Need some advice on how to play my situation

[Zman1]

I met this girl about three weeks ago. It was actually through an internet personals ad. I had sent an email to her two months ago giving her my screename. She contacted me via im on aol saying that I had emailed her a couple months ago and she just now responded.

We started talking online and then on the phone and met in person a couple days after talking. It went well. She told me that she is sick of guys being mean to her and is looking for somebody good. Im thinking to myself ok this is good. We have gotten together about 4 or 5 times since the initial meeting. She told me how she was dating a guy for five years that broke up with her last august, went on telling me that it devastated her but she was over it. She also stated that he was controlling and wouldn’t let her go out with friends and was the jealous type.

Now the girl I am seeing is very busy. She goes to college classes, student teaches during the day, and works as a server at a resturaunt at night.

She emails me usually once a day, but she rarely ever calls me on her own. And when we go out, we hold hands and really click, but it’s only for 1-3 hours each. She says she misses me when I am not around and that she wants to introduce me to her sister and parents this Easter weekend. This past weekend we went out to dinner around 7 pm and had a very good date, and then told me she is going to meet her friends at 10 pm that evening. This caught me off guard.

Now my question is how to play it the rest of the way to get her? Is she testing me?

Help me out guys

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

All in all..it sounds very promising. Dating a girl past 3-4 weeks, meeting her friends, and planning to meet her family in a few weeks....doesn't sound bad or pushy at all.

When she planned to go out with her friends at 10pm after your date with her...was she planning to take you..or was it a last second thing with her and her girls?

Either way...don't sweat the big stuff. Stay confident and keep busy with YOUR things first. Keep in touch with your friends...and hang out with your buddies on a consistent basis as well.

You should have no problem letting the girl want to go out with her friends and have a good time...let her do it...don't be jealous...don't be insecure. At some point in your 'relationship'..she'll ask if you'd like to go out with her and her people...When you go, its a good way to guage the type of friends she hangs out with. Are they all single attention wh*re man bashing friends, or are they the good influence type girls.

Either way, it can be a good indicator of what kind of girl you are dealing with...regardless though...let her do her thing...

It doesn't sound like you guys are exclusive yet...so...go out with the fellas too...find some cute women..and keep your options open...thats what "DATING" is...

 

[christz]

holy light speed batman!

this girl is damaged goods its already apparent by how fast your relationship is moveing, its good that you guys are attracted to each other but slow it down a little bit.

normally when things seem a little to good, they usally are.

as for the friends thing.. how is that a test? she's going to meet up with some friends so what

 

[Maestro Monk]

The initial description of this gal sounded okay, but after reading on, a number of warning buzzers went off in my mind.

Firstly, you said you have known her for three weeks. Her desire to introduce you to her family is a very premature thing to be doing this early in any relationship.

Second, you said that she emails you on a daily basis. What about calling? How often do you guys go out together?

Lastly, she said that she went out with her friends at 10 pm..this would normally be considered acceptable with many, only that in this case it was right after her date with you!! Did she tell you what she was doing? She has made it clear to you that her friends have more priority over you, so you should return the favour by having some social proof around during your next date. If going to a club is your type of thing, plan the night so that other women you know will be there, and will be ready to mix it up with you on the dance floor. Or if this is a little extreme for your methods, just tell her that you have already planned something with your guy friends that next time she arranges a date with you. If you are close with male friends, never forget the importance of their role in your life. Take your situation with this gal casually, and try not to give off the impression that dating her is an important priority in your busy lifestyle just yet. Remember, a DJ is the sought-after prize, who should be pursued by women, not vice-versa.

 

[Zman1]

She did not tell me until we were almost at the resturaunt that she was going out with friends afterward.

Also, the evening before the dinner date I stopped into where she works thats when I asked if she wanted to go out for a bite to eat the next day. She said that she would call me the next afternoon and she did about 3 oclock. She left a message and said it would have to be around seven, which it was. The only thing I called her and left a message, she didnt call me back. I called her back around quarter to seven the evening of our dinnerdate and she said that she had fallen asleep and was on her way to my place. Then her telling me that she was going to go out with her friends afterward happend.

I am thinking I should let her make the next move to set up a date. If not then I know where I stand.

Any suggestions?

 

[romangod]

Originally posted by Zman1
She did not tell me until we were almost at the resturaunt that she was going out with friends afterward.

Also, the evening before the dinner date I stopped into where she works thats when I asked if she wanted to go out for a bite to eat the next day. She said that she would call me the next afternoon and she did about 3 oclock. She left a message and said it would have to be around seven, which it was. The only thing I called her and left a message, she didnt call me back. I called her back around quarter to seven the evening of our dinnerdate and she said that she had fallen asleep and was on her way to my place. Then her telling me that she was going to go out with her friends afterward happend.

I am thinking I should let her make the next move to set up a date. If not then I know where I stand.

Any suggestions?

I suggest you slow things down a bit. You seem too much in a hurry and are not being much of a challenge for her. She knows by now that she has you if she wants you. Time to throw her a curve by not being so readily available and slowing things down a bit. Don't tell her but let your actions speak for themselves. Remember...... You'r the "catch", not her.

 

[Zman1]

Here is an update guys:

I didn't call or make the effort for about a day and half. She called me and said that when I come home she wants me to meet her sister.

Her sister lives and Florida and basically approves/evaluates the guy and gives an honest opinion. Today me, the girl im dating, and her sister met for Pizza. I paid for all three of us and her sister said that next time we all go out I, meaning her, will pay. I then said, well this means you approve of me huh?

So all is going well with my busy girl! I will update further