tincanman99
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 18, 2004
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First off let me say I have been reading the articles and forums here for a number of years and come to the realization that they are pretty much on the money in regards to women and life in general many times.
I am going to openly say I have been AFC/Beta my whole life. It was hard for me to admit it to myself but its true. From the time time I was like 5 I always remember being hyper shy, no self confidence. Not sure why, I just was.
Anyway this has f*cked up my life in more ways than most can ever imagine. When I was in high school and college I didnt really date because I was stupidly shy and I had a double major in business and electrical engineering. No women, no dating, no anything.
I had a womanizing friend who was a natural PUA. He would pick up women in the street in NYC. He was that good. He had a rap on him and he tried to teach me when we were young (like 19) but I was always just too shy. He would be like - you over think it to much. Just talk, who cares what they think. I remember he would walk up to women on the street and tell them they had a great as*. Instead of getting slapped they would give him their number and than he would be banging them. At one point he was banging like 5 women simultaniously including his primary girlfriend who looked like she stepped out of Playboy.
Regardless I ended up in a high tech company
surrounded by briliant but totally AFC guys. This I can say - all of these guys have married pretty much the first woman that came along. None really dated anyone. Maybe 1 woman before their wife. Their lives pretty much suck today.
I have had several jobs that helped me get out of my shell including being the assistant of a VP who literally forced me in front of people though I was terrified. I had another one spent negotiating technology contracts so I was forced to talk to strangers all day long every single day.
Today the shyness is pretty much only reserved in social situations where I like a woman. Like picking up a woman in a bar - good luck with that. You might as well hit me with 2x4. Today when I tell people I used to be hyper shy they dont believe me. My boss on my recent evaluation said I have superior written and oral communication skills.
In the last 1.5 years I have made changes - lost the 40lbs I had put on by hiring a smoking hot woman trainer who literally beat the hell out of me. She got my waist down from a 42 to a 36 and cut my body fat in 1/2.
She also helped me with my ward drobe, hair cut and everything else. Today she is my pal which is good. It provides social value because women got to watch her transform me and have seen me with her many times.
I also have come to the realization that porn is no good. Its an addiction and replacement for real women. Their is no motivation to chase women if you are at home spanking it. I have realized that I have used it literally as a replacement so I do not have to go out there and meet women. Pretty f*cked up when you step back and think about it.
Regardless I just finished deleting all of it and destroying all the bookmarks as well. Starting tonight, no more.
This is the only part of my life that is still f*cked up. I do very well financially and the only thing that is missing is the women. I have a very bad habit of when I get discouraged I retreat and back off totally. Only in my case I back off for years.
So this is all good but I still SUCK with women. I am totally clueless and am looking for someplace to start. I bought the Neil Straus books as well as Mystery's. I need to make changes, I cant keep living the way I am living.
So what would you guys recomend, I will take any suggestions you have.
I am going to openly say I have been AFC/Beta my whole life. It was hard for me to admit it to myself but its true. From the time time I was like 5 I always remember being hyper shy, no self confidence. Not sure why, I just was.
Anyway this has f*cked up my life in more ways than most can ever imagine. When I was in high school and college I didnt really date because I was stupidly shy and I had a double major in business and electrical engineering. No women, no dating, no anything.
I had a womanizing friend who was a natural PUA. He would pick up women in the street in NYC. He was that good. He had a rap on him and he tried to teach me when we were young (like 19) but I was always just too shy. He would be like - you over think it to much. Just talk, who cares what they think. I remember he would walk up to women on the street and tell them they had a great as*. Instead of getting slapped they would give him their number and than he would be banging them. At one point he was banging like 5 women simultaniously including his primary girlfriend who looked like she stepped out of Playboy.
Regardless I ended up in a high tech company
surrounded by briliant but totally AFC guys. This I can say - all of these guys have married pretty much the first woman that came along. None really dated anyone. Maybe 1 woman before their wife. Their lives pretty much suck today.
I have had several jobs that helped me get out of my shell including being the assistant of a VP who literally forced me in front of people though I was terrified. I had another one spent negotiating technology contracts so I was forced to talk to strangers all day long every single day.
Today the shyness is pretty much only reserved in social situations where I like a woman. Like picking up a woman in a bar - good luck with that. You might as well hit me with 2x4. Today when I tell people I used to be hyper shy they dont believe me. My boss on my recent evaluation said I have superior written and oral communication skills.
In the last 1.5 years I have made changes - lost the 40lbs I had put on by hiring a smoking hot woman trainer who literally beat the hell out of me. She got my waist down from a 42 to a 36 and cut my body fat in 1/2.
She also helped me with my ward drobe, hair cut and everything else. Today she is my pal which is good. It provides social value because women got to watch her transform me and have seen me with her many times.
I also have come to the realization that porn is no good. Its an addiction and replacement for real women. Their is no motivation to chase women if you are at home spanking it. I have realized that I have used it literally as a replacement so I do not have to go out there and meet women. Pretty f*cked up when you step back and think about it.
Regardless I just finished deleting all of it and destroying all the bookmarks as well. Starting tonight, no more.
This is the only part of my life that is still f*cked up. I do very well financially and the only thing that is missing is the women. I have a very bad habit of when I get discouraged I retreat and back off totally. Only in my case I back off for years.
So this is all good but I still SUCK with women. I am totally clueless and am looking for someplace to start. I bought the Neil Straus books as well as Mystery's. I need to make changes, I cant keep living the way I am living.
So what would you guys recomend, I will take any suggestions you have.