When coming to University I decided to stay in relationship with 8.5/10 from back home who *gasp* ended up coming to the same college as me. She was a virgin before me, she is very attractive and also very sweet (naive and innocent), however we have incompatible senses of humour and share few interests but her clinginess (and my desire for her ass) has helped maintain the relationship. Obviously this (going to the same college) sparked a lot of concerns at first but I convinced myself it would be fine as I was acting like a stupid beta faggot.
Obviously it wasn't fine, I found the first few weeks of uni stressful as f*ck surrounded with paranoia and depression as other guys hit on her and I consequently spent too much time going out to town with her as a guardian (and her new college friends) and therefore not meeting any new people myself or socialising with my new college buddies.
Soon I realised I didn't really have any other friends apart from her, I was so obsessed with seeing her and overcome with jealousy that I had forgotten everything I've learned on this site. Immediately I realised things had to change.
Immediately I get tinder and also start hooking up with other girls behind her back, because f*ck it I'm 19 and decided I needed to spin plates before committing to breaking up with her. I bang 3 girls who I meet in clubs as one night stands, all ranging from HB5 to HB7 and who seem a lot more experienced and mature than her (with her being a virgin this is a given).
This makes me feel a lot better and it's refreshing to actually hang around with cool girls who share a similar sense of humour to me and have a vibrant personality with some attitude as opposed to my current gf which feels like ****ing a pretty doll who says very little and wants you to sensitively look after her constantly.
I don't think my GF is a bad girl or means to depress me, she's just a little naive and I'm her first boyfriend, yet I constantly find myself feeling annoyed after I've banged her, like the only reason I'm going out with her is because of her looks and I have no real desire to act as a boyfriend or guardian type figure to her like she expects of me.
Obviously if you can see where this is going, then it's apparent I have an attachment issue to this girl based on the fact that so far I havn't been able to secure a source of sex from someone who is as attractive as her. The most attractive girl of the 3 I cheated with caused me to develop oneitis and I scared her off with my constant ****ing messaging over the next week or so. My god I am deprived.
Anyway, as of now I've been going to the gym regularly and studying hard, and trying to see my girlfriend much less, it has become more of a chore to me. I am still banging 1 of the 3 girls occasionally behind my gf's back but she has become more of a friend to me. I'm trying to meet potential male friends as much as possible but I feel as though I've left it too late now as it's hard to immerse myself into already established groups and am considered just going my own way.
I would appreciate any advice on how to end this relationship and when, as currently I feel as though a lot of changes/improvements need to be made first otherwise Im gonna be stuck in no mans land with no male friends or social status and no sex at all. Help direct me guys
-burnrock (Thanks!)
TL;DR
dating 8.5/10 at uni
boring as **** but sexy virgin clingy qt3.14 (what i thought i wanted)
waste first weeks of uni with her instead of making friends/wingmen/**** buddies
eventually realise i've ****ed up
cheat on her with uglier yet more fun girls
don't know what I prefer
(am i asking how can i **** people in the first year of uni? who knows)
what do/when do
Obviously it wasn't fine, I found the first few weeks of uni stressful as f*ck surrounded with paranoia and depression as other guys hit on her and I consequently spent too much time going out to town with her as a guardian (and her new college friends) and therefore not meeting any new people myself or socialising with my new college buddies.
Soon I realised I didn't really have any other friends apart from her, I was so obsessed with seeing her and overcome with jealousy that I had forgotten everything I've learned on this site. Immediately I realised things had to change.
Immediately I get tinder and also start hooking up with other girls behind her back, because f*ck it I'm 19 and decided I needed to spin plates before committing to breaking up with her. I bang 3 girls who I meet in clubs as one night stands, all ranging from HB5 to HB7 and who seem a lot more experienced and mature than her (with her being a virgin this is a given).
This makes me feel a lot better and it's refreshing to actually hang around with cool girls who share a similar sense of humour to me and have a vibrant personality with some attitude as opposed to my current gf which feels like ****ing a pretty doll who says very little and wants you to sensitively look after her constantly.
I don't think my GF is a bad girl or means to depress me, she's just a little naive and I'm her first boyfriend, yet I constantly find myself feeling annoyed after I've banged her, like the only reason I'm going out with her is because of her looks and I have no real desire to act as a boyfriend or guardian type figure to her like she expects of me.
Obviously if you can see where this is going, then it's apparent I have an attachment issue to this girl based on the fact that so far I havn't been able to secure a source of sex from someone who is as attractive as her. The most attractive girl of the 3 I cheated with caused me to develop oneitis and I scared her off with my constant ****ing messaging over the next week or so. My god I am deprived.
Anyway, as of now I've been going to the gym regularly and studying hard, and trying to see my girlfriend much less, it has become more of a chore to me. I am still banging 1 of the 3 girls occasionally behind my gf's back but she has become more of a friend to me. I'm trying to meet potential male friends as much as possible but I feel as though I've left it too late now as it's hard to immerse myself into already established groups and am considered just going my own way.
I would appreciate any advice on how to end this relationship and when, as currently I feel as though a lot of changes/improvements need to be made first otherwise Im gonna be stuck in no mans land with no male friends or social status and no sex at all. Help direct me guys
-burnrock (Thanks!)
TL;DR
dating 8.5/10 at uni
boring as **** but sexy virgin clingy qt3.14 (what i thought i wanted)
waste first weeks of uni with her instead of making friends/wingmen/**** buddies
eventually realise i've ****ed up
cheat on her with uglier yet more fun girls
don't know what I prefer
(am i asking how can i **** people in the first year of uni? who knows)
what do/when do