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Afternoon guys been on this forum for 2 years now and learned a lot which im thankful for. In the middle of reading rational male at the moment. im 28 single have been for 6 months or so, i still stay with my dad (working on that) im a keen golfer and go too the gym 3 times per week, i stay in Britain, scotland too be exact. The last few months i have been on a few dates and too be honest im not impressed with the dating market what i see is women who are trash i cant think of any other word for women in the 18 to 28 age bracket, obsessed with snapchat and social media, dont value money at all intact have no values on anything, i am quite careful with my money i keep getting asked from older workmates when are you going too settle down you are going too end up lonely old man etc u know the things the bluepill guys say if only they could see the light i have seen, how do you guys deal with these remarks? Basically im looking for advice on what road i should go on from now as i cant see myself getting into any relationships anytime soon. Cheers andy
 

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its not just women , that's the way a whole generation is going

society is failing because people are so disillusioned as to what life should actually entail

see yourself as fortune others do not want to see what is happening around them because they can not cope with it

focus your life on yourself and what you want to do, relationships ,marriages, family's etc. are becoming a thing of the past and its going to get a lot worse before it gets any better......
 

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Social media is lame because it is fake, photoshopping pictures, blowing little things out of proportions, and lets not forget people only posting the good to make their lives seem better. I know a few girls who actually do not stay on social media all day, keepers
 

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Yeah society is fu---ed in my opinion, think the way too go from now on is pump and dump can't see any other options these women bore me too death and are so materialistic its unreal.
 

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Social media is lame because it is fake, photoshopping pictures, blowing little things out of proportions, and lets not forget people only posting the good to make their lives seem better. I know a few girls who actually do not stay on social media all day, keepers
This is exactly right. So many people, all they post is one awesome thing after another happening in their life and if you can't post something similar to match them or post something that's better than their's, well then your life sucks and you're not worthy of them spending their time with you. For these people going out to eat for dinner that costs $200/person every night, skydiving, front row tickets to every concert, and most of all TRAVELLING TO EVERY POSSIBLE DESTINATION IN THE WORLD...all this is just their normal everyday life. Nothing bad ever happens.

Then people wonder why these idiots cant handle any sort of criticism.
 

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@andy87 If women depress you that much then don't worry about it. Better to be alone than to take any woman because your workmates think you should have one. With time you'll stumble across someone worth your time and attention, but to look for it is a bad idea because you likely will see a lot you don't want.

@Bingo-Player I wonder, what should life actually entail? I don't have a solid answer to that, I seriously doubt you have one.
 

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@Bingo-Player I wonder, what should life actually entail? I don't have a solid answer to that, I seriously doubt you have one.
just to be honest with yourself and your expectations in life

too many people assume that by following a blueprint they cannot fail and when they inevitably do because of the variables life will throw at you

they cannot comprehend why.
 

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just to be honest with yourself and your expectations in life

too many people assume that by following a blueprint they cannot fail and when they inevitably do because of the variables life will throw at you

they cannot comprehend why.
Oh, that's what you're talking about. Still "being honest" isn't exactly the mantra of this forum, though I wish it was.

I agree there's no blueprint. It's odd how people want one, it's the opposite of freedom. Although freedom can be scary as fvck sometimes.
 

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Basically im looking for advice on what road i should go on from now as i cant see myself getting into any relationships anytime soon.
Believe it or not you're still very young. At this point in your life, see women only as a hobby and only if they don't take too much effort, otherwise, forget about it. Focus on your career, your wealth building skills, social skills etc. As these naturally grow, women will start to bother you less and less, as you will become more "high value" in their eyes. Note this is a SIDE EFFECT not the main goal.

People that ask you why haven't you settled down yet are likely settled down themselves (misery loves company) or women who hate to see an independent man, because the very idea of that takes away from their "girl power."

Don't chase girls, chase life. Create a MASSIVE GOAL that's five to ten years out, and focus MAINLY on that.

Lump in girls with golf and all your other hobbies.
 

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If you want to settle down one day, don't stop looking for quality girls. Don't think a quality girl is going to fall into your lap from the heaven on her own. Think it is a long process. If you want to land a quality girl, you have to be a quality man yourself.

I hang out a lot in coffee shops, public libraries, bookstores, etc. mainly reading books to give certifications in my profession and advance myself in the career I chose. I have also started a new business on my own, so when I hang out in public places, I do my thing; for instance, I do my research on how to grow my business, how to diversify my business, and studying for certifications that advance my professional skills. If you are regular at these public places, people start noticing you, the word gets out, and they start to hook you up with quality girls. As I said, it is a long process. It could take several months or several years if you are looking for a quality partner.

If you are aiming at something, don't give up. If your aim is to get a quality girl, then let's be it and aim for it. Making money is not difficult. You could make a lot of money. The more you work, the more money you make. In the end, what is the point of making money, when there is no quality person (or are no quality people) in your life to share?
 

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Enjoy your life...women are a pleasure or a pain in the ass or both. The moment you understand redpill theory normal blueprints no longer apply.
 

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If you want to settle down one day, don't stop looking for quality girls. Don't think a quality girl is going to fall into your lap from the heaven on her own. Think it is a long process. If you want to land a quality girl, you have to be a quality man yourself.

I hang out a lot in coffee shops, public libraries, bookstores, etc. mainly reading books to give certifications in my profession and advance myself in the career I chose. I have also started a new business on my own, so when I hang out in public places, I do my thing; for instance, I do my research on how to grow my business, how to diversify my business, and studying for certifications that advance my professional skills. If you are regular at these public places, people start noticing you, the word gets out, and they start to hook you up with quality girls. As I said, it is a long process. It could take several months or several years if you are looking for a quality partner.

If you are aiming at something, don't give up. If your aim is to get a quality girl, then let's be it and aim for it. Making money is not difficult. You could make a lot of money. The more you work, the more money you make. In the end, what is the point of making money, when there is no quality person (or are no quality people) in your life to share?
Thanks for the advice so far guys, whats everyones opinion on what a quality man should be?
 

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He should know his own values and be true to them. He should be honest and trustworthy (and this IS possible in an open relationship). He should be trying to make himself a better man, physically, emotionally and intellectually. He should take responsibility for his actions. He should have goals. He should give value to the people around him. He should be making the lives of those around him better. He should genuinely like women but realise that they are an extra not an integral part of his life. He should love life.

Tl:Dr...be true to your beliefs. Don't be a douche, ***** or whiner. Make your life and the lives of those around you better.
 

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I guarantee most of the guys asking when u gonna settle down are married to average looking women and would kill to be single!!!!
 

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This is exactly right. So many people, all they post is one awesome thing after another happening in their life and if you can't post something similar to match them or post something that's better than their's, well then your life sucks and you're not worthy of them spending their time with you. For these people going out to eat for dinner that costs $200/person every night, skydiving, front row tickets to every concert, and most of all TRAVELLING TO EVERY POSSIBLE DESTINATION IN THE WORLD...all this is just their normal everyday life. Nothing bad ever happens.

Then people wonder why these idiots cant handle any sort of criticism.
haha love that sarcasm. Made me laugh hard because it is so true. In reality they are nothing, and due to the "social media effect", they think they are somebody because they have a few followers.

Not sure what the big appeal is for being famous on the internet anyway. Back when I used to play counter strike competitively, even the bigger guys never wanted to be "e famous" because they thought it meant nothing. Oh, how the times have changed.
 
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