Negotiating with someone that screwed you over

[Reyaj]

If someone ****ed you over in a deal of any kind, how would you approach a future negotiation with them if you had no choice?

Would you call them out on their previous bs.... show anger.. threaten them? Or is it better to just try and be nice about it.........

 

[KontrollerX]

I would use blackmail to be quite honest if I had anything on that particular person.

Using threats or anger just isn't going to get the job done if the person doesn't believe anything bad will happen to them.

In fact it would make you look weak.

If I couldn't use blackmail I would try and have my bases covered before dealing with that person again and approach them in a calm collected manner so that if it was a business deal or whatever they would get in legal trouble this time if they were to screw me over again.

 

[Docs]

Explain the circumstances....it'll help us visualize what you're talking about.
But really, you always have someone else. YOU

 

[mahon83050]

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[Reyaj]

Well I went to buy a new cell phone and it was at one of these independently owned places and the sales person talked me into getting 2 lines so I can get the phone cheaper and then cancel 1 of the lines when my contract was up. Well it turns out both lines were enrolled for a 2 year agreement and I am stuck paying the 2 lines. He conned me. Do I go tell him off or try to work something out? I dont think theres anything he can do since the contract is with the cell service though.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Unfortunately even though the guy lied, you would lose in court, because any contract dispute is governed by the terms of the agreement only, and contemporaneous oral statements are irrelevant. That essentially means that they can get away with lying. Courts do it this way in part because of the difficulty in proving who said what. So fwiw, what the salesman says means zero; you have to read and understand what is written in the contract.

Just act like it never happened, but never believe anything he says. Get everything in writing and understand it first, which btw I know is not easy, fine print is not meant to be easily understood.

 

[Reyaj]

BB you are 100 percent right and I realize this. My instinct is to go tell him off of threaten to report his business to the better business bureau. However Ive been reading this book about Negotiating and it says you should try to focus on common interests and sepreate people from the problem etc... so it clouded my judgement for a second but this isn't a negotiation he conned me...

So yeah maybe I should try to negotiate for a credit or something and if not threathen to report him to the BBB?

is it it even worth it you think??

 

[Stuntmann]

You have nothing against the guy. He didn't screw you. You were stupid and he sold to the stupid. Unethical.

You should not deal with people that are unethical.

There are other ways out. Such as sell one of your phones, that will help to pay the cancelation fee.


Don't hate the player buddy, hate the game. Know the game and play it, or otherwise be left out and get played.


Going back to get played more?? I don't know. Step up, pay up, and move on.