need some advice

[brownlover]

Hi chaps

I'm a 25 yo virgin, never been on a date. i kissed a girl when was 8 lol. Don't ask me how i managed to get this far like this but i guess there is nothing i can to change the past. On the plus I have achieved in my short time on this planet but women is only thing i have not conquered. I'm a DJ wannabe lol

It was funny when I recently turned 25. All of a sudden I wanted go out and meet women. I don't know why it came to me at 25 and not 13 lol. My problem is my friends are in long term relationships and have no interest in going and meeting people. I socialise with them but all it is me going out my friends and their g/fs and having dinner, it is not helping in finding women.

I don't know what to do. I'm a little afraid to go out alone. I did go scouting last night to see what it would be like and to see if where all the women are. I found a good club with lots of girls, so I guess i will go there but by myself will be wierd. I'm not an ugly and am very fashinable. Maybe i should get a hobby, I've recently joined a gym and i've heard they are good places to meet women.

I have achieved so much in my life. and now am in a really good career and making lots of money. but i have so much time on my hands now that i have got there. and my body and mind really wants a woman. my friends don't understand they say just be single, well its ok for them they getting shags at night.

Any advice from the DJ in here? lol (your probably laughing at me saying what loser lol)

 

[dadmonson]

Post your picture so we can see why u r still a virgin and your potential.(J/P) A picture would be good tho but yo I wouldn't listen to me.

 

[brownlover]

hey i'm not posting my picture. someone from work might see it lol. i'm not ugly though

 

[Desdinova]

your probably laughing at me saying what loser

Not at all since you're not the first 20-odd year old virgin to come here.

I don't know what to do. I'm a little afraid to go out alone. I did go scouting last night to see what it would be like and to see if where all the women are. I found a good club with lots of girls, so I guess i will go there but by myself will be wierd.

I used to be the same way, until I started going out alone on a regular basis. It's really not all that bad, just go out with the purpose of having fun! I've gone to bars and concerts by myself and had a blast! The best thing is, none of your friends are there to drag you down to their level. I find when you're with friends, you get lazy when it comes to picking up women. If you go alone, your attention isn't distracted from yourself nor from any women you happen to meet.

All you need is the confidence and the self-motivation to make things happen. Read the DJ bible (link at the top right hand corner) which will help you get over your anxieties from picking up women. You may also want to try out the DJ boot camp to give you a head start.

 

[brownlover]

whats the DJ bootcamp?

 

[Desdinova]

The DJ Bootcamp is at the same link as the DJ Bible. It's a crash course on getting you "up to speed" when it comes to approaching and dating women.

 

[brownlover]

Whats do you think of my current situation with my friends?

 

[Distant Light]

Don't worry i don't think your a loser. Your just another newbie on this site, but i'm here to help. I'd see read a few posts on here about inner game.

-Learn to be ****y and Funny so you can attract a girl
-Don't be needy, desperate
-Learn to tell stories
-Read about Kino on this site
-Some of the stuff in DJ bible you can read about in order to gain rapport. (most of the conversation articles)
- DONT TRY TO GAIN RAPPORT IF YOU HAVENT GOT HER ATTRACTED TO YOU (only exception is if she is showing alot of interest in you even then i'd still do a bit of attraction)

Thats about it for now learn some stuff. Try not to read just inner game.

 

[brownlover]

ok. tomorrow. what should i do tomorrow to meet women.

i always think that a club is the best place. but as i'm on my own now. that may not be a good idea. but surely there are other places.

someone give a mission to do tomorrow

 

[Distant Light]

Approach atleast 4 different sets tomorrow on the street or mall. You could go in a store and practice on the femae worker there. Just have fun doing it.

Missions
Choose any or if you want do all
A. Approach different sets on Street
C. Go downtown where its populated with people
B. Go to mall and approach the following
- 2 Moving Targets
- 2 Stationary targets
- 1 Worker in a store

Try to atleast talk to them for atleast 20-30 mins.

