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[vato]

Ok so I set up a meet up with her and she was supposed to help me buy a gift, a perfume or whatever for my sisters birthday.

I called her a day before to confirm the time and place. She said "a good perfume is not too hard to find, just smell and buy a good one." Then asked me what time we're supposed to meet. I told her 2.30. She says good that its early because she has to meet other friends later and that she can't stay for long. I understood that she was trying to come up with excuses and that she wanted to flake but wasn't going to because she is "too nice".

I don't want to force someone to meet me so I said "listen, I don't want you to stress. Do what you gotta do, I'll go with someone else". She said "Yeah that would be good. I'll send you a site where you can buy cheaper perfumes and yada yada yada". We talked for a hour after that.

I told her I was disappointed that she didn't get me any gift on my birthday. She said that she would give me the gift when we would meet (). I asked her "when can you meet me?" she replied "when can you?" I said next friday. So we confirmed to meet up then. We decided to play pool.

1 hour after hanging up she text me "haha, I bought you a cup."

But the problem is that she wants a common (guy) friend of ours to come along. That confuses the situation. I can't tell if she's interested or if I'm in the friend zone.

I was teasing her that she is a golddigger chick and she said "you don't know me yet." I took it as I'm not in friend zone because she wants me to get to know her. Maybe I'm overanalyzing.

 

[falconslax89]

dude, your overanalyzing. that text where you told her she didnt have to come showed that you were weak. you wanted her to come, so you should have made her come and showed her a good time. personally i think your too far into the friend zone, but ill let the more experienced DJ's diagnose that.

you sound like a nice guy...TOO nice. thats the exact way i used to be. im telling you dude, from personal experience, the moment you drop that **** is the moment you start getting action. i was an afc all through high school. going into my senior year i had made out with maybe 2 girls...im 20 now and ive hooked up with probably 30-40 girls. its easy once you get that nice guy attitude out of your system and it feels great.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

I understood that she was trying to come up with excuses and that she wanted to flake but wasn't going to because she is "too nice".

I don't want to force someone to meet me so I said "listen, I don't want you to stress. Do what you gotta do, I'll go with someone else". She said "Yeah that would be good. I'll send you a site where you can buy cheaper perfumes and yada yada yada". We talked for a hour after that.

Great. She passively rejects you at the last possible minute and you reward her with an hour of phone conversation (or text/internet conversation...seems like you don't have the nuts to talk to her via phone).

I told her I was disappointed that she didn't get me any gift on my birthday. She said that she would give me the gift when we would meet (). I asked her "when can you meet me?" she replied "when can you?" I said next friday. So we confirmed to meet up then. We decided to play pool.

1 hour after hanging up she text me "haha, I bought you a cup."

But the problem is that she wants a common (guy) friend of ours to come along. That confuses the situation. I can't tell if she's interested or if I'm in the friend zone.

Other than texting you, what indications do you get that she IS interested in you? It seems like you're an accessory that she carries around to do her bidding. Like a handbag. Actually, something more useless. Like uh, a bracelet.

I was teasing her that she is a golddigger chick and she said "you don't know me yet." I took it as I'm not in friend zone because she wants me to get to know her. Maybe I'm overanalyzing.

You've been in the friend zone this entire time. This girl is an absolute waste of your time. And you've been dealing with this for over a month now? She's terrible. Absolutely terrible. And you're not so great either. But my opinion of you would improve if you NEXT her silently, without having another one of your gay internet arguments with her. Just stop returning her texts. No big blowup argument. No emotional heart-to-heart conversation. She's useless. She doesn't deserve your time or your emotions.

 

[Joe Stud]

I should have said "lay back, AND PLAY IT COOL, she will come to you"

anyway... less contact now.

 

[Tesl]

First of all, I think you are handling this terribly. Being way too available, talking too much, and saying some fairly dumb things (the initial conversation was really bad). However....

Me: Haha ok then I'll rip the divorce papers
Her: Haha you know I think about you all the time, so its hard to say yes to other guys

I found this quite interesting. Its possible shes playing with you, but to be honest, I think your interaction has been so bad that I think she must have at least held interest in you at some point. I think its still possible it could go your way too, but you aren't making it easy for yourself.

Be less available, play it cool, and stop texting so much. Organise a night to see each other, and then don't text at all in the mean time.

 

[Kailex]

Ok so I set up a meet up with her and she was supposed to help me buy a gift, a perfume or whatever for my sisters birthday.

Terrible. Other people WILL disagree with me.
But terrible.

I called her a day before to confirm the time and place. She said "a good perfume is not too hard to find, just smell and buy a good one." Then asked me what time we're supposed to meet. I told her 2.30. She says good that its early because she has to meet other friends later and that she can't stay for long. I understood that she was trying to come up with excuses and that she wanted to flake but wasn't going to because she is "too nice".

