Need some advice from you guys

[RaZoR]

Some chick has been ignoring me and stuff, what should I do?

It's a girl from my college that i knew last semester. I didn't really talk to her much , except once or twice. Anyway, at the beggining of this semester, I actually saw her on the first day as I was waiting for a class. As she was coming down i was surprised she greeted me and so forth and we chatted for a bit. She asked me questions like if I was waiting for a class she had.

I think it's great and all but come to the realization that I have to start asking her the appropriate questions.

So then a few days later I see her again and I say hello to her......she ignores me....she sorta gave me this weak, cold, unenthuastiastic had movement thing. All I could think of was "Was this not the person who greeted me so warmly the other day?" No big deal I thought, maybe she had a bad day or whatever, as I didn't do or say anything previously to have her angry with me. So then a few days later again as I'm heading to the bathroom, she comes down the hallway. I try to make eye contact with her and am about to say hi when conveniently she happens to look to the right.......I start to wonder what is up at this point. Now she does appear to be a shy type, but, find it strange she would go suddenly quite after we've talked before.

The last incident was on Valentines day. She had balloons and chocolate and was being accompanied to class by this guy I know. I don't think they are together because I've never seen them hold hands or kiss or anything. Needles to say, I've talked to this dumbass before and found him as exciting as the guy from the clear eye's commercial, win ben stein or whatever his name is.

Since then, I've seen her a few times, but, I don't even bother to look at her or attempt to talk, quite frankly, I can careless. I don't feel the need to waste my time, especially when I can get so many other chicks should I happen to care. I'm not set out to try to please her, I'm out to satisfy ME and if some girl isn't appreciative of me, that's her problem, someone else out there will. And of course, i've been talkign to other chicks in the meantime.

I guess what I'm saying is, is this chick even worth it? Do you guys think she is testing me or just being a plain old *****? I do like her, but, don't think she is worth my time if she's going to pull this stuff

Thanks for hearing me out people, any input is appreciated



*Thread edited to put your details in the initial post... the thread was almost deleted until I read through it. Check the sticky at the top of the forum to see why.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Be blunt and ask her out - only then will you be at rest!

 

[Yuriy777]

if this girl didn't ignore you before (you did know her before now?) then just play hard to get worse come to worse she won't be interested and you wouldn't have wasted any time and effort. I would also suggest that you find another girl at least for the mean time for 2 reasons. to keep yourself occupied and this might also make her jelous.

If i may bore you for a min:
a good friend of mine was in a relationship with this girl he made the normal AFC mistakes and she got bored and walked back to her ex. still stayed friends with him (for the attention she got from him) (you should have at least heard of girls like this. there are plenty of them mentioned here and there). i forced him to comb sosuave, learn, and then i took him out to meet a few new girls. while we were out she called him he promptly told her he couldn't talk cause he was out with me picking up a few new girls and had to go. I saw her about 2 days later at her job (waitress where i eat) and she sat down and flirted with me for like 2 hours. i wasn't biting and just talked about how gorgeous these 2 girls that me and my friend picked up when we were out that we were supposed to get together later on that week with them. after baiting her for like an hour i left. she now can't get enough of my friend, practically throwing herself at him. with my advise he's still playing it cool and as far as i can tell he isn't planning to "go back out with her" maybe date, but nothing more (i gave him advice to not do that because of the girl (AW and CF)).

Maybe some of that nonsense cleared up a thing or two for you.

 

[DJDamage]

Since then, I've seen her a few times, but, I don't even bother to look at her or attempt to talk, quite frankly, I can careless. I don't feel the need to waste my time, especially when I can get so many other chicks should I happen to care. I'm not set out to try to please her, I'm out to satisfy ME and if some girl isn't appreciative of me, that's her problem, someone else out there will. And of course, i've been talkign to other chicks in the meantime.

I guess what I'm saying is, is this chick even worth it? Do you guys think she is testing me or just being a plain old *****? I do like her, but, don't think she is worth my time if she's going to be stupid.

Sounds like you still care and are controdicting yourself in the following paragraphs. You are waiting for her to be nice again, that is the problem.

It looks like she is uncomfertable being around you for whatever reason. Don't worry about her and go chase other women. She is not testing you, she couldn't care less if you are alive or not. She is being childish about it which is not a good quality to have.

