Jerry Maguire
Senior Don Juan
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- Apr 4, 2005
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I pretend to have quite a high self image. However, since I really don't have any success with women, this has affected my self image to the point that I now pretend to have a high self image.
Now I barely even look at a girl, or allow her to know that I've looked at her, all to protect my high self image (which is of course false). This is probably linked strongly to a fear of rejection.
I've identified that this way is not very successful because
a) Not getting any attention from females at all.
b) It's causing me unhappiness because I feel fake.
c) Most people would think I'm gay. :x
I'm trying so hard to be cool and nonchalant (by not letting on that I find any women attractive) that I'm sure I'm giving off a totally gay vibe.
I'm looking for a way to be less shy-boy and more forward in an attempt to attract more women. But, my main question is: I want to be successful with women, obviously. But how do I find a balance between being sexless (by barely ever looking at an attractive girl) and being too sleazy? (by like, groping them).
I find it quite hard to explain my way of behaving at the moment, but sexless seems to be the best word to explain it. If you don't quite understand my post then please ask questions to help understand rather than not responding.
Hope you can help.
Now I barely even look at a girl, or allow her to know that I've looked at her, all to protect my high self image (which is of course false). This is probably linked strongly to a fear of rejection.
I've identified that this way is not very successful because
a) Not getting any attention from females at all.
b) It's causing me unhappiness because I feel fake.
c) Most people would think I'm gay. :x
I'm trying so hard to be cool and nonchalant (by not letting on that I find any women attractive) that I'm sure I'm giving off a totally gay vibe.
I'm looking for a way to be less shy-boy and more forward in an attempt to attract more women. But, my main question is: I want to be successful with women, obviously. But how do I find a balance between being sexless (by barely ever looking at an attractive girl) and being too sleazy? (by like, groping them).
I find it quite hard to explain my way of behaving at the moment, but sexless seems to be the best word to explain it. If you don't quite understand my post then please ask questions to help understand rather than not responding.
Hope you can help.