Needs Time Alone?

[kingxxxman]

Will do. And anyone else care to weigh in?

 

[Starkwell]

A high school student in a LTR haha. Most girls under 24 are way too immature to handle a relationship and this is what you have here. She got dumped and wants the guy back but she will be only used for sex when the guy wants it. You are the "stand in" guy until she thinks she can get back with the ex. So she will be hot and cold with you. I'm sure that is something that you don't want.

Go out and meet other girls and don't get involved in relationships because most of them never work out especially with a girl who has feelings for another guy because she won't have the same feelings for you.

 

[kingxxxman]

A high school student in a LTR haha. Most girls under 24 are way too immature to handle a relationship and this is what you have here. She got dumped and wants the guy back but she will be only used for sex when the guy wants it. You are the "stand in" guy until she thinks she can get back with the ex. So she will be hot and cold with you. I'm sure that is something that you don't want.

Go out and meet other girls and don't get involved in relationships because most of them never work out especially with a girl who has feelings for another guy because she won't have the same feelings for you.

Interesting. How will I know that she's lost feelings for the other guy?

 

[Starkwell]

Interesting. How will I know that she's lost feelings for the other guy?

Well, if she lost her feelings for him she would be with you right now. Right? She wouldn't be holding on and waiting for him to get back with her.

The ex is holding all the cards here, and you have been dealt a bad hand. He has the power and can string her along for ever how long he wants, because he knows that he can have her anytime he wants, and she will come running to him like a little puppy dog. That is what you should be concerned about if you decide to be with her.

This was probably her first "true love" and she can't let it go. If she can't have the same feelings she has for you, that she still has for him, then there is no point in being with her. Because she will always have something she can't have, and no matter how much you try, you won't be able to fill what she really wants.

Let me put it this way, no matter how you feel about her, she is not feeling the same for you. That isn't a good relationship and is one sided. You will be the "stand in" guy to replace the ex for the time being. When the ex wants to hook up with her, she will, because she will think that by doing that she can get him back. Or if he dumps his current chick, he could always use her as his "stand in" until he finds someone else. Do you really want that? She will leave you and cheat on you if she thinks she can get back with him.

You are young and should enjoy meeting new girls and don't get too attached to them because girls at a young age will switch their tune overnight when a new guy comes along that they think might be better than you. They are too immature and love attention and if a guy gives it to them they will eat it up and go through guys like water.

Just an example. I worked with a guy who had the same situation as you. I told him the same thing. Not to get too involved with her. She had feelings for the ex but he was with another chick. So he had the guy at work as her "stand in" until her ex dumped the current chick. The relationship lasted about 6 months and she left him to go back to the ex. She was cheating on him before she dumped him and made him feel like crap. He found out the hard way. He ended up being really depressed and lost his job because he couldn't focus and missed lots of work. He said he couldn't eat or sleep and thought about her all the time.

Not saying that you will be a mess like he was, but you will get dumped or cheated on by her because the ex has her at his disposal anytime he wants. If a girl can't be with you for you, and still has a thing for someone else, then she isn't worth the time to be with you and should only be used for an f buddy. Because the feelings you have for her, will have you ending up with hurt feelings, because in the end, she will choose the ex over you.

 

[kingxxxman]

If I get past this girl, is there any chance she can come back into my life? I feel like I don't have the closure that I really need.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

1) Go to the high school forum

2) Your "problem" is too easy. Girls your age who are attractive are hardly single for more than a couple of months tops. They are ALWAYS ready for a relationship. I know because I was in high school not too long ago. What she means to say is that she's just not ready for a relationship with YOU. She doesn't have the maturity or courtesy to be honest with you, so now I have to be the honest voice for you. She's obviously chasing another guy (her EX).

Go chase other girls and find a girl who is ready for a relationship with YOU and doesn't give you lame cop out lies.

Btw...a teenage girl never wants "times alone" from a guy she is attracted to. Trust me. You will grow and learn soon enough.

 

[kingxxxman]

Oh and I'm actually in College at Mich.

 

[kingxxxman]

So she just completed ignored one of my texts today. I'm done with this girl. How do I get back at her?

 

[Buddha_Mind]

So she just completed ignored one of my texts today. I'm done with this girl. How do I get back at her?

You get back at her by stopping your reaching out to her and ignoring her and going on with your life. Every day you drain your emotional energy over this stuff, you're losing. So stop reaching out. If you go 1 month NC maybe she'll text you, and you can ignore it because you've seen her true colors;or you can explore it--but if you keep pegging at her you're just pushing her further away. It would be better to let the entire situation free from your mind and focus on other women whom are more receptive and not leaving you in a dark chasm of mystery.

 

[goldengoose]

If I get past this girl, is there any chance she can come back into my life? I feel like I don't have the closure that I really need.

who cares. why would you want a girl back who rejected you the first time? find someone else that will want to be with you. You won't get any from her. She won't give you any. All you need to know is that she chose the ex over you and is ignoring you. move on and meet other girls. That is all you can do or it will eat you up.

So she just completed ignored one of my texts today. I'm done with this girl. How do I get back at her?

why did you still bother to text her when she said she needed time alone? take the hint dude. she didn't want to hear from you. then you still texted her. so of course she is still going to ignore you.

you can't get back at her because it wil make you look more pathetic after she shot you down. what you can do is get a great girl and enjoy your life without her and maybe she will find out about it. Live well. That is the best revenge.

 

[kingxxxman]

You get back at her by stopping your reaching out to her and ignoring her and going on with your life. Every day you drain your emotional energy over this stuff, you're losing. So stop reaching out. If you go 1 month NC maybe she'll text you, and you can ignore it because you've seen her true colors;or you can explore it--but if you keep pegging at her you're just pushing her further away. It would be better to let the entire situation free from your mind and focus on other women whom are more receptive and not leaving you in a dark chasm of mystery.

Thanks man! I went out with a girl today just for casual dinner at a restaurant. Lo and behold, the girl that rejected me is at the table right across from mine. I avoid eye contact with her and have a good time with the girl I'm with. About 5 hours later, the girl that rejected me sends me a text message asking me what's up and when i'm heading home, I'm guessing she got jealous or something. How can i use this to my advantage to build more attraction?

 

[DonJuanabe]

Why don't you put your thoughts into the girl you took out on a date instead?