Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I’ve always been a little surprised at how my girlfriend (who is now my wife) always loved that playful ****iness and bravado. I guess it works because she knows that in actual fact I’m a very considerate, caring person.
I have found that the two genders (yes, I dare to say there are only two genders) are deeply attracted to that which the other lacks.
Women are by nature insecure and unsure of themselves and very much constrained by the complex social web they find themselves in.
Consequently, they are deeply attracted to our boldness, co ckiness, rejection of social constraints, and penchant for risk-taking.
We, on the other hand, are deeply attracted to their child-like qualities, their gentleness, their weakness, their nurturing ways, and their submissive nature. We are even programmed to love the child’s voice that they maintain throughout life. All of this is of course the direct opposite of us.
My wife barely responds at all to compliments, especially physical ones (she’s very pretty) but even ones regarding character. She appreciates character compliments, sure, but it’s amazing to see how she shifts into that loving, deeply emotional gaze when I say something like “Yeah, of course you do” when she says she loves me. That’s just a random, simple example. You guys know what I mean… when they get that rush of emotion flooding over them and they look at you a certain way and have to touch you or embrace you.
It took me a long time to understand this because I’m by nature polite and respectful (apart from my persona here on SS) and always felt the urge or necessity to extend extreme politeness to women. Bad strategy. Men value consistent politeness, but women are most assuredly turned off by consistent politeness without a healthy dose of co ckiness and boldness and dominance. I believe that nothing excites them more than a dominant man who routinely demonstrates slight detachment and a nuanced air of superiority. Her deepest desire is to submit, and she knows full well that there are few men today whom she can submit to. Because of that, she has to make compromises and consider her man’s partial dominance as “good enough”.
When you are ****y and dominant while also demonstrating that you are deep down a man of caring and respect to the people around you, you’ve got the magic formula for success with women.
It’s a highly nuanced balance that most men can only start to get a handle on in their 40s and beyond. There are exceptions, a few younger ones can get it, but the real nuance to the point that you “flow” with this balance usually comes later in life. Until then it sounds good on paper but you have no idea how to find that balance.
The trick is to assume the role of the servant-leader. You take the lead in all situations by conveying that you lead for the benefit of the people around you. Women pick up on this attitude and are helpless to admire and desire such a man.
Remember that a woman cannot “date down” and be happy. She needs to look up to her man. That’s why I advocate for an attitude of superiority with women, peppered with kindness and concern for others.
Life is paradox.
I have found that the two genders (yes, I dare to say there are only two genders) are deeply attracted to that which the other lacks.
Women are by nature insecure and unsure of themselves and very much constrained by the complex social web they find themselves in.
Consequently, they are deeply attracted to our boldness, co ckiness, rejection of social constraints, and penchant for risk-taking.
We, on the other hand, are deeply attracted to their child-like qualities, their gentleness, their weakness, their nurturing ways, and their submissive nature. We are even programmed to love the child’s voice that they maintain throughout life. All of this is of course the direct opposite of us.
My wife barely responds at all to compliments, especially physical ones (she’s very pretty) but even ones regarding character. She appreciates character compliments, sure, but it’s amazing to see how she shifts into that loving, deeply emotional gaze when I say something like “Yeah, of course you do” when she says she loves me. That’s just a random, simple example. You guys know what I mean… when they get that rush of emotion flooding over them and they look at you a certain way and have to touch you or embrace you.
It took me a long time to understand this because I’m by nature polite and respectful (apart from my persona here on SS) and always felt the urge or necessity to extend extreme politeness to women. Bad strategy. Men value consistent politeness, but women are most assuredly turned off by consistent politeness without a healthy dose of co ckiness and boldness and dominance. I believe that nothing excites them more than a dominant man who routinely demonstrates slight detachment and a nuanced air of superiority. Her deepest desire is to submit, and she knows full well that there are few men today whom she can submit to. Because of that, she has to make compromises and consider her man’s partial dominance as “good enough”.
When you are ****y and dominant while also demonstrating that you are deep down a man of caring and respect to the people around you, you’ve got the magic formula for success with women.
It’s a highly nuanced balance that most men can only start to get a handle on in their 40s and beyond. There are exceptions, a few younger ones can get it, but the real nuance to the point that you “flow” with this balance usually comes later in life. Until then it sounds good on paper but you have no idea how to find that balance.
The trick is to assume the role of the servant-leader. You take the lead in all situations by conveying that you lead for the benefit of the people around you. Women pick up on this attitude and are helpless to admire and desire such a man.
Remember that a woman cannot “date down” and be happy. She needs to look up to her man. That’s why I advocate for an attitude of superiority with women, peppered with kindness and concern for others.
Life is paradox.
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