*Need Some Advice or Tips* Girlfriend Leaving For School

[darkmenace]

Wow, I have not written here in so f'n long. Last time I wrote here I was a High School Junior during summer before senior year.
Heres a little past history if you wanna catch up: http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=33854

Anyway fastforward from that story, I get back from my trip after 3 weeks, rejuvenated and fresh from messing around with a girl out there. So I come back and basically to make a long story short, me and the "Female DJ" from the story start an LTR.
Were at 9 months right now and gawdamn its going pretty serious. The whole nine with this girl. Put 2 DJ's together (guy and girl) and you got a relationship that is packed with passion and so much emotion, I never saw that coming.

Anyway back to the topic at hand, my girlfriend is leaving to Santa Barbara for college in July (for all those not familiar Santa Barbara is about an hour and half away from Los Angeles).
So she's leaving in a couple of days because school starts in July for her. Were gonna be going from seeing each other almost everyday to basically seeing each other once a week or once every 2 weeks. Pretty crazy.
I'm dont move out there until September (I'm moving to a city 30 minutes away).
Well me an her have this thing about our relationship that we gotta be strong and if we know were gonna last, then we got nothing to worry about. The problem with me is I tend to drift away if I dont get the loving or the attention I really want, She calls for the attention, I just drift if I dont get it.
I know I'm a faithful guy, so I have no plans on cheating on her, none (although temptation happens, but no!!)

My question to you guys out there, how can I make this work. This would be sorta of LDR (long distance relationship) which ****ing kills me inside, because these seem to have nothing but bad news (knock on wood!)
This girl loves me to death, and she does anything in her power to see me, call me, and spend time with me. She's gonna be living in a nice ladys condo, whose renting a room for her. Thank god, so she'll be well protected. She's gonna be busy most of the time (shes going to a really strict photography school). But I'm still wondering how can we make this work.
I will hopefully be working next month gearing up for film school, hanging out with my cousins, some friends, driving out there to see my girlfriend, Im gonna be pretty focused being the DJ that I am

The love is there guys, being a DJ in a relationship is tough but it makes sense, me and this girl make sense, so guys wish me good luck

 

[nw1512]

Mate in goin through a similar situation right now, my gf is going to Europe for 6 months and for the last 2 months Ive been trying to go about it the right way (Not being needy and all that bull****)

My advice is that you have to turn it into a positive thing for your relationship.

Otherwise it just wont work, your both young and you both realise that she will be meeting new people. You need to keep the attracting alive by doing the same thing get out there live life meet new people while she is away.

I'm not saying cheat on her but enjoy the best of both worlds mate, you keep your relationship and you get to keep your freedom cherish it.

The thing is she's moving away from the relationship, always make her work harder for it than you.

At the end of the day it's her life and you have no control over that, In time you will soon she how much you mean to her, it's the ultimate acid test.

And plus it's only an hour and a half away.

Best of luck mate

 

[squirrels]

A long-distance relationship is scarcely a relationship at all. It's just hard to make it work. Especially if one or the other of you is busy all the time. An hour and a half drive isn't bad, but it is each way, on a night where you have to work tomorrow or go to school, etc...you'll probably find yourself less likely to make the trip than you think and that's a lot to ask from her, too.

It might work. But don't let it kill you. If you find that you're putting down a lot of stress over keeping this thing working or if you start feeling like she's trying to back off, you should probably back off yourself.

You're still in high school/early college. You can't count on this girl being "THE ONE" that you're going to end up with. It may happen that way, and you may just totally sync up and everything will be great, but you have to expect that sh!t is going to get f'ed up in this relationship. Don't start stressing yourself and putting up with outlandish BS trying to "make it work," that's all.

BTW...you think she's going to be "protected" from temptation? LOL

 

[darkmenace]

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