Need some help with two girls.

[Roostallion]

This is my first post. I'm 23 and a college student. I don't have any problems talking to women or getting their numbers, and usually I have pretty good luck with one night stands, but when it comes to dating I'm a total clutz. I turn into super hopeless romantic man most of the time and scare the **** out of em.

I sit by two pretty hot girls in one of my classes. Lets call em Sasha and Ariel. I've taken Sasha out on 4 dates, and things have been going OK. We have a lot of rapport, but I think I killed the attraction when I told her I wasn't seeing any other girls and that I didn't want to. That was a week ago and she cancelled our date this past Thursday to hang out with her girlfriends and was really cold when I saw her in class.

So not wanting to waste my only night off moping around, I called Ariel up and we went barhopping downtown. Things went pretty well and I probably could have gotten laid, but I would feel like a douchebag since the only reason I asked Ariel out was to make Sasha jealous.

I won't see either of them for 4 more days. I want Sasha to be attracted to me again. Was taking Ariel out a bad idea? What would you do in my situation?

 

[ZenoB]

You say both these girls are pretty hot, but you don't explain why Sasha is more attractive to you than Ariel. I'll assume she is (more physically attractive)?

Regardless, you want this girl to be attracted to you and usually when you try to force these things it makes it worse or completely destroys what you still have.

The core of your problem is that you don't want to date multiple girls. Why not?

 

[I'm in the Mood]

She's being cold because you decided that you killed her attraction to you. The way to reverse it is to change your behavior to how you felt before you developed strong feelings for her. I guess if you can change your feelings, you can change the way you act! Try just turning it down a little bit.

 

[Roostallion]

Thanks for the responses.

@ZenoB.

Here's a little background info on Sasha and Ariel for you:

Sasha - 9 in the looks department. Other things I like about her...she's a stoner, she shares my musical tastes, she's artsy, doesn't talk constantly, and she's not religious. Sasha broke up with her ex after 4 years of dating, because he cheated on her a second time. This was back in January. She's 20 and I am pretty sure he's the only guy she's ever been with.

Ariel- 8 in the looks department. Other things I like about her... she's a nerd, she's 21(can go to the bars with me), she's had plenty of sexual experience, and she's not religious. Ariel just got dumped like 2 weeks ago. She talks enough for two people.

Its not that I don't want to date multiple girls, I just don't have a lot of free time. (Only one night off a week) I also don't have quite the cashflow I used to have.

@I'm in the Mood

That seems like pretty solid advice. We just got done with spring break and so Sasha and I were able to spend 4 days together in two weeks. I was just trying to keep the momentum going before i got bogged down in my routine again and got a little carried away.