Final_Dude
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Hi, i just found this forum (it's the best one i've seen so far...and i dont think i need to be searching anymore) and i thought i'd share my problem and get some advices from people that are more experianced than me.................
I know this happens to a lot of people, i know i'm not the first and i'm not going to be the last one.....and i'd apriciate any help or advice that is given.......
i'll try to make the long story short-
me and my g/f kind of slpit up but not really..we are still talking..she just needs time to "think things over"..which i don't understand cuz we've been together for almost 2yrs...she had all the time she wanted..and i know there arent any other guys that she is interested in ....
anyway...
i read a lot of the posts, (i still havent read the DJ bible...)but one of them really got my attention True story on slipping up. (Step-by-Step why you should be following this site) .....and the reason it got my attention is because that's exactly what i did wrong.....
and here is whats going on right now...
lately things between us havent been good at all...you know how you get the feeling that something is different ..and it's just not the same..and everything you do to try to make it the way it was..doesn't help but just makes it worse......tried to tell her what i feel....one time she tells me that she'll try to change..next time she tells me that she cant and things are not going to be the same....and i do believe that if someone wants to achieve something, they can do it..no matter what....so i tried to tell her that if it was good once i can be the same way again.... well that didnt help at all as some of you would know.....so i had enough of it and broke up with her about three days ago.... it wasnt as good as i thought it would be...havent been thinking about anythig else but her ever since........and btw we work togheter so that makes it a lot easier......I called her the day after i broke up with her..she had to go but told me that i could call her back later..and when i asked her why she couldnt call me ..she said that she didnt want to....well ...i didnt call her either....the next day i was mad so i didnt call her at all, but she called me almost crying on the phone telling me that she loves me and misses me and bla bla bla bla....she woke me up..so thats about the only part of the conversation that i remember...and today at work (yep we had to work together.....it's my second job and i kind of need it..otherwise i wouldve quit by now).....same **** different day..one second she tells me she loves me, next second she still needs time to decide....... so what should i do ?
the posts and tips i read earlier got me my selfesteem back and i dont hate the whole world anymore....i even called her and told her that i was sorry for being mad at her at work when she told me that she needed more time.....and told her that i myself need time to think about my future and what i wanna do...(forgot to mention..i'm only 19)......she asked me if i'd call her later... i told her that i didnt know....and she said that she might call me..... even if she doesnt call me i'm not calling her........
but what do i need to do from here on?????? i know some will tell me to just walk..i see that as the easiest way to solve the problem.....i didnt waste my time, effort, feelings and everything else for two years just so it could end like this....i know there are other girls out there....but they are not gonna be the same...might be better..but i still want thst one...me telling her how i feel and being honest doesnt help..it just makes her think that it's all my fault and that i need to make up for it......
the other thing that bothers me about her is...she is 18 but still kind of childish thinking and simple minded...and WAS a virgin......
now..i do realize that i've messed up pretty bad..just for trying to be the nicest i possibly could be..i know i can walk out of it and find someone else...but that's not what i wanna do.....
any help will be appricated...thanks a lot
I know this happens to a lot of people, i know i'm not the first and i'm not going to be the last one.....and i'd apriciate any help or advice that is given.......
i'll try to make the long story short-
me and my g/f kind of slpit up but not really..we are still talking..she just needs time to "think things over"..which i don't understand cuz we've been together for almost 2yrs...she had all the time she wanted..and i know there arent any other guys that she is interested in ....
anyway...
i read a lot of the posts, (i still havent read the DJ bible...)but one of them really got my attention True story on slipping up. (Step-by-Step why you should be following this site) .....and the reason it got my attention is because that's exactly what i did wrong.....
and here is whats going on right now...
lately things between us havent been good at all...you know how you get the feeling that something is different ..and it's just not the same..and everything you do to try to make it the way it was..doesn't help but just makes it worse......tried to tell her what i feel....one time she tells me that she'll try to change..next time she tells me that she cant and things are not going to be the same....and i do believe that if someone wants to achieve something, they can do it..no matter what....so i tried to tell her that if it was good once i can be the same way again.... well that didnt help at all as some of you would know.....so i had enough of it and broke up with her about three days ago.... it wasnt as good as i thought it would be...havent been thinking about anythig else but her ever since........and btw we work togheter so that makes it a lot easier......I called her the day after i broke up with her..she had to go but told me that i could call her back later..and when i asked her why she couldnt call me ..she said that she didnt want to....well ...i didnt call her either....the next day i was mad so i didnt call her at all, but she called me almost crying on the phone telling me that she loves me and misses me and bla bla bla bla....she woke me up..so thats about the only part of the conversation that i remember...and today at work (yep we had to work together.....it's my second job and i kind of need it..otherwise i wouldve quit by now).....same **** different day..one second she tells me she loves me, next second she still needs time to decide....... so what should i do ?
the posts and tips i read earlier got me my selfesteem back and i dont hate the whole world anymore....i even called her and told her that i was sorry for being mad at her at work when she told me that she needed more time.....and told her that i myself need time to think about my future and what i wanna do...(forgot to mention..i'm only 19)......she asked me if i'd call her later... i told her that i didnt know....and she said that she might call me..... even if she doesnt call me i'm not calling her........
but what do i need to do from here on?????? i know some will tell me to just walk..i see that as the easiest way to solve the problem.....i didnt waste my time, effort, feelings and everything else for two years just so it could end like this....i know there are other girls out there....but they are not gonna be the same...might be better..but i still want thst one...me telling her how i feel and being honest doesnt help..it just makes her think that it's all my fault and that i need to make up for it......
the other thing that bothers me about her is...she is 18 but still kind of childish thinking and simple minded...and WAS a virgin......
now..i do realize that i've messed up pretty bad..just for trying to be the nicest i possibly could be..i know i can walk out of it and find someone else...but that's not what i wanna do.....
any help will be appricated...thanks a lot
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Not helping yourself out.