. Spit yo game talk yo shyt and be out.

Observe, Question, Fluff, Joke, Kill.

 

[Freewheelin Frank]

Approaching is hard for me too

Infact I'm willing to bet I'm worse than just about anyone else here about that. I also have a long way to go on KINO..

To be honest at this point in my life being a virgin and so lonely I don't have any standards I'd really take anything right now, if nothing else for the experience.

 

[The Juan and only]

Approaching is hard for me too

Infact I'm willing to bet I'm worse than just about anyone else here about that. I also have a long way to go on KINO..

To be honest at this point in my life being a virgin and so lonely I don't have any standards I'd really take anything right now, if nothing else for the experience.

oh man franky dude, it can't be that bad. And I think you'd be surprised how quickly you can improve when it comes to the fear of approaching/social fear in general. ok, you aren't great at it now...so do somethin about it.

challenges are what make life exciting..and sittin' there on your ass moaning about this and that won't get you anywhere.

Now, I'm notorious for giving advice that's based purely on the song I'm listening to; but just think of it this way:
you get knocked down, but you get up again, they ain't eva gonna keep you down.

if you think that's irrelevant, just wait 'till I tell to you you're a karma chameleon.

 

[B-Real]

I've always had pretty good success with cold approaches. Like I'm probably one of the only ones of my friends that will go up to a random girl and start talking to her.

I think being funny has a lot to do with it. and I'm naturally funny. And I don't let things get to my head to much.

I guess I kinda contradict myself by posting that message about approaching and being nervous. Really smart and perky girls that know they could get any guy they want is what I have probably the hardest time dealing with.

But I'm not completely stressed out about, cause i realize that for every girl out there you think is perfect, their is two more thats better and prettier than her.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

talking to ppl is easy....

I'm a go for broke ***** , very direct and to the point. I believe if a woman likes u it doesn't take a whole lot of DJ/PUA magic to get her. I have my own life and time is short. Spit yo game talk yo shyt and be out.

Observe, Question, Fluff, Joke, Kill.

Observe, Question, Fluff, Joke, Kill...

That is the perfect title for a seduction ebook.....

 

[knglerxt]

I have noticed her a few times. I have no clue what to say to her. She is very pretty, always smiling. A buddy of mind told me who she was and said that she is kinda dating some other guy. He does not to to the same school as we do.

I hate that term, "kinda dating". You're either seeing someone, or you're not. There is no inbetween.