Little background: 2 1/2 weeks ago met a girl from the internet...very good looking and a little shy like me. We got on extremely very well, very attracted to each other, and ended up making out a few times that night. She calls the next day, I call back once later on in the week, and we go out again on Friday. End up back at my place and make out some more in the bedroom. At this point, didn't want to push it further (not interested in sex that soon), and she felt the same.
Sunday I called her and told her I was going sailing, and was seeing if she wanted to come along. It was a fairly romantic afternoon...made out again in various places, and again back at my place later on. She says how she's glad she met me and is going to take her personal ad down. Also, all the time she's saying how comfortable she is with me, how much we have in common, mentioning how's she told friends and family about me, showed them my picture (they all think I'm "hot"), making references to the future, etc. Sounds good, right?
I was going out of town for this last weekend, so decided to meet up on Wednesday before I left. That night went to her place, and after dinner ended up in the bedroom again (went a little further this time, but not all the way). So, I'm gone for four days and come back Sunday. Monday I e-mail her a picture of a sunset I took during the trip, and called and left a very short message that night saying I was back and to call me.
Now, it's Wednesday and haven't heard anything, and now I'm obsessing over it (yeah, oneitis, but it seemed like the beginning of a relationship) Plus, her peronal ad is still online. I'm just confused now. Everything she's said and done, even very discrete actions which couldn't be faked, have indicated she's really into me. I'd think she'd want to talk to me when I came back.
I've been smooth the entire time, except for two minor AFC moments: Once, I called her six times within a five minute period because her cell phone kept disconnecting. Also, she said she'd call the next night, but I called first to setup getting together last Wednesday. Despite these foul ups, she still changed plans to get together before I left.
I do think I'm obsessing over it because I've had so many women flake on me and never return my calls or e-mails that I'm paranoid of it. I'm generally not that upset because I always have a few prospects on the back burner, but this was feeling like the beginning of something. I wasn't planning on seeing anyone else, but now I'm thinking of making plans with another girl or two for later this week.
So what do you think? Is she testing me to see if I'll keep calling repeatedly? Playing hard to get? Should I try calling again? Mention I'm making plans with someone else if I don't hear from her? Just wait a little longer and get on with life?
Sunday I called her and told her I was going sailing, and was seeing if she wanted to come along. It was a fairly romantic afternoon...made out again in various places, and again back at my place later on. She says how she's glad she met me and is going to take her personal ad down. Also, all the time she's saying how comfortable she is with me, how much we have in common, mentioning how's she told friends and family about me, showed them my picture (they all think I'm "hot"), making references to the future, etc. Sounds good, right?
I was going out of town for this last weekend, so decided to meet up on Wednesday before I left. That night went to her place, and after dinner ended up in the bedroom again (went a little further this time, but not all the way). So, I'm gone for four days and come back Sunday. Monday I e-mail her a picture of a sunset I took during the trip, and called and left a very short message that night saying I was back and to call me.
Now, it's Wednesday and haven't heard anything, and now I'm obsessing over it (yeah, oneitis, but it seemed like the beginning of a relationship) Plus, her peronal ad is still online. I'm just confused now. Everything she's said and done, even very discrete actions which couldn't be faked, have indicated she's really into me. I'd think she'd want to talk to me when I came back.
I've been smooth the entire time, except for two minor AFC moments: Once, I called her six times within a five minute period because her cell phone kept disconnecting. Also, she said she'd call the next night, but I called first to setup getting together last Wednesday. Despite these foul ups, she still changed plans to get together before I left.
I do think I'm obsessing over it because I've had so many women flake on me and never return my calls or e-mails that I'm paranoid of it. I'm generally not that upset because I always have a few prospects on the back burner, but this was feeling like the beginning of something. I wasn't planning on seeing anyone else, but now I'm thinking of making plans with another girl or two for later this week.
So what do you think? Is she testing me to see if I'll keep calling repeatedly? Playing hard to get? Should I try calling again? Mention I'm making plans with someone else if I don't hear from her? Just wait a little longer and get on with life?
