spread_love said:
I have finally got a new internet connection (and I wasn't comfortable sitting in Net cafe's with cute girls seeing what site I was on) anyway here goes the situation.
I asked a girl out who I have known for a few years and she said yes, she would love to and suggested we go out to dinner.
We met up on a Friday and dinner and conversations was great, we drank a little bit of red wine and there were more than a few leg rubs from her under the table and after dinner we sat at the table and just talked and drank some more.
She suggested that she wanted to go somewhere else to get her favourite drink so we headed to a bar and she ended up doing a few shots and buying an expensive bottle of red wine and we got quite drunk.
We headed off to a gig and she drank some more, I had a couple but I was trying to slow down to enjoy my night, so a few hours later, she comes up to me all cold and asks why have you been talking to that girl so much (she is a good friend and has been for years) and she was quite cold towards me.
I spoke to her and said well we can go if you want to and she said yeah let's go, grabbed my arm and said you are coming home with me and there is nothing you can do about it.
She was laughing but also slurring her words and not that easy on her feet, so we get in the cab and the cab driver was getting annoyed as she was now saying saying I can't go home with her and that I should get out, I asked her are you serious?, she would laugh and say it again unitl she kind of lost it and used her foot to kick me in the chest and tell me to get out of the cab.
I just said wow and shook my head and went back into the club, the next day I got a text from her saying I don't remember much of last night, was I good?
I had to tell her the truth and she said felt really, really bad and didn't remember it,she also sent me an e-mail saying the same thing.
In your honest opinion was she just really drunk and losing the plot or does this story scream crazy Woman and I just be lucky I found out now?.
I will tell you something, not many guys know this that is clear but this is crystal clear to guys like me and it is the TRUTH.
So read it well.
Girls and women have pressures around them about sleeping with guys.
To counter-act those pressures of being labled a slu* e.t.c and other things.
They do things, these things are invisible to the normal man, but a man who knows can see them for what they are.
One of these things is:
If a girl is into you the first night she will (or may, 80% of the time she WILL)get drunk or tipsy, or pretend to be drunk so she can say:
Whoppsie I did not mean to sleep with him I was drunk.
When in reality, it was planned all along.
This chick sounded like she had planned to sleep with you, she got drunk to excuse her behaviour to do that on the first night, gave you token resistance at the cab stage and probably more so, but if you would have persisted she would have been sucking your dic* instead of you writing she is allowed to do later.
So what she 'may' have drinking problems, from one night I am not so quick to jump to that conclusion.
I do think you messed up a potential lay, she wanted it, you did not have the goods to give her what she wanted, you loose buddie.
Don’t worry there are men out there who would have given her what she wanted, it seems you let a little thing like token resistance stop you, women do it, you failed that hurdle, maybe next time when a women is drunk grabs your arm in a club and takes you to a taxi, then gives you some resistance, your will either:
Laugh it off and get in the cab and tell her where your going.
Be firm with her and tell her, she dragged you out of the club, I am interested to see why, so lets go already, sit back, relax, I’ll go half on the taxi fair.
This is the truth of it and this is what happened.
I would not have messed this up, you did!
Hey at least maybe next time you may not.
when will guys get it into there heads that women LOVE sex and they do things to make sure the GET it but the things the do dont normally MAKE SENSE.
On the other hand, she may have wanted you to leave the girl you was with has a ***** type move.
The fact of the matter is, i think she was into you from the start and got drunk, at some stage you messed up and made her put her ***** shield, you got hightened resistance that could have been broken down, you failed, she was simply being a women.
Sounded like she got jelouse of the women you was given attention to, i think this was the moment it went down hill! Maybe your interaction could have been better.
If i am out on a date with a women i would include her in my conversations with other women, or friends not ignore her or in some poeples cases, try to make her see you have options for the sake of it.
Pycho or not i firmly believe your actions where responsible for ALOT of hers, you just failed with know how to react to it.
A man (with confidence and in-charge) would have been fuc*ing that chic* that night as i beleive, actually i know this is how it was shaping up, seems you dont have the goods, yet!
Token resistence is another method they use, it makes it 'your fault' that she ended up having se*, excusing her behaviour.
Think about it this way, what can she tell her mates:
Does she tell her mates:
She went out with a guy on the first date, fancied him and fuc*ed his brains out?
Nope sorry alot of women dont operate that way, thats the mans way.
Instead what a large % of them want is the ability to make it as it was an accident or it was fated or some other cra* anything to take away from her being branded a slu* or some other thing.
In this case.
She can tell her mates.
She got drunk and could not resist your advances as you was cute and her being drunk makes the 'act' not totally her fault and thats the 'key'!
Same thing if you meet a chick in a club, if you come out and tell her you want to take her home and fuc* her brains out, there is a high % she will say no, even if she wants it.
On the other hand if you told her to come back to your place, to look at:
your stamp collection
gold fish
Record collection.
have more drinks and a chat (lame but works better then i want to fuc* you).
E.t.c you dont set of the slu* defence mechanism.
Even the biggest slu*s get slu* defence mechanism, believe it or not.