Just ignore her like you never met her. She is not interested in you.

 

[cave dweller]

move..........

Hey,

Forget her and move on.

She is not interested in you.


cave dweller

 

[RaZoR]

Yeah, I figured that DJ, which is why I'm talking to other women as we speak (Who are recipirocal!)

I guess I can see where you can say it's contradictorary, but, I worded it wrong. She is pretty and all that and I WOULD'VE liked to date her, but, I've done my part. If she wants anything to do with me, she can come to me, I am done.......I did my part or tried to anyway, the rest is up to her...........I have others so i'm not worried.

And yes, you're right, she is obviously childish about it. It's just funny that one day she comes up to all nice and talkative, then the next day won't even say hi to me......talk about a nutcase!

 

[Kaine]

When I first read your post, I was pretty sure people were going to lay into you.

If she wants anything to do with me, she can come to me, I am done.......I did my part or tried to anyway

I don't see that've done much at all. What part is that? In fact she initiated first contact.

It's a girl from my college that i knew last semester. I didn't really talk to her much , except once or twice.

This is a post about a girl you've TALKED to, TWICE. You don't need to wonder why she is ignoring you, you haven't even had a date. There's no games here, games suggest a higher modicum of interest then you give yourself the benefit off.

You are blinded by your arrogance

Girls won't chase you for nothing you need to make her chase you


Kaine

 

[RaZoR]

Kaine,

when I said 2, it wasn't meant to be taken literally. I have talked to her more then twice, but not an everyday thing. I guess I should've been more specific.

Secondly, I didn't tell the whole story. I know she used to like me because she used to ask me a bunch of questions if I had a girlfriend and stuff out of the blue, but, at the time i was seeing someone else. I used to make her laugh all the time and she used to always be around me. I have known her since last september..........

she probably just got tired of waiting now that I think of it.....I can't blame her if that's the case

 

[Trance]

With all that briefing about the situation, my advice is:


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[RaZoR]

Trance, totally off topic, but where are you in portugal? I am from there, I was born in Coimbra

 

[Mojo604]

Razor...Im in like the exact same situation...its damn weird- when I was reading your posts, was like as if I made them ha... Anyways... in my case, the girl liked me... but I was so clueless back then that I wasnt picking up on any of her signals ... She would initiate contact a lot, and I would just play along and would never make a move ... (we always considered eachother friends..we didnt know eachother That well though) So I just thought she was being friendly. But from her perspective, she was making all these moves and getting no reaction back. She eventually gave up- either thinkin that I was either; 1.gay, 2. rejected her, 3. was clueless, dumb, -not worthy as a bf. or something... and the reason I was 'clueless' was because back then I was a spineless AFC that could never ever imagine a nice hb 7.5 actually liking me. im sure your better than that though lol
She goes to my college, I see her around all the time, but theres nothing there anymore. by the time I realized what had just happened with her, it was too late and she just told me to download a song from some chick... the lyrics prety much said it all... "blah blah im moving on, blah i dont wanna be the one to chase you blahblahblah, im so moving on"
aaanyways... similar situation, just thought i'd share a bit.

Good thing I found sosuave.com I hate the old me. Ive been preaching the Bible to some of my friends now...hoping they will also see the light

 

[RaZoR]

haha yeah mojo i know what you mean. Believe it or not man, I used to be worse. Back when I was in highschool, I was really bad, but, mostly because I just didn't care about chicks altogether.....funny how girls pretty much threw themselves about me then. I remember one instance where this girls friends kept interrogating me asking me if i had a girlfriend and even one time they told me to go "sit next to my girlfriend", ie her, I thought they were just joking.......

Yeah, like you, I try helping people out with girl problems. I know what's it like and it's very sad....I wish a lot of people out there could just find someone and be happy or whatever. Hopefully people who read this post, if they are in the same situation now or the situation will present itself in the future, they will make amends before it's too late like in my case.

Yeah, exactly the same thing as your situation. Before she used to be happy and smiling around me and now she just goes about her business. It sucks I guess, but it's the way things turned out. What's done is done,we must continue to look toward the future

 

[Tha Realnezz]

It's usually lack of interest.

You should focus on her bodylanguage.

Sometimes they will try to ig you but will you give you inviting body language..go figure,huh?