Open(about 1-3 mins)
Attract (C&F, DHV, Storytell, Roleplay,Games, etc)(5 - 15mins)
Rapport(Sh!t they talk about in DJ bible have some decent stuff on this)(10 - 15 mins)
Go for number

Thats just basic quick practice to up your skills in this fun and great "GAME".
Don't worry after you get better it will be so much fun. My stuff may be alittle scientific but then again some of the guys i've learnt most from compared it as Science and that "The world is a PU lab and your just doing experiments"

 

[Desdinova]

ok. tomorrow. what should i do tomorrow to meet women.

Try not to rush things. Take baby steps and try not to push yourself too hard. Begin by striking up conversation with strangers, whether they be men or women. Once you get comfortable with that, you can move on to the next level which is number closing.

Remember to go out for the purpose of having fun. Picking up women is just a side project. If you jump into this full force, you're gonna get frustrated, and you won't have any fun.

 

[brownlover]

thanks for the heads up. I did go to the mall last week. but found it almost impossible to get noticed. everyone was so busy doing their own stuff. the bookstore was full of men and not so many women.

my biggest phobia is what other ppl around me are thinking. i worry that ppl sitting next to us will listen and laugh

 

[Chrisman]

my biggest phobia is what other ppl around me are thinking.

This is something you need to get over. This has nothing to do with don juan or any other crap the "wannabe online" losers on this site will spout.

Remember this, You live your life for you. The opinions and views of others do not matter. All that matters is what you think, how you feel, and what your goals are. Don't let anyone stop you. Don't let anyone bring you down. You are in control. This is what success is in all parts of your life.

Or as I've also heard it said, "It's none of your business what other people think of you."

Or on a lighter note.
If some stupid ******* actually commits the image of you talking to a girl at the mall to his memory must live a ****ing pathetic life. If their life is that pathetic and they don't have any other things to ****in' think about, you should be happy, you've given them something to think about.

 

[Desdinova]

my biggest phobia is what other ppl around me are thinking. i worry that ppl sitting next to us will listen and laugh

What helped me get over this is saying to myself, "These are people who I'm probably never gonna see again. Who cares what they think?" It's very true, and it will help you quit thinking about what a bunch of strangers are thinking. This goes a lot further when you actually approach women.

 

[mobius]

His situation isn't all that bad.

I'm 18
Never made out
Still a virgin of course
Never been out on a date.

I think I'm a pretty good looking and well dressed guy. Was just afraid and fearful of rejection / humiliation. Although now I'm beginning to break out of that shell and starting to get girls numbers and stuff LOL.

 

[Maybnoob]

Originally posted by mobius
His situation isn't all that bad.

I'm 18
Never made out
Still a virgin of course
Never been out on a date.

I think I'm a pretty good looking and well dressed guy. Was just afraid and fearful of rejection / humiliation. Although now I'm beginning to break out of that shell and starting to get girls numbers and stuff LOL.

Exactly like you except im 19

 

[mobius]

Originally posted by Maybnoob
Exactly like you except im 19

Seeing your from London (not London, Ontario I suppose), the girls here would go crazy for your British accent.

 

[Dueyunit]

Dude u must b gay or ugly coz if u wernt girls would b interested in u even the ugly 1ns lol:crackup: :rockon:

 

[brownlover]

thanks for the posts guys.

Yes i should make a visit to america sometime, but I will be going to downtown in london to see who i can bump into. I think I will do small steps first.

 

[brownlover]

yes sex is a long way for me i think (lol) but its a reality now that i will be having sex when before it was even contemplated.

most of my friends have g/f's now and i'm happy for them. but the only thing is they are with their first g/fs because they were as bad as me at getting girls, this is not what i want. i want to see and date lots of beautiful women because you only live once and you are only in your 20's once as well. maybe in my 30's i will get married and focus on my offspring. but why not see and date beautiful women now and why settle for a longterm relationship?