need some advice

[Mr. NiceGuy]

Been talking to this girl and we hit it off well last night we were at a party and we were flirting all night one thing led to another and we ended up kissing and talking and letting out feelings for each other out and kissing some more...this morning she texts me and we spoke about last night so again I tell her how I felt and that she also likes me a lot (last night she said she loved me) so as I ask if this relationship cn go further she replies with herself not wanting to be in a controlling relationship because she got out of one not too long ago....but also says that she wants someone to hold her and cuddle and be with he, she said she has a lot of love to give and I would gladly accept it....but she does not know what she wants but loves me for being "such a great guy" & "love spending time with you" when we go out we also have fun and we click very well, but she does not wnt to lead me on or hurt me, but will let me know when she is ready and just wants to see how we work out overtime

I should also add she does have alot going on in life right now and maybe that has something to do with it

Also she does not expect anything out of me I've mde her a cd tht she asked for cause I got her into country music and I've paid for diner once she gets "your beautiful & smart" and that's the most she gets outta me and still wants to hang out and if very open to me with personal stuff

Am I being played or is she sincere in what she is telling me I'm very confused.....any serious gentleman advice anyone can give me and girl please throw your 2 cents in as well

 

[youngmack]

Being played..next this girl or just fvck her brains out.....If a girl really wants a dude she will find a way to get that dude...DONT PUT HER ON A PEDESTAL..AND SPIN MORE PLATES

 

[Mr. NiceGuy]

I should also add she does have alot going on in life right now and maybe that has something to do with it

Also she does not expect anything out of me I've mde her a cd tht she asked for cause I got her into country music and I've paid for diner once she gets "your beautiful & smart" and that's the most she gets outta me and still wants to hang out and if very open to me with personal stuff

 

[youngmack]

I had a girlfriend like this... im speaking from experience and im opnly 16 ...shes PLAYING you and stringing you along. Shes bored and shes sees that your a nice guy so shes playing games.. DO NOT GIVE IN. If you just dont want to stop talking to her at least start being sexual with her and making moves. Try to fvck her but for gods sake do not gain any more feelings for this girl

 

[Mr. NiceGuy]

So noone thinks that there is a possibility that she might actually mean what she is saying?

 

[centurionlemas]

Don't next her yet! There's no reason to lol shes not detracting anything from you, but do listen to the other guys and definitively have some plates spinning in the case she is playing you... but you should ALWAYS have plates spinning anyway.

As far as the next step, give it time. Put her on the back-burner for a couple weeks and then randomly take her out on a fun-azz date, then i would ignore her for a while but then taker her out on another date at a closer interval of time. Keep working it from that angle.

You don't need to be boyfriend/girlfriend right away just spend so more quality time together and see what comes out of it. It's OK to let sh1t happen organically....

Few notes of advice though:
Don't admit ANYMORE feelings for her! Or talk about any type of future relationship together. If it's gonna happen it will happen.

Take the reigns and be the player set up dates and meeting times on your schedule not her's, this will put you in control.

Lastly approach this with a player mindset. Don't be a chump about it.

Girls NEVER EVER mean what they say!

 

[Mr. NiceGuy]

Thanks dude that's the reply I was looking for.....she really don't seem like that kind of a person....sometimes girls who play guy need to finally settle down and might actually really like someone....and I haven't spoken to her since we addressed the situation this morning....and its hard as **** not talking to her but hey I shall see where it goes thanks for the advice bro

 

[DonJuanabe]

From experience: stop talking. Don't talk about how you feel. Do not ask her how she feels. If you're confused about what she wants or how she feels do not verbalize this. In fact, don't even dwell on it. Instead, just do, just act. Do what you want to do -- you'll know very quickly what she wants. If she spurns you do not ask her why she did that or what you can do for her. Again, no talking. Just do. If she spurns you again then excuse yourself -- you had a great time with her now you are going home. And leave. That will do more to make her want you than spending too much time with her asking her crap that makes you look needy and weak. She won't tell you this but deep down she doesn't want to know how you feel about anything -- she wants to wonder about how you feel. Keep it that way.

 

[Mr. NiceGuy]

Another good reply thanks brah

 

[Mr. NiceGuy]

:crackup:



Oh of course she does...doesn't it occur to you that by telling you all these things she can get away with murder and has a built-in excuse? Been there.

No I know....but I've witnessed it first hand it not just a random story

 

[DonJuanabe]

Any girl who is super busy with stuff will drop it for a guy in whom she is interested. She is waiting, hoping, for that opportunity.

 

[moneyisking]

also speaking from experience from similar situation in the past... you don't wana get into that. I recommend you listen to royal flush.

 

[Mr. NiceGuy]

Any girl who is super busy with stuff will drop it for a guy in whom she is interested. She is waiting, hoping, for that opportunity.

Just not me right....lol

Aye royal about a month ive gotten her into it

 

[Spinning Spinning]

So noone thinks that there is a possibility that she might actually mean what she is saying?

Dude don't believe EVERYTHING you read on this site. Sure there are people that can give you advice and make an assumption on what you've posted but in the end women are categorised far too often. Each woman is different and you can't just listen to someone that says she's playing and write her off. Malakies if you ask me. Not all women are as evil and conniving as they're made out to be on this site. Take everything in that's said for sure but then make your OWN choice on the info that's provided.

That's what I say anyway.

 

[Gro0ver]

Any girl who is super busy with stuff will drop it for a guy in whom she is interested. She is waiting, hoping, for that opportunity.

Lots of good advice here, particularly this.

Judge girls by their actions not words, it will give you a much clearer perspective.

Don't be catching feelings for this girl because you will get hurt, keep spinning plates and minimise the time/attention you give her, this will actually increase her interest level (which you will judge by her ACTIONS not her words).

This is an important test for how well you can keep your s**t together in the face of adversity!:cheer:

 

[Mr. NiceGuy]

Thank ya guys I appriciate those words