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heater528

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I am looking for some advice on what I should do with this situation. About 4 years ago while working an overnight shift me an my coworker saw a commercial for Ashley Madison. He told me what the site was about and I was amazed that people in my hometown would post their pictures and create a profile on a site that was for affairs. We started talking about the site and out of boredom and curiosity I created a profile to kill time that evening and see if we knew anyone on the site.

I used my real email address while creating the profile. I tried to make my account sound somewhat legitimate so I put a headline " Looking for excitement" I thought if the account looked like a troll account they would reject it.

We logged on and I quickly said wtf I do not know anyone on this site. We then searched my coworkers city and found the same. Me and my coworker laughed about it and I went to delete my account after 5 minutes. I got the message about the 19 dollar fee... said screw this scam and never even logged back on.

I was not married at the time but engaged and now I am married. I used one of those ashley madison search engines and my account pops up. My name is not on the details... my email is, the user name I created and the town.. with that heading and the wrong date of birth for me. I never used a credit card... never contacted a single person, never put any turn on's or fetish's.

My question is should I inform my wife that I am in this data base.? I tend to over react and am a natural worrier. In my mind the entire universe knows about my 5 minute profile and is conspiring against me. ( I know this is not true) But my stomach has been in knots over this. I do not exist anywhere else on the internet. I do not have a facebook, Linked account, Twitter, Instagram... nothing at all. My wife does not use the internet much either.
 

dustmuffin

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No...Don't say a word. It was done before marriage. If it comes up just say that it was before and you had forgotten about it.
 

Albatross953

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Agree, say nothing. If questioned tell the truth. "I've never cheated, it was before us"
 

speed dawg

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Telling a spouse you cheated when they do not know about it basically conveying to them that you don't really care about them. Because then, they have to live with that knowledge and make a decision. If they stay, you lose respect for them and the relationship eventually ends, and if they leave, well that's obviously what you wanted. It's the exact opposite of conventional logic.

If you're worried you might get caught, just have the story that the other posters said, ready. If you really didn't do anything, then who cares, she'll just have to believe you.
 

Slickster

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Use it as a get of jail card.

Wait until you are unhappy and want to leave her.

Then tell her.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

glass half full

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I wouldn't worry about it. It's past. And with a woman, far better left that way.
 

sodbuster

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NEVER volunteer sh1t they can use against you for anything. There was a murder near my home town about 30 years ago. It was unsolved until one of the 2 guys who did it was getting a DIVORCE..... his soon to be EX found her conscience.....20 years after the murder
 
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