Oh boy. She's already telling you that she doesn't really want to go out with you but you're just not getting it. She's saying that she'd rather speed up her "date" with you because she has MORE important things to do, that don't include you.

I don't want to force someone to meet me so I said "listen, I don't want you to stress. Do what you gotta do, I'll go with someone else". She said "Yeah that would be good. I'll send you a site where you can buy cheaper perfumes and yada yada yada". We talked for a hour after that.

Hear that sound? It's electronic battleship and she just sunk yours.
You gave her an OUT. I'm betting you didn't go out anywhere, with anyone else. Right? Not only do you give her an out, you allow her to not feel crappy about cutting it off by talking to her for an hour.

There's a sign up ahead on the road and it reads: Friendville, 5 miles.
And you're speeding towards it.

You basically told her it's OKAY to miss out on a date with you and that you're of a low value.

I told her I was disappointed that she didn't get me any gift on my birthday.

Are you kidding me?

She said that she would give me the gift when we would meet (). I asked her "when can you meet me?" she replied "when can you?" I said next friday. So we confirmed to meet up then. We decided to play pool.

She obviously had no other options for that Friday.

1 hour after hanging up she text me "haha, I bought you a cup."

OH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, a cup??? Do you even know what that means?
A cup is what I get a family member of mine when I go on vacation and I forgot to get them a gift... and then at the last minute, at the airport... TA-DA!

But the problem is that she wants a common (guy) friend of ours to come along. That confuses the situation. I can't tell if she's interested or if I'm in the friend zone.

Friendville: Next right.

I was teasing her that she is a golddigger chick and she said "you don't know me yet." I took it as I'm not in friend zone because she wants me to get to know her. Maybe I'm overanalyzing.

Welcome to Friendville.

I have co-workers that want to get to know me and I, vice versa... guess what, they're not interested in me, neither am I in them.

I hope you enjoy your stay in Friendville.
Keep it up and you might become the mayor soon enough.

 

[starplayer]

Yeah I'm pretty sure she has no sexual interest in you at this point.

Unless you can actually meet up with her one night and hang out with her as JUST THE TWO OF YOU, then there's nothing more to say.

You're in the friendzone.

Stop texting her unless you're gonna ask her out properly this time, but you should probably next this one.

 

[vato]

update:

So I sent her a text on friday when I woke up to confirm the meet up.

me: hey I wont make it to 3 today, will be 40 minutes late.
her: what?
me: haha you forgot?
her: no, but David is coming.
me: Talk to him. I talked to him and he said he cant make it today. You better not bail out
her: No I'm not actually

Then I gave her new time and place to meet me. I could tell that she didn't want to meet me alone so I told her "I'm not going to make you meet me, if you dont want then I wont force you"
she said: meet me in the evening so I can give you your present.
I told her I don't want her present. She said yes you do. I never responded to her text.

Then I decided to myself, this isn't going anywhere, time to move on, I don't want to waste time with someone who doesn't want to meet me.

Later in middle of the night she sent me a text "you're an a-hole"
When I woke up I text her: "why am I an a-hole"
her: because you didn't come get your present
me: I wasn't even in town. Keep the present.
her: ok but you're coming today
me: I can't I'm out of town today too
her: for how long are you gone?
me: I'm coming back tomorrow (tomorrow being sunday)
her: ok, then we'll meet on sunday
me: <-- this meant no!
her: I'm going to hit you.

I never responded to her last text. I had no intentions of meeting her on sunday. Moving on time! I feel good.

2 days later she text me again. saying hi how are you? blalbabla trying to talk to me. I could sense that she knew that I was nexting her. Later when I'm online on msn she writes to me:

her: tomorrow you will meet me
me: why?
her: the present
her: have you forgotten about it?
me: nope, I haven't forgotten it.
her: ok good
her: tomorrow you'll meet me
her: I'll text you
her: bye

then she logged out. I thought to myself what the hell?
she doesn't want to meet me alone but she wants to give me the present. I can't tell if she's being friendly with the present or if she's interested or what? the reason I wanted to move on was because she blew me off twice when we had planned a meet up.
my question is should I meet her tomorrow and take her present?

 

[pipe007]

yea seems like she is playing games... it usually happens this early in the game with some chicks

the only way you can win this is by having GAME GAME GAME

you don't care about the outcome,, you obsessing about a girl you don't even have???
those girls are toys!!! just experiment
who cares?
go get your cup bro... is it that far?
who cares??????
just go and have fun with her ... enjoy the moment, who cares if it doesnt work out,,, she is not your girl anyways...

common bro... (slap yourself)

and if she flakes???
right!!!.. who caressssss!!!!

you didn't have her anyway...

if she texts you and you go great... go, see whats up... if she is receptive you stay, if she is cold you excuse yourself, grab your cup and leave.

never reward low interest behavior
good luck