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Jlazzen

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I have been dating this girl (Lauren) for about 9 months, she is beautiful: 5'8", blonde hair, brown eyes, and a soild HB-9. Not only that, but she has a great personality and is really fun to hang around with.

Well about 2 weeks ago, she was at a party with friends, and I was out with mine.

I was a little tipsy, and on my way home I figured I would stop by Lauren's and get some pvssy

Long story short I see through her living room window, her naked on her knees suckin on the dyck of this black guy that plays basketball for our college.

They didn't notice me, I just left disgusted.

Over the next two weeks I didn't return any of her calls or texts, and just stay silent in my place when she comes to the door. I can tell by her messages that she has no idea that i know and that she is worried about me.

I didn't say a word about the event to anyone, well yesterday I run into her friend, and she preceeds to tell me that Lauren is worried about me, and is wondering why I have been ignoring her. I just said "I am over her". Well her friend looks at me and tells me I am a jerk, that I would just stop talking to a girl because I am over her. (She doesn't know I know about the Basketball player)

Then she tells me "You know Lauren really loves you. I guess it doesn't matter now if I tell you this since you are "over her". She called me the other day and told me that she hooked up with *****(I wont use his name here) after the party the other night. She also said that was the first time she ever cheated, really regrets it, and it made her realize how much she loved you.

Now I don't know what to make of this. I know that Lauren and her friend have no idea that I saw her. Why would lauren tell her friend this? Is it true?

I mean I miss her, but I can't get the image of her sucking on and getting fvcked by this other guy's big black dyck out of my head.

What should I do?
 

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I understand what you saw must have been upsetting, and a shock

However, your not handling this very maturely. Ignoring her is understandable but immature.

Instead, You should have called her up a couple days after you had chance to cool & calm down, and told her straight:

'<her name>, the other night I passed by to see you and say goodnight, and I saw you with <his name>. Its over between us. I can no longer trust you.'

And leave.

Women are clever, she probably knows word got to you somehow about her cheating experience, which is why she's now come clean in a way. Telling her friend your over her, makes YOU come off as the jerk.

Instead, make sure everyone at college knows she's a cheating sl*t without personally attacking her. This will be the worst thing for her.

In the mean time, suggest you have that very brief conversation with her about what she did, and why you've not returned any calls. Then go hunting for other girls, cos she may regret it sure, but once a cheater always a cheater - especially at that age !
 

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Man are you kidding. This is how you proove your manhood. You get her out of your mind, control your emotions and move on to another adventure.
 

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Jlazzen said:
I mean I miss her, but I can't get the image of her sucking on and getting fvcked by this other guy's big black dyck out of my head.

What should I do?

Marry her. :up:



Cheers!
 

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.. tell it like it is boy.. call a spade a spade.. tell her you passed by her house and she was sucking some dude's lollipop??? if she loved you as much as she tells her friend why would she cheat?? Move .... fast.. but let her know..
 

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I understand what you are all trying to say but here is my opinion

#1 I don't think I am being immature by not responding to her, I am just trying to figure out the right way to handle it without causing irreversable damage to anyone involved.

#2 It is easy to say forget about her, but if you really care for someone and they betray you, You will be hurt, and you will miss that other person. Felling these things does not make you less of a man, however pretending that you dont have them and going out chasing meaningless sex does make you less of a man (in my opinion)

I am here asking for advice, I dont want to hear "Tell her she is a tramp then go bang some girl"

Ad vice like that doesn't even make sense because I would only be banging another tramp, and in the process of doing so I am becoming a tramp myself
 

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For me its simple man..Even if you really like her and all that stuff sucking somebody else's lollipop, THats a BIG no no in my book. Tell her that you saw her doing that sh1t and then just leave her, forget about her...There's a point where u just gotta cut a girl off man..
 

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Jlazzen said:
I understand what you are all trying to say but here is my opinion

#1 I don't think I am being immature by not responding to her, I am just trying to figure out the right way to handle it without causing irreversable damage to anyone involved.

#2 It is easy to say forget about her, but if you really care for someone and they betray you, You will be hurt, and you will miss that other person. Felling these things does not make you less of a man, however pretending that you dont have them and going out chasing meaningless sex does make you less of a man (in my opinion)

I am here asking for advice, I dont want to hear "Tell her she is a tramp then go bang some girl"

Ad vice like that doesn't even make sense because I would only be banging another tramp, and in the process of doing so I am becoming a tramp myself
Kid your girl was sucking a black dudes ****!!! After that she was calling you like nothing happend. I know you dont want to hear it especially if you are in love with her but like someone said once a cheater always a cheater.
 

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man, i feel bad for you bro... for one youre dating a hoe! i can guarantee you that's not the first time she's cheated on you dude... once a hoe, always a hoe. there's no way that you can go back to her after that! ditch the slut and move on!
 

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Like LMS would say.. "Hors are for everybody." You might as well come out and say I saw you svcking the other guys d!ck so have fun with him cause I'm gone!
 
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