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So I've been going out a few times with this girl that I met a couple months ago... We've been on two official dates, went to a concert together, and hung out a house parties a couple of times.
On the second date, I went in for the kiss and got cheek. But we soon after went out to a concert together, and she was much more physical, with hugs, leaning on me, etc.
This girl is very cautious. She's had only a few relationships, and they were all long term, and most ended badly. Also, her upbringing has resulted in her wanting to move slowly and carefully.
So that being said, I feel like I've been making progress. Not as fast as I would like, but I'm willing to go slow for this one. And yeah, I've got the oneitis with this girl.
Anyway, recently I got smacked with a **** test. Bam! We were supposed to go to an amusement park, and she ended up delaying all day, and then canceling at the end with a lame "family emergency" excuse. I just played it off like it didn't matter, no biggie. And went no communication.
Two days later, she texted me. "Hi John!!!! How are u?" I was at the movies and didn't reply for a few hours, and then she texted me, "U mad?" I usually don't wait that long, so she figured something was up.
So far so good. But then I royally screwed up. I said, "Hey! No! Sorry, I just got out of a movie. How are you??" And I got a terse reply (for her) "I am doing good, thanks." Then I called her. I know, I know!
Anyway, we talked for a few minutes, and she had just gotten home, and she asked if she could call me back later. I said sure.
No call. Not surprised. I was being a chump and I didn't realize it until she didn't call me back that Sunday was a **** test, as is the lack of return call.
So I'm no communication again.
I'm doing all the appropriate other things... Focusing on me, gym, talking to other girls, pursuing my life... But I do like this girl, and I want to see where this goes. But I need to stop being a chump.
Advice? I know she likes me, but I failed her **** test with the phone call. How do I recover? I've read a lot of the posts and articles on this site and others, and while I understand the logic, I have a hard time playing it out myself. Like calling a sports game, but not being able to play it well, you know? LOL. Anyway, specific advise would help me a lot. Any background questions, please let me know!
Thanks, guys.
On the second date, I went in for the kiss and got cheek. But we soon after went out to a concert together, and she was much more physical, with hugs, leaning on me, etc.
This girl is very cautious. She's had only a few relationships, and they were all long term, and most ended badly. Also, her upbringing has resulted in her wanting to move slowly and carefully.
So that being said, I feel like I've been making progress. Not as fast as I would like, but I'm willing to go slow for this one. And yeah, I've got the oneitis with this girl.
Anyway, recently I got smacked with a **** test. Bam! We were supposed to go to an amusement park, and she ended up delaying all day, and then canceling at the end with a lame "family emergency" excuse. I just played it off like it didn't matter, no biggie. And went no communication.
Two days later, she texted me. "Hi John!!!! How are u?" I was at the movies and didn't reply for a few hours, and then she texted me, "U mad?" I usually don't wait that long, so she figured something was up.
So far so good. But then I royally screwed up. I said, "Hey! No! Sorry, I just got out of a movie. How are you??" And I got a terse reply (for her) "I am doing good, thanks." Then I called her. I know, I know!
Anyway, we talked for a few minutes, and she had just gotten home, and she asked if she could call me back later. I said sure.
No call. Not surprised. I was being a chump and I didn't realize it until she didn't call me back that Sunday was a **** test, as is the lack of return call.
So I'm no communication again.
I'm doing all the appropriate other things... Focusing on me, gym, talking to other girls, pursuing my life... But I do like this girl, and I want to see where this goes. But I need to stop being a chump.
Advice? I know she likes me, but I failed her **** test with the phone call. How do I recover? I've read a lot of the posts and articles on this site and others, and while I understand the logic, I have a hard time playing it out myself. Like calling a sports game, but not being able to play it well, you know? LOL. Anyway, specific advise would help me a lot. Any background questions, please let me know!
Thanks, guys.