need some help with my relationship, im royally screwing things up

[kingkong98]

ok so i have been with my girlfriend for nearly a year now, things were going pretty well for a while, she was treating me exactly how i want to be treated, she lost her virginity to me, she respected me, and we had a really amazing sex life but now all of that seems to be fading. I dont feel like i have the power anymore, i dont feel like she respects me like she used to, and our sex life has basically disappeared. i keep making the huge mistake of complaining about the lack of sex and all she says is that she isnt in the mood because she is tired and stressed from work. I kind of believe her and i kind of dont. Once summer started she has been very stressed out because she started working a lot more and we have a lot less time together than we did doing the school year. We sometimes work together and i feel like that's where our problems started at because she hooked me up with the job and is more expierenced at it so sometimes she talks down to me at work if i do something wrong. i find this to be really disrespectful and i always tell her off about it, which may or may not be a mistake. She still seems somewhat interested in me because she always texts me first, usually says i love you first, and is always inviting me to hang out, but when i start to try to make a move or take things to the bedroom she says no and then when i get annoyed she accuses me of only being with her for sex which is not true.

How do i get the power back? should i keep bringing up the sex issue or should i just drop it and see what happens?

 

[Ease]

Honestly, try this.

Make a move for the bedroom as forcefully as you can, force yourself into heavy makeout. Then when she says no and starts to make excuses, get angry. Say 'WTF? Are you serious? what the **** is this about? are you ****ing kidding me?'. Get it all off your chest, get angry, tear her to pieces. Then let her say whatever she wants and get defensive, saying 'you only want sex'. Say 'wtf! of course i want sex, wtf did you think?'. At that point pick up your jacket and storm out the house and slam the door behind you.

Let her start crying and become shocked and confused. You need to be genuinely angry (which shouldnt be hard, as you probably are deep down). Dont look at her like she is your girlfriend, look at her like the only thing she is good for is sex.

Some guys might say this is 'treating her badly' and 'being a jerk'. Yes, you will be a big a-hole for the duration of this move. If you can't handle the heat then get out the kitchen.

 

[kingkong98]

she doesnt care that i want sex, she says that she think that im only with her for sex though

 

[j0n24]

Personally I think if you do it the way that the other poster said to do it then she will have a reason to dump you and you'll basically be looking needy that your crying cause she wont have sex with you.

IF you guys dont live togethor then cut contact for a while, no need to be at her beck and call all the time even WHEN she is acting like a royal biitch.

IF you still work at the place she works at begin finding a new job just in case things DO go south for you because more then likely she wont screw you in bed but WILL screw you at the job site ...and not the good type of screwing either.

Change your focus away from her for a while and start focusing on yourself again, even in relationships there is NO rule that you have to focus on your bf/gf 24/7 most women know this.

IF you want to change the frame which I would personally say you SHOULD you should put her down with her whole "Excuse," About being "Stressed out."

I'd say next time before I cut contact with her maybe the next time you try to sex her up and she begins saying she is too "Tired," Or "Stressed," Out.
HER: I'm too tired/stressed out
ME: Jeez your becoming a really boring
HER: (insert witty/sarcastic/defensive remark here)
ME: Dont get mad haha its ok your job sucks and your just stressed out I UNDERSTAND.
HER: (Insert another defensive/attacking remark here)
ME: I'm going to go you seem tooooo stressed out and you have to get up early tomorrow...I'll call you babe night .

Then cut contact for a couple of days and say you had stuff to do ...or dump her because "SHE," Is STRESSING YOU OUT ...hahaha.

 

[Kirro]

OP your girl definitely has the reigns in this partnership. She texts you, you spend time with her & give her attention yet she withholds sex.

Basically you need to become less available, jack off & engage in some hobbies, start to ignore, begin to care less about her, a lot less. Feign interest but cut her off after one text, when she wants to hang out, sometimes tell her you're doing something else.

You're too stale now OP. You're not a challenge. Are they any improvements you can make? Switch up your wardrobe, get in shape or get rid of that mole on your nose? Just playing with ya man but seriously you have to establish that if she wants attention, affection & validation from you that she needs to pass off tha pvssy if not you're gone.

Seriously dude, if you aren't getting things your way, leave.

Don't be hanging in there cuz you're afraid to be alone.

 

[SandHawk]

What you experience is that your girl lost interest in you. She wants to have sex, but just not with you. The two of you become 'girlfriends' that cuddle and make out from time to time and spend a lot of time together.

Her interest level in you is extremely low, and the only reason she hasn't dumped you is because she thinks she loves you but is unsure. She's sorta comfortable with no sex, and yet still feels reassured that somebody loves her.

The solution: make yourself less available or dump. It's going to require a lot of hard work to fix this relationship. Go read Sex God Method, spend less time with her and when you do be more cold. Gonna be hard work to fix this sh*t up.

 

[Ease]

she doesnt care that i want sex, she says that she think that im only with her for sex though

That's exactly what you want her to think. That was my point, read the post again.

You need to grab your power back, thats how you do it. The moment you dont care about her, she will start caring.

The solution: make yourself less available or dump. It's going to require a lot of hard work to fix this relationship. Go read Sex God Method, spend less time with her and when you do be more cold. Gonna be hard work to fix this sh*t up.

This is your problem. You need to realise that your relationship is completely ****ed. You need to do something drastic soon or else you will get cheated on and dumped.

Honestly, having been through this myself, im pessimistic about your chances. But i dont think you will dump her even if we say it.

 

[EFFORT]

1. Get a new job
2. Spin more plates

 

[iliketennis]

it